Ndi zinthu zochepa m’moyo zimene zili zofunika kwambiri moti sitigona nazo tulo. Komabe, chifukwa chotanganidwa kwambiri ndi moyo watsiku ndi tsiku, timasintha zosafunikira kukhala zodetsa nkhawa kwambiri. Timasokoneza zachangu ndi zofunika. Timakwiya ndi zinthu zazing’ono zomwe mwezi wamawa tidzaziiwala. Sitichedwa kupsa mtima. Timakwiya tikadabwa pang'ono ndipo timapanikizika ndi kupanikizika pang'ono.
Mwambiri, kukokomeza kwamalingaliro kotereku kumachitika chifukwa choti timaganizira kwambiri zinthu. Sitingathe kusamalira mtunda wamaganizidwe zofunikira kuti tiwone zomwe zikuchitika kwa ife. Pachifukwa chimenechi, phunziro limodzi lofunika kwambiri limene lingatithandize kukhala ndi mtendere wamumtima m’moyo ndi kuona zinthu mopepuka, osachita zinthu mwachiphamaso.
Khalani mopepuka
Tonsefe timakhala ndi chizolowezi chofuna kuwongolera zomwe zimachitika mdera lathu. Kupyolera mu ulamuliro timayesa kukwaniritsa chosowa chathu cha chitetezo. Komabe, popeza zam'mbuyo sizingasinthidwe komanso zam'tsogolo n'zovuta, malingaliro olamulira amenewa amangowonjezera nkhawa ndi nkhawa, zomwe zimawonjezera moyo wotopetsa kale.
Zoonadi, m’dziko limene likuipiraipirabe, lodzala ndi masoka ndi mavuto, lokhala ndi nkhani zovutitsa maganizo nthaŵi zonse, maganizo oipa ndi mkwiyo wosalamulirika, tifunikira mwamsanga kuphunzira kuyenda ndi kuleka kuchitapo kanthu kuti tiyendetse bwino dziko lathu lamkati.
Italo Calvino anali ndi mankhwala: kukhala moyo wopepuka. Anati: “Mupepukitse moyo, kuti kupepuka sikuli kungoyang’ana chabe, koma kuyandama pa zinthu zochokera kumwamba, osakhala ndi miyala m’mitima mwanu.”
Kupepuka kumakhala ndi "kuchotsa kulemera" kuchokera ku chithunzithunzi cha zenizeni. Kuphunzira kupatsa chilichonse malo oyenera m'miyoyo yathu, koma koposa zonse, kumafuna kusaunjikira zokhumudwitsa, nkhawa ndi maudindo a ena.
Kuona zinthu mopepuka sikutanthauza kungoyang'ana chabe, koma kusiya kuganiza mozama kwambiri. Lekani kupanga namondwe mu kapu ya tiyi. Iwalani masewero. Tangoganizani kuti si zonse zomwe zili zaumwini. Lolani mkwiyo, chisoni, kapena kukhumudwa kupitirire mpaka adzichepetse.
Kukhala wopepuka kumatanthauzanso kupanga mtendere ndi iwe wekha. Lekani kukhala woweruza wathu wankhanza ndi kuyamba kudzichitira tokha mokoma mtima. Kumaphatikizapo kudzikhululukira tokha. Dzimasuleni tokha ku zovuta zamalingaliro zomwe nthawi zina timadzikakamiza kunyamula. Kupepuka ndi mpumulo komanso kudzisamalira m'dziko lomwe limatikakamiza kukhala opsinjika nthawi zonse komanso kupezeka kwa ena.
Kukhala mopepuka kumatanthauza kudziwa kufutukula nthawi. Kusokoneza kuyenda kwa moyo komwe kumatisiya opanda mpweya. Bweretsaninso nthawi yomwe imakhala mkati, ndikuisintha kukhala chakudya cha moyo ndi mtima. Dziperekeni mwachangu kwa ife tokha, koma osadzitengera tokha mozama kwambiri, kukhala ndi malo osewerera komanso achidwi kwa ife tokha.
Kukhala mopepuka kumatanthauzanso kukhalanso ndi “ego” wathu kuti tiwuluke m’mwamba, ndi gulu lathanzi limene limatilola kudutsa m’masautso popanda kuvulazidwa. Ndiko kutha kuzindikira zobisika komanso zofunika ngakhale mukukumana ndi zowawa kuti mukhazikitsenso zofunikira. Ndikupezanso kukoma kwa kudabwa ndi kumwetulira, kwa ophweka komanso kwa banal.
Ntchito yophunzirira kutenga zinthu mopepuka ndikusiya mpirawo
Zochita zosavuta kwambiri kuti tiyambe kuchotsa kulemera komwe kumatitchinga ndikulingalira kapena kujambula thumba lakuda. Chikwama chimenecho chikuyimira zinthu zonse zomwe timanyamula, nkhawa zonse, maudindo, mantha, kusatetezeka, zokhumudwitsa ...
Tiyenera kudzifunsa kuti: Kodi ndi zinthu ziti zomwe zimatidetsa kwambiri m’moyo? N’chifukwa chiyani timawanyamula pamapewa athu? Kodi tingatulutse chiyani m’chikwamacho kuti tikhale ndi moyo wabwino, tikhale osangalala, kapena kuti tikhutiritsidwe?
Kenako, tikhoza kulemba mndandanda polekanitsa zomwe zathu ndi zomwe tingabwere nazo, monga zoyembekezera za ena, zofuna mopambanitsa za dziko lakunja ndi zitsenderezo za anthu.
Tikatero tidzatha kudzimasula tokha katundu wamalingaliro zomwe, m'malo mokhala zothandiza, zimatilepheretsa komanso zimatisokoneza. Sitingakhale nthenga, koma titha kukhala opepuka. Ndipo kuchotsa kulemera kochuluka kumeneko kungakhale kwa thanzi kwa thupi ndi maganizo.
Pakhomo Luso lokhala ndi moyo mopepuka popanda kukhala wachiphamaso idasindikizidwa koyamba mu Pakona ya Psychology.
