Buku la Russ Harris "The Happiness Trap" mwina ndi limodzi mwazabwino kwambiri 5 zomwe ndawerengapo zaka 2 zapitazi. Ndi yosavuta, yasayansi, yothandiza komanso yosangalatsa. Ndi za chisangalalo, ndi zolakwa zomwe anthu ambiri - mwa chikhulupiriro chabwino - amapanga poyesa kuzithamangitsa.
Mawonekedwe amadzimadzi komanso okopa omwe amakupangitsani kukhala pachiwopsezo chowerenga mwachangu kwambiri. Buku m'malo mwake lomwe likufunika kusangalatsidwa, mitu 33 yoti muwerenge tsiku lililonse mwina chifukwa chilichonse chili ndi zofunikira komanso zosavuta (zomwe sizikutanthauza kuti ndizosavuta) zowunikira ndi zolimbitsa thupi kuti zigayidwe, yesani ndikuyesanso kuti muwone momwe ubale wathu ndi maganizo ndi maganizo.
Tiyeni tsopano tiwone zinthu zitatu zomwe ndasiya m'bukuli:
1. Msampha wachimwemwe
Aliyense amakonda kumva bwino, ndipo mosakayikira tiyenera kupindula kwambiri ndi zosangalatsa zikadzuka. Koma ngati timayesetsa kukhala nazo nthawi zonse, timalephera poyamba ndipo timalowa mumsampha wachimwemwe. Chifukwa moyo umaphatikizansopo ululu, ndipo palibe njira yozipeŵera: ndithudi, kungatanthauze kupeŵa mbali ya ife eni.
M’malo mwake, tiyenera kuzindikira kuti posachedwapa tonsefe tidzafooka, kudwala ndi kufa. Posachedwapa tonse tidzataya maubwenzi ofunika chifukwa cha kukanidwa, kupatukana kapena kuferedwa; posakhalitsa tonse tidzakumana ndi zovuta, zokhumudwitsa ndi zolephera. Tonse tidzakhala ndi zowawa mwanjira ina ndipo msampha wa chimwemwe umamangidwa pamene mukuyesera kupewa kapena kulamulira ululu umenewu ndipo makamaka zomwe ziri zosasangalatsa zomwe mumamva.
Zoona zake n’zakuti, tikamayesetsa kupewa kapena kuchotsa maganizo oipa, timayambanso kugwirizana nawo kwambiri. Chotsalira choti muchite ndicho kuphunzira kuthana nawo bwino, kuwapezera malo. Ndipo zonse zimayamba ndi kuvomereza ...
2. Landirani
Bukhuli lili ndi njira zambiri zovomerezera malingaliro ndi malingaliro, zomwe ifenso nthawi zambiri timayesa molakwika kusintha, kuchotsa ndi kutsutsa. Kuvomereza sikutanthauza kuti muyenera kuwakonda, samalani, koma kuti musiye kumenyana nawo, kuwononga mphamvu zanu, kuwapereka m'malo mwa chinthu china chothandiza.
Yang'anani pozungulira ndikundiuza ... anthu amachita chiyani? Amadzisefutsa ndi kudzitopetsa poyesa kulamulira ndi kulimbana ndi phokoso la m’mutu mwake (lotchedwanso maganizo) ndi mmene amakhudzira thupi lake (maganizo), kwinaku akutayiratu chinthu chimodzi chimene angathe kuchilamulira. kanthu? Zochita. Tiyenera kuganizira kwambiri zimenezi, pa zochita zimene zimatithandiza kupititsa patsogolo moyo wathu m’njira imene ili yofunika kwambiri kwa ife. Mukangovomereza, mutha kuyamba ndikuchitapo kanthu. Osati zochita zilizonse, koma zomwe zimagwirizana ndi zomwe mumayendera. Ndi chiyani?
3. Makhalidwe VS Zolinga
Gawo lofunika kwambiri la bukhuli ndi kuphunzira mozama pa nkhani ya zikhulupiriro komanso momwe tingakhazikitsire moyo wathu polumikizana nawo. Tanthauzo la mtengo nthawi zambiri limasokonezedwa ndi cholinga. Phindu ndi njira yomwe timafuna kupita patsogolo nthawi zonse, njira yomwe siyimafika kumapeto. Mwachitsanzo, chikhumbo chofuna kukhala bwenzi lachikondi ndi lachikondi ndi mtengo, womwe umapitirirabe moyo wonse.
Cholinga, kumbali ina, ndi zotsatira zomwe mukufuna kuti zitheke kapena kutsirizidwa. Kulowa m'banja ndi cholinga ndipo mukachikwaniritsa mukhoza kudumpha pamndandanda. Ndikofunikira kuyang'ana kwambiri zomwe timafunikira ndikulumikizana nazo, chifukwa zolinga ziyenera kufotokozedwa kuyambira pano: kuchokera pazomwe zili zamtengo wapatali kwa inu, zomwe zimapereka phindu ku moyo wanu. Komabe, nthawi zambiri, anthu amatanthauzira zolinga zawo popanda kumvetsera zomwe amakhulupirira, ndipo izi zimawatsogolera pakapita nthawi kumva kuti akuthamanga mozungulira, okhumudwa komanso opanda chilimbikitso.
Buku loti ndiwerenge, linandipangitsa kuti ndipeze ACT, yomwe ndi njira yochiritsira yatsopano yozikidwa pamalingaliro, yomwe cholinga chake ndi kukulitsa kusinthasintha kwamaganizidwe komwe kumakupatsani mwayi wogonjetsa mphindi zovuta ndikukhala moyo womwe ulipo mokwanira komanso wokhutiritsa.
Maulalo Ogwiritsa:
- Kuti mugule buku la Russ Harris "The Happiness Trap", dinani apa pa ulalo: http://amzn.to/2y7adkQ
- Lowani pagulu langa la Facebook "Books for the Mind" komwe timasinthana maupangiri, malingaliro ndi kuwunika pa Psychology ndi mabuku okula: http://bit.ly/2tpdFaX
L'articolo Msampha wa Chimwemwe - Mabuku a Malingaliro zikuwoneka kuti ndizoyamba Katswiri wazamisala waku Milan.
