Lero tikambirana nzeru zam'maganizo: yodziwika kwambiri kwa buku la Goleman logulitsa kwambiri, ndi kuthekera kogwirizana kwambiri ndi momwe mukumvera ndikuzigwiritsa ntchito kukonza moyo wanu ndipo ndi luso lomwe lingaphunzitsidwe pakadali pano kuti tikulitse pakapita nthawi.
Chifukwa chake tiyeni tiwone zikuwonetsa kuti tigwiritse ntchito kuti tikhale malamba akuda.
1. Chitani masewera olimbitsa thupi
Gawo loyamba ndikulimbitsa thupi lanu kukhazikika kwamalingaliro. Ndi chiyani? Chabwino, ndikufotokozerani motere: Anthu anzeru samangonena kuti "Ndikumva bwino", koma amasiyanitsa pakati pa osangalala, okondwa, osangalala komanso odabwitsa, Mwachidule, amangoyang'ana mbali zosiyanasiyana zakumverera. akumva.
Lingaliro ndilakuti ngati mungathe kusiyanitsa matanthauzo abwino mkati mwa classic "Ndikumva bwino”(Wokondwa, wokhutira, wokondwa, womasuka, wachimwemwe, chiyembekezo, wolimbikitsidwa, wonyada, wopembedza, woyamikira,…); kapena ngati ungapeze mithunzi makumi asanu "Wonyansidwa”(Wokwiya, wolemedwa, wodandaula, wokhumudwa, wopsa mtima, wokwiya, wamantha, wansanje, wowawa, wosasangalala,…); ndiye ubongo wanu Angakhale ndi zosankha zambiri pakulosera, kugawa magawo ndi kuzindikira momwe akumvera.
Anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lakusawoneka bwino amatha kukumana ndi mavuto am'maganizo komanso umunthu. Kuphatikiza pa kuti pocheperako mumatha kusiyanitsa bwino momwe mumamvera, simudzatha kuthana ndi mavuto am'malingaliro mwanjira yomanga: ngati lingaliro lokhalo lokhumudwa lomwe muli nalo ndi "sindinamve bwino"Mudzagwiritsa ntchito njira zopanda ntchito kuthana nazo, koma ngati mungathe kusiyanitsa zachilendo"sindinamve bwino"kuchokera ku"Ndimamva kukhala ndekha", Kenako mudzatha kuthana ndi vutoli, mwachitsanzo pakuimbira foni mnzanu.
Kukula kwamaganizidwe ndi chida choyamba kuwonjezera nzeru zathu. Ngati mukufuna kuphunzira zambiri, ndikupangira kuwerenga buku la Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett "Momwe Maganizo Amapangidwira" (mu Chingerezi) chidwi chachikulu.
Chifukwa chake, mukutenga nthawi kusiyanitsa momwe mumamvera ndipo mukupita patsogolo kuchokera ku lamba loyera "sindinamve bwino"Ku lamba wakuda"Ndine wokhumudwa kwambiri". Nthawi yopita ku mulingo wotsatira, mwakonzeka?
2. Mtanthauzira mawu
Mtanthauzira mawu akhoza kukuthandizani kukulitsa luntha lamalingaliro chifukwa kuphunzira mawu ambiri okhudzana ndi dziko lamaganizidwe ndichinsinsi chakuzindikira mbali Ndimanena za m'mbuyomu. Mwina simunaganizepo kuti kuphunzira mawu atsopano kungakhale njira yokhayo yolimbikitsira thanzi. Komabe zimachokera chilankhulo Kuti mumvetsetse kuti malingaliro anu, malingaliro anu, malingaliro anu amabadwa: sndi mawu omwe mumagwiritsa ntchito kuwongolera zoneneratu za dziko lapansi kapena momwe mungagawire mphamvu zanu ndi zoyembekeza zanu. Titha kunena kuti awa zimakhudza momwe mumamvera.
Simukuyenera kukhala katswiri wa Chikumbu kuti mukhale ozindikira, musamale, koma ndikofunikira kukhala moyang'anizana ndi momwe mumamvera ndikucheza nawo kuti musiyanitse ndikuwatchula. Ndiye kodi ndinu okwiya, okwiya, okwiya kapena osintha? Zindikirani momwe mukumvera, lowani mkati mwawo kuti muphunzire kumva ma nuances mwa malingaliro osiyanasiyana.
Kodi mungatani ngati dikishonare sinapeze mawu oyenera kufotokoza ndikulemba momwe mumamvera? Palibe vuto, tiyeni tiwone ndi mfundo yotsatira.
3. Pangani zatsopano
Mfundo yachitatu komaliza ndi "pangani malingaliro atsopano". Maganizo ali ponseponse, koma aliyense wa ife ayenera kuganizira za ubale wake wapadera ndi iwo ndipo izi zitha kuthandiza kwambiri kukulitsa nzeru zamunthu. Ngati simupereka fayilo ya Nthano ku chinthu chomwe simungathe kuchigawa ndi mawu omwe alipo kale, ubongo wanu umakankhira ndikuuponyera pamulu "wosiyana". Izi siziyenera kuchitika, makamaka ngati ndikumverera komwe mumakumana nako pafupipafupi. Chifukwa chake yesetsani kupanga zoyeserera ndiku tchulani malingaliro amenewo.
Ndikukumbutsidwa za ntchito yotsatsa kuyambira kale, pomwe malingaliro atsopano adapangidwa, mwachitsanzo "chiyembekezo", "kukhumba", "mantha", ... Lingaliro likugwirizana ndendende ndi zomwe ndikukuwuzani: perekani dzina lopangidwa kuzomverera zathu zapadera.
Ngati mukufuna kuzipangitsa kukhala zenizeni, mutha kugawana nawo zakumalako. Mwachitsanzo, uzani mnzanu dzina lakumverera kwapadera komwe amakupatsani. Kupatula apo, mawu oti "chisangalalo" ndi "chisoni" ndi malingaliro omangika: amakhala enieni chifukwa tidagwirizana nawo ndi ena. Ngakhale madola ndimakona ang'onoang'ono a pepala lobiriwira, mpaka tsiku lina aliyense adzavomereza kuti ali ndi phindu linalake kenako amakhala wamtengo wapatali.
Tawona malingaliro amomwe angakulitsire luntha lam'maganizo. Si njira yokhayo, musadandaule, koma m'malingaliro mwanga pali zokambirana zochepa kwambiri za njira zitatuzi ndipo ndimafuna kuwadziwitsa. Kwa onse omwe adawerenga nkhaniyi pakadali pano ndikufuna kuthokoza koona ndikunena kuti mukagawana ndi anzanu ndikumva woyamikira! Eeh, nayi malingaliro omwe ndidapanga kuti ndifotokoze a kusakanikirana pakati pa kuthokoza ndi kunyada!
Kuti mugule buku la "Momwe malingaliro amapangidwira" a Barrett, dinani apa: https://amzn.to/2LCantq
Lowani maphunziro anga akulera kwaulere apa: http://bit.ly/Crescita
L'articolo Nzeru zam'mutu: machitidwe atatu kuti awonjezere zikuwoneka kuti ndizoyamba Katswiri wazamisala waku Milan.
