Mphamvu nthawi zonse zimaonedwa kuti ndi khalidwe labwino. Kukhala wamphamvu m'moyo kumagwirizana ndi kukhazikika, kupirira ndi kulinganiza maganizo. Mosakayikira, tonsefe timafuna kukhala amphamvu. Ndipotu moyo umatiphunzitsa kukhala ndipo ndi luso limene tiyenera kulikulitsa. Koma nthawi zina timatengeka kwambiri ndi udindo wa "mphamvu" kotero kuti timadzikakamiza tokha kupitirira malire athu. Nthawi zina kukhala wamphamvu kumatisokoneza. Pachifukwa ichi tiyenera kuphunzira kukhala amphamvu m'moyo, koma tiyeneranso kuphunzira kuyima, kupuma kapena kupuma.
Pali nthawi yogwira ndi nthawi yosiya
Mu 2020, katswiri wochita masewera olimbitsa thupi padziko lonse lapansi kasanu Simone Biles adadabwitsa aliyense atasiya kuchita nawo mpikisano ku Tokyo Olimpiki. Ngakhale adakwanitsa kulowa m'magulu anayi omaliza, adati sadalinso chidaliro komanso "Sanafune kupita kunja kukachita zopusa ndikuvulazidwa." Ananenanso kuti ayenera kuika patsogolo thanzi lake la maganizo. "Tiyenera kuteteza malingaliro ndi matupi athu osati kungochita zomwe dziko likufuna kuti tichite," Iye anati.
A Jacinda Ardern, Prime Minister waku New Zealand, nayenso adasiya ntchito dzulo. Pachigamulo chosazolowereka pazandale, adavomereza kuti: "Ndikusiya chifukwa udindo wapamwambawu umaphatikizapo maudindo. Udindo wodziwa nthawi yomwe ndiwe woyenera kulamulira komanso pomwe suli. Ndikudziwa chomwe ntchito iyi ikukhudza. Ndipo ndikudziwa kuti ndilibe mphamvu zokwanira kuti ndipitirize kumuchitira chilungamo. Ndizomwezo!"
Zitsanzo zawo zikadali zosowa m'dziko la anthu olemekezeka ndipo palibe kusowa kwa otsutsa kuti abwerere, koma chowonadi ndi chakuti nthawi zina pamafunika kulimba mtima kuti asiye kusiyana ndi kugwira. Nthawi zina sitiyenera kungophunzira kukhala amphamvu, komanso kuwonetsa kusatetezeka kwathu. Chifukwa chakuti nzeru yeniyeni ndi kuchita zinthu moyenerera zimaphatikizapo kudziŵa kuti pali nthaŵi ya kukana ndi nthaŵi yoleka.
Kulemera kwa kukhala wamphamvu m'malingaliro
Kukhala wamphamvu m’moyo kungakhale chizindikiro chimene timadziŵikitsa nacho, dzina limene tapatsidwa kwa ife, kapenanso “chigoba” chimene timavala nacho chimene timagwirizana ndi ena ndi ife eni. Pamene taphunzira kukhala amphamvu m'maganizo, lingaliro la kusiya kapena kulephera silimadutsa m'maganizo mwathu, kotero tikhoza kuyembekezera zambiri mwa ife tokha, mpaka titatha mphamvu ndi mphamvu, mwakuthupi ndi m'maganizo.
Kukhala wamphamvu m'moyo nthawi zambiri kumatanthauza kuwonetsa mphamvu yomwe mulibe kapena kulephera kufotokoza ululu momwe timafunira. Nthawi zambiri zimaphatikizanso kuteteza ena, ngakhale ku mantha anu komanso kusatetezeka kwanu.
M'malo mwake, nthawi zambiri anthu amphamvu kwambiri amakhala mzati wa mabanja awo, gulu lantchito kapena abwenzi. Ena amazindikira kulimba mtima kwawo ndikuwapatsa udindowo, nthawi zambiri popanda chilolezo.
Ndi zachilendo kuti munthu akakhala wamphamvu komanso wosasunthika, amakhala wokonzeka kuthana ndi mavuto ndipo amakhala opambana pothana ndi zovuta. Atanena izi, ena amayamba kupereka kwa iye kasamalidwe kazovuta zawo. Iwo amaona ngati kuti n’chinthu chachibadwa, kuti n’koyenera kudziikira okha mtolo wa mavuto ndi mavuto awo.
Chifukwa cha zimenezi, anthu amphamvu m’maganizo amatha kunyamula katundu wolemera kwambiri pamapewa awo, chifukwa mavuto awo ndi kusatetezeka kwawo kumawonjezereka ndi za ena.
Inde, palibe cholakwika ndi mphamvu imeneyo kutipanga ife kukhala mzati wa ena, malinga ngati tingathe kutenga udindo umenewo. Anthu ena amatha kuthana ndi zovuta komanso kuthana ndi mavuto, zomwe zimawapangitsa kukhala opambana kuposa ena.
Komabe, ngakhale anthu amphamvu amatopa. Nthaŵi zina sangakwanitse kukwaniritsa udindo umenewo, koma ngakhale zili choncho, ena amayembekezera kuti iwo apitirizebe kutero, ngakhale zitawononga thanzi lawo la maganizo kapena lakuthupi. Panthawi imeneyo, mphamvu imakhala nkhani.
Zinthu zimakhala zovuta kwambiri pamene woyang'anira mavuto - aakulu kapena ang'onoang'ono - amatha kuyitanidwa kuti atenge udindo wake, zomwe zimamupangitsa kudzimva kuti ndi wolakwa ngati akutsutsa kapena kukana kutero. Pakali pano enawo amamaliza mwa kutenga malo abwino kwambiri, pafupifupi achibwana, akumakana mbali ya ulamuliro wawo ndi udindo wawo.
Ngati munthuyo alibe mphamvu zosiya ntchito yake ndikunena kuti "zakwanira!", ndiye kuti amatha kupsa.
Kuswa nkhungu
Mu maubwenzi ndi munthu wamphamvu maganizo, nthawi zambiri pamakhala zinthu zosokoneza. "Amphamvu" amenewo amatha kukhala chida cha ambiri - nthawi zambiri mosadziwa. Choncho bwalo loyipa limapangidwa. Zomwe zimasintha zimangosintha pamene munthuyo satha kuzitenganso ndipo amakumana ndi zowonongeka zomwe zimawalepheretsa pamaso pa ena kuti asapitirize kutenga udindo umenewo.
Komabe, kuti mupewe kusweka, muyenera kudziwa momwe mungasinthire kale. Muyenera kudziwa kuti aliyense, ngakhale amphamvu kwambiri m'malingaliro, ali ndi ufulu wopuma, kuchita mantha komanso osadziwa choti achite, kufotokoza zakukhosi kwanu, kukhala wopupuluma, kugwa, kupuma ndi kupuma. Chifukwa, potsirizira pake, aliyense ayenera kukhala ndi udindo wa chimwemwe chake. Ndipo ngati tili amphamvu kwambiri, udindo umenewo udzatifooketsa, mkati ndi kunja.
Pakhomo Kukhala wamphamvu m'moyo, "contraindications" kuti palibe amene angakuuzeni idasindikizidwa koyamba mu Pakona ya Psychology.
