ʻAʻohe o mākou e kānalua i ka pilina ma waena makuahine a me kāna keiki kāne mea nui loa mau. ʻO kēia ma ke kūlohelohe, no laila e ʻōlelo, he ʻoiaʻiʻo. No laila, paʻakikī i nā makuakāne loaʻa i ko lākou wahi i kēia binomial, keu hoʻi i nā mahina mua o ke ola o ka pēpē. Eia nō naʻe, i ka nui o nā makahiki o nā keiki, hoʻonui ka neʻe a me ka ʻike il papā lilo ia i mea nui a nui aku a ke hoʻokani nei i ke kuleana nui.
A i ʻole ma ka liʻiliʻi, ka hapa nui o ka manawa. No ka mea aia kekahi keiki i, ma 3, 4 a i ʻole 5 mau makahiki, noi lākou iā māmā no nā mea āpau a hōʻole lākou i ka loaʻa ʻole o ke kōkua makua. Pehea ʻoe e hiki ai e pane aku ai i ke alo o kēia hana a pehea e hiki ai hoʻololi iā ia?
ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, hoʻokahi ʻoiaʻiʻo ka mea paʻa: inā kāhea mau kā mākou poʻe keiki iā mākou he mau makuahine kōkua ʻia, inā paha no ka ʻimi no kahi mea pāʻani nalo a i ʻole no ka hōʻoluʻolu ma hope o ka hāʻule ʻana, a laila ʻaʻole wale ko mākou ahonui e hōʻea i ka palena akā ʻo ka makua kāne hoʻi, no ka mea manaʻo lākou hōʻole ʻia a keu ʻole. Hoʻohui, hiki i kēia mau mea āpau ke hopena maikaʻi ʻole i ka pilina.
He hōʻike: "Māmā, aloha au iā ʻoe ma mua o ka makuakāne"
Ua haʻi mai kahi makuahine iā mākou kou ike pololei ma kēia pilikia.
“Pono wau e noʻonoʻo nui e pili ana i kēia mau lā kaʻu kaikamahine ʻehā makahiki ua hāwanawana ʻo ia iaʻu: "Mama, aloha nui au iā ʻoe ma mua o ka makuakāne". Ua loaʻa ʻo ia iaʻu ma ka kiaʻi ʻole. Ua makemake wau e pale koke i kaʻu kāne a haʻi iā ia ʻaʻole pono ʻo ia e ʻōlelo i kēlā mea, no ka mea aloha nō ʻo makuakāne iā ia. Akā ʻaʻole wau i hana, no ka mea he mea maoli kēlā iā ia a ʻaʻole hiki iaʻu ke pale aku iā ia e like me kēlā. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ua noʻonoʻo ia iaʻu no ke aha ʻo ia i ʻōlelo ai. "
"I loko o ko mākou hale, kāhea pinepine nā keiki ʻelua iā māmā. No ka mea aia ʻo mama ma laila. ʻOiai ʻo kaʻu kāne wale nō me nā keiki i ke kakahiaka a lawe iā lākou i ke kula a me ka papa māla i ka ʻauinalā aohe i ko lakou wa kaawale. Akā, pāʻani mākou i nā pāʻani, heluhelu i nā moʻolelo, komo i nā puzzles a me ka hoʻolaha nā hana ʻē aʻe. E hoʻi wale ana ʻo Pāpā no ka ʻaina ahiahi a ma mua pono o ka hiamoe ʻana. "
Ka ikaika o ka maʻamau
"No laila, i kēlā me kēia manawa manawaleʻa e pono ai i kahi lima makua e kōkua iā ia, ʻo ka lima hilinaʻi o ka makuahine e ma waho o ka maʻa maʻamau Kāhea ʻia ʻo ia ke kokoke ka makuakāne. ʻAʻohe mea hōʻino ma hope o kēia mau mea āpau, akā "wale" ka maʻa. ʻO kēia paha ka manaʻo o ka ʻōlelo a kaʻu kaikamahine. "
"ʻO kāna pono no ka nānā a me ke aloha e hālāwai maʻamau iaʻu. ʻO wau kona wahi maʻamau o ka launa ʻana no nā hopohopo a me nā waimaka, akā no nā manawa maikaʻi a me nā moʻolelo hoʻomākeʻaka. No ka mea ke hoʻi mai ka makua kāne i ka home, hoʻomaloʻo ka waimaka, pāʻani mākou a haʻi mākou i nā moʻolelo.
Eia kekahi, ke ʻike nei kaʻu kaikamahine i kēia manawa me he kaikamahine lā. Ua maopopo iā ia he ʻano like kāua a me aʻu ma mua o kona a me koʻu makuakāne. Kūpono i ka mākia "Pono kākou mau wahine e noho lōkahi", pinepine lākou kāna koho mua loa ke pono ʻoe i ke kōkua a makemake paha e haʻi i kahi moʻolelo nui. "
He aha ka mea e hiki ai ke hana e hoʻopili hou i ka makuakāne?
Inā manaʻo ka makuakāne e haʻalele ʻia a i ʻole inā manaʻo ʻo makuahine pono ʻo ia e hana i nā mea āpau iā ia iho, kōkua ia i ka mea mua. kamailio e pili ana ia mea, ʻoiaʻiʻo a me ka hōʻino ʻole. Ma hea lāua e ʻike ai i nā kumu o ka hana a ke keiki? Ke hele nei paha ke keiki i loko kahi pae hoʻomohala?
Ka mea nui ʻaʻole ia e hoʻopiʻi wale i ka mea ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻole nō hoʻi ka hewa o ka makuakāne, no ka mea ʻaʻole ʻo ia ma laila a hana, ʻaʻole hoʻi na ka makuahine ka hewa, no ka mea, lilo ʻo ia i kuleana no nā mea āpau. Aia paha nā kumu i kahi o waena.
Kōkua i nā mākua a me pēpē a hoʻomōhala rituals. Āhea papā, i hele i waho i ka lā holoʻokoʻa, hoʻi mai i ka home i ke ahiahi, pono nō e loaʻa ka manawa no nā keiki. ʻO kēia ka manaʻo: e pio ana ke kelepona paʻalima, noho i lalo a hoʻolohe i nā moʻolelo o nā keiki e pili ana i ko lākou lā. Pono nā keiki hoolohe a me ka manaʻo o ka loaʻa ʻana ma lalo o 100 pākēneka.
Ke hoʻololi nei i nā "ʻōnaehana kūloko kahiko"
ʻO kēia ka manaʻo o nā mākua ʻelua pono lākou e hoʻololi i ka mea i manaʻo mau ʻia no lākou. ʻO kahi laʻana, ʻaʻole ʻoiaʻiʻo he hiki i nā makuakāne ke "lawe wale" i kā lākou keiki i ke kula a i ʻole pāʻani pāʻani me nā keiki kāne, ʻoiai he mau hana ʻē aʻe kā nā makuahine, ʻo ia hoʻi me nā keiki. kaikamahine. Pono mākou e hoʻokahuli i kēia mau hoʻolālā noʻonoʻo i hoʻokau ʻia i ka wā i hala a hoʻomaopopo hoʻi ʻaʻohe kuleana i wehewehe pono ʻia.
ʻO ka manawa i hala me nā keiki, ʻoiai inā hoʻokahi wale nō hola i ke kakahiaka a hoʻokahi hola i ke ahiahi, pono e hoʻohana ʻia me ka ʻole o nā palena a i ʻole nā palena. Eia kekahi, pono ʻoe e hilinaʻi i kāu hoa a ʻo ka mea ʻo ia i ʻike i ka mālama pono ʻana i ka pilina me kāna mau keiki, malia paha ma kahi ʻano ʻē aʻe ma mua ou, akā mau me nā hopena maikaʻi. No laila ke kāhea hou ke kaikamahine iā Māmā, ke hiki i ka manawa e hiamoe ai, no ka laʻana, pono e hoʻi i ka makuahine i kēlā me kēia manawa inā makemake ka makuakāne
No ka mea, e like me kā mākou e aʻo ai, keiki he mea ola o ka maʻa. Inā hoʻomoe mau ka makuakāne i kāna kaikamahine e hiamoe no kekahi manawa, me kahi moʻolelo a me kahi cuddle pōkole, e mahalo ʻia ʻo ia a mahalo ʻia e ke kaikamahine liʻiliʻi. ʻAʻole paha koke, akā ma hope o kekahi mau lā. No laila ke ʻōlelo a makuakāne moolelo moe me ka loaʻa ʻole o nā kūʻē ʻana e e hiki ke pāʻani manuahi me nā keiki, hiki nō iā ʻoe nā māmā kekahi makaʻu kūpono.
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