CʻO Ara ʻEsetera,
Ua ʻike pinepine wau i kāu kolamu a, e hele mai ana mai kahi moʻolelo ʻoi aku ka hoʻokaumaha, ua hoʻoholo wau e kākau iā ʻoe me ka manaʻolana no ka mālamalama.
He 23 koʻu mau makahiki, no ka mea hiki iā ʻoe ke noʻonoʻo ʻaʻole pili koʻu ola i nā mea he nui: ke kulanui, nā hoaaloha, nā haʻuki a me nā ʻano mele like ʻole. Ua haʻi ʻia mai koʻu 17, ma 21 holo wau i kahi keikikāne o 3 a me ka hapa makahiki ma Instagram.
ʻAʻole hoʻohiki ʻia ka moʻolelo i loko o kēlā ma hope o hoʻokahi mahina ua ʻōlelo ʻo ia ua huikau ʻo ia a noi iaʻu no kahi hoʻomaha i maopopo he hopena i hoʻokahi pule ma hope me kahi pou.
ʻO nā peeps ma aneʻi a ma aneʻi, wahi a ʻaʻole ʻike, makaʻu e ala aʻe i ke kakahiaka aʻe me ka hopohopo, akā i ka hopena, ʻoʻoleʻa hoʻokahi mahina ma hope o ka hoʻomaha, hiki iā mākou ke ʻōlelo ua paʻa mākou.
Hoʻomaka kahi moʻolelo ʻaʻole wau ʻike hou pehea e wehewehe ai, inā nani a hana a i ʻole, i ka nānā aku, piha i nā kīnā i makaukau e kupu. He kāne ʻālohilohi mākou, nani ke nānā aku, ʻono a me kahi keiki liʻiliʻi ʻo ia, ʻoi aku ka hoʻonohonoho a koʻikoʻi iaʻu.
Makehewa ka Passion, ka wahine (phenomenal) pū kekahi, ʻakaʻaka nui mākou, kaʻana like mākou. Aloha mākou i kekahi i kekahi a i ʻole e haʻi ke poʻo iā mākou a mai aneʻi e hoʻomaka nā pilikia: pono ʻo ia i kahi nānā nui, ʻo wau, ka mea koi ʻole i nā mea āpau, hāʻawi iā ia, akā hoʻomaka ʻo ia e hoʻonui i ka capricious.
Aia ke kaua ma ka papahana, ʻaʻole ʻo ia i māʻona i kaʻu e hōʻike aku ai iā ia, akā ola mau ke kuko, ʻo ke aloha pū kekahi, a hiki i ka lilo ʻana o ka hoʻokaumaha a hoʻokaʻawale wau iaʻu iho i kekahi mau lā.
Hoʻomau hou ia i nā mea āpau, akā hoʻokahi wale nō mahina ma hope mai ua haʻalele ʻo ia iaʻu me ka hiki ʻole iā ia ke wehewehe a wehewehe i ke kumu, akā hoʻomau ʻo ia e hōʻike i kēlā me kēia lā.
Lilo wau i kāna psychologist, Lohe wau iā ia e kamaʻilio wale ana no ke kaumaha a me ka huikau, ʻaʻohe hoʻāʻo o kaʻu pono e hoʻololi i kona manaʻo. Waiho ʻo ia iaʻu e kau ana no 5 mau mahina a ʻaʻole wau e ʻōlelo iki i kāna ʻōlelo ma ke ʻano he kahu hānai maikaʻi ʻo Red Cross.
ʻO ka hope e neʻe kekahi mea i loko ona, he mea nui kaʻu makemake nui e hoʻomaka hou ka moʻolelo, akā he manawa pōkole ma hope wau naʻu e huikau. ʻAʻole i hoʻokahi hebedoma ma hope ua haʻi wau makemake wau iā ia ma hope oʻu, he aloha wale kaʻu, akā ʻo ia, ua haʻalele ʻia, hana i koʻu ola i gehena: nā hakakā, hoʻoweliweli, hoʻāʻo e uhaʻi, i nā ʻōlelo hōʻino ʻole hiki ʻole ke haʻi ʻia.
ʻAʻole au i hoʻomanawanui iā ia a hoʻi i hope, akā ua luhi ʻia e ka minamina a me ka manaʻo e hiki i nā mea āpau ke hoʻi i "hemolele" ke hoʻi hou wau i kaʻu mau ʻanuʻu. ʻOi aku ka hoʻomanawanui ʻole ʻo ia, hana ʻino iaʻu me he mea lā makemake e hoʻopaʻi iaʻu, hakakā mākou a pāpā ʻo ia iaʻu i nā wahi āpau, hoʻokau ʻo ia iaʻu i ka mālama ʻana i ka hāmau, keakea wau iaʻu iho.
Holo hou wau i kahi manawa ʻekolu mau manawa hou, akā i kēlā me kēia manawa ʻaʻole wau e haʻalele i ka hilinaʻi hiki ke hānau hou ʻia mākou a no laila hoʻi wau, akā ʻaʻohe mea. Ua lilo ʻo ia i ikaika a ikaika loa, kākoʻo wau iā ia i hiki iaʻu a ma loko o nā palena o nā mea e hiki ai iaʻu ke hāʻawi iā ia i kahi kūlana like, akā i kēia manawa ua lilo ʻo ia i haku o ka pilina.
Mālama liʻiliʻi ʻo ia, ʻo ka nīnau ke kumu ma kona ʻaoʻao, ma luna oʻu koi ʻo ia i ke kala aloha ʻole, hoʻomau wau i ka ʻeha i kāna mau ʻōlelo hōʻino, kāna ʻōlelo hoʻoweliweli (mau manawa ma waho o ke kākau ʻana ua kākau ʻo ia i nā keiki kāne ʻē aʻe).
E haʻi i kā mākou ʻike i nā mea āpau i waena o nā hoaaloha a me nā ʻohana, wehewehe iaʻu i ko lākou mau maka ma ke ʻano he moʻo nui, hoʻihoʻi ʻole i kā lākou mau manaʻo haʻahaʻa ma mua o ka mahalo, i kēlā me kēia manawa he pahi.
Ke haʻi wau i kaʻu mau discomforts he hapa iki kāna pane a koʻikoʻi loa, ke hōʻike ʻo ia i kaʻu kuleana e hana i nā ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o nā honua āpau nona, e ʻike inā ʻaʻole wau e alo i kona huhū.
ʻO kāna hale hana? Hoʻomaopopo iaʻu i nā manawa aʻu i huki ai i mua o ke alo o kona hoʻomanawanui ʻole, poina maʻalahi i ka hope. ʻO kāna palaka a me kāna mau manaʻo hoʻopunipuni e ʻike maopopo ʻole ai iaʻu.
ʻIke wau i kāna narcissism, pathological paha (kōkua iaʻu e hoʻomaopopo, e ʻoluʻolu!), a i mua o kahi hakakā hou aʻe, akā ʻo kekahi "ʻoi aku ka nui o koʻu mau pilikia ma mua o kāu", i kekahi mau lā i hala aku nei ua hoʻokuʻu wau i ka mōʻaukala e luʻu i kāna mau ʻōlelo hōʻino, ma hope o ʻelua mau makahiki (ʻo ia wale nō Ua noho ʻia he 8 mau mahina me kahi ʻano hanohano), e ʻike nei ʻaʻole ia e kau i ka lima i kona lunamanaʻo a ʻaʻole ia e hoʻi i hope, e like me ka mea i hala.
ʻO nā nīnau: he aha ke ʻano o kēia? ʻO wai ʻo ia? A pehea wau e noʻonoʻo ai i koʻu poʻo e hiki a i ʻole hiki ke ola hou i ka pōmaikaʻi o kēia pilina?
Mahalo nui loa, a hug,
R.
ʻO ka pane
Aloha R.,
pono nō mākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kēia mele lexical hou, ka narcissist, aʻu i hoʻomaopopo ai i kekahi manawa maʻamau a i kekahi manawa pathological. ʻAʻole maopopo iaʻu ka ʻokoʻa, akā ke kau lākou i kēlā "pathological" ma hope o ia mea ʻakaʻaka mau wau.
E haʻi iaʻu ʻo wai, e heluhelu nei i ka ʻikepili diagnostics, ʻaʻole i aloha i kahi narcissist. E alo like iā ia ma aneʻi: ʻaʻole lākou nā narcissist, ʻo mākou (ka hapanui o ko lākou iwakālua) hauʻoli ʻoluʻolu e lilo i mau Pelekikena o ke Keʻa Ulaula. Ua like lākou me nā pimples o nā iwakālua, nā narcissist.
Pēlā e kamaʻilio e pili ana iā mākou, pehea mākou i iwakālua: naʻaupō. ʻAʻohe lāʻau, ʻaʻohe mea ola. I kēia manawa makemake wau iā ʻoe e waiho i kou ʻuhane i ka maluhia.
ʻO ka ʻike maoli o ka narcissist
ʻO kēia poʻe a mākou i kapa aku ai he poʻe narcissist me ka makaʻu ʻole o ka hoʻomākeʻaka (ke kamaʻilio nei wau no kēia ʻaoʻao o ke kānāwai karaima, ʻoiaʻiʻo) he lāhui kaulana a paʻakikī ʻole ia. Inā wau e kāhea iā ʻoe he narcissist, manaʻo wau e hoʻomaikaʻi aku iā ʻoe, me he mea lā he poʻe ʻoiaʻiʻo maoli, hoʻomaka koke ʻoe e ʻike pono i ke kuhi a me ka lāʻau. E hele a nānā pono a ʻo lākou ka mea loaʻa kālā maʻamau, ka poʻe ohaola. E kāhea ʻia ka gentaccia i nā huaʻōlelo he iwakālua keneta.
He exotic loa ia, narcissistic, makemake ʻoe e lilo i narcissist kekahi. ʻO kahi decadent liʻiliʻi, kahi liʻiliʻi ʻO Gatsby Nui. Ua ʻōlelo mua mākou aia kekahi mea nui ke ʻōlelo ʻoe narcissist. ʻIno like ia me kahi kia hoʻomanaʻo. ʻClelo Narcissist. E ikaika ia, ka narcissist. Me kēlā poʻo inoa i loaʻa.
Ua hana mua mākou i kēia, akā e google hou iā ia, ka mea narcissist, e haʻalele iā ia i ka pae kiʻekiʻe. ʻOiaʻiʻo, e kiʻi i luna (ʻike ʻoe i kahi narcissist i loko o kekahi mau makahiki e pau e like me ka hoʻokamani, ka mea hewa ʻole?)
Pehea e ʻike ai i ka narcissist
1. ʻAʻole menemene ka narcissist. He holoholona malihini ʻo Empathy. Koho loa. Hiki iā ʻoe ke laulima me nā mea hana keaka o ka metoo, e laulima pū me ka pāpaʻi hermit i pio i ka hohonu o ke Kaiwaenahonua a ʻaʻole e aloha nui me kahi mea aloha iā ʻoe. Hoʻowahāwahā ʻia, akā kūpono. ʻO ke empathy ma ke kānāwai wale nō i kekahi mau hihia. Ma waho o ka haʻalele ʻana i ke kōkua, (ʻaneʻane) hoʻokuʻu i nā mea āpau.
2. Hoʻowahāwahā ka mea narcissist i nā hiʻohiʻona o ka pīhoihoi naʻau o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe. No laila aia kekahi mea aloha iā lākou? He aha ka mea hiki ʻole ke hāpai iā lākou? E haʻi iaʻu i kahi haʻalulu naʻau akamai pehea e hana ai a e hoʻomaka wau kekahi.
3. He kuhi hewa ka mea narcissist o ka hanohano. Aia mākou a pau i ke pendulo ma waena o nā hemahema hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho a me ʻumikūmālima mau minuke o ka mitomania i ka lā. ʻAʻole hiki iā mākou ke hoʻohana hou. Kaha hui pū.
4. ʻO ka narcissist psychologically ʻeleʻele iā ʻoe. ʻO wai ka mea i hana ʻole i ka ʻeleʻele psychological e hoʻolei i ka pōhaku mua.
5. Mālama wale ka mea narcissist i kona mau manaʻo ponoʻī. ʻAʻole ʻike ʻia ka pōhaku mua ma aneʻi.
ʻO ka PdCR
Poina i ka narcissist a hoʻōla iā mākou iho, ʻo R.
E nānā ʻo wai ka PdCR, ka Pelekikena o ka Crocerossa.
a) Nānā ʻo ia. Maikaʻi mau ke nānā aku, hana ia ʻoe i mea nui a
b) hoʻonani iā ia iho: e nānā pehea wau e ʻike ai, ʻo wau a i ʻole ʻaʻole wau i waena o nā optimates o ke kaiāulu?
E haʻi wale aku ʻaʻole ʻo PdCR e hele lima ʻole, e R.
Kū i mua o kēia maʻi, kā mākou, ka makemake no ka mālama, ʻo ka hoʻokaʻina ka trine:
ʻAkake. ʻO kēlā poʻe ke ola, ʻike mākou i ka mea e hiki mai ana. Ua haʻalele lākou iā lākou iho i ka ʻoiaʻiʻo mua: aia nā mea waiwai, nā mea ʻawaʻawa a hiki ke hāʻule ke aloha me lākou.
A laila haʻalele lākou iā lākou iho i ka lua o ka ʻoiaʻiʻo: ʻo kā lākou manawa ia e hoʻōla ai. Kūpono lākou iā lākou iho a ʻike lākou i ko lākou kūlana ma ke ʻano he minus habens: inā ʻaʻole lawa koʻu ikaika e haʻalele ai, e hoʻohana maikaʻi i ka mea aʻu e noho ai.
Ka mea ʻeha. Ua maopopo a kaumaha lākou. No ke aha mai wau e aloha aku ai iā ʻoe, inā maopopo leʻa hoʻopailua wau iā ʻoe? He pilikia maikaʻi ia, e nā hoa ʻilihuna. Hana lākou i ka Crocerossa me ka ʻono ʻole.
Kūʻē. ʻAʻole wale lākou i hoʻopili i ke ʻano o ka holoholona, akā ʻaʻole lākou e mālama hou iā ia. He hauʻoli lākou, me kekahi mau minoʻaka ʻoluʻolu, ʻaʻole lanakila, ʻaʻohe makaʻu, he poʻe ko lākou e pili ana i ka maikaʻi maikaʻi ʻole i kekahi manawa a ʻo ka narcissist hoʻi e hāʻule i ke aloha, ʻoiai paʻa lākou.
ka hopena
Pau ia i nā ala ʻelua, ʻo R. Lawe iki ka PdCR i ka hana wikiwiki, e like me ʻoe, a neʻe loa aku (ka hopena i mahalo ʻia e nā hoaaloha a me ka psychologist a mahalo ʻia e nā mea ʻē aʻe āpau, ʻo wau pū kekahi).
ʻO ka lua ʻo ke ʻano Crocerossa maʻamau: hoʻomau ia a hiki i ka hopena. Loaʻa iā ia he kokoke i kahi kupapaʻu, akā i ka hopena ua aloha ʻo ia iā ia iho. Hana ʻia i ka hala ʻana o ka manawa.
ʻO ka narcissist, ka mea i ʻelemakule a haki hoʻi, ʻike ʻo ia ʻaʻole ia e ʻike i kahi kumuhana ʻē aʻe i hoʻolaʻa loa ʻia a no laila me ka ʻike ʻole e pili ana i ka hana.. Manawa kupanaha: ke Red Cross, māʻona i kāna makemake ʻokoʻa, ka paʻakikī paʻakikī, ʻauheʻe i kahi mamao loa, i nā palena o ke aupuni a no laila ke waiho nei ka narcissist (ʻoi aku ka nui ma mua o ka cuckold) me ka mea ʻole, ʻokoʻa kahi hōʻike i hōʻike ʻole ʻia.
ʻO ka ʻatikala Nā pilina maikaʻi ʻole - Ke kua a me ka hope ma waena o ka narcissist a me ka Pelekikena o ke Keʻa Red me he mea lā ʻo ia ka mea mua ma iO Wahine.
