ʻO nā maka o ka mea hoʻokalakupua
Inā he aniani nā maka o ka ʻuhane, a laila ma kēia ʻatikala e hana ana mākou me kahi aniani naha.
Ke hoʻi nei i ka mea narcissist pathological a me ka mea hiki iā ia ke hana, e hoʻomanaʻo iki mākou iā ia e kahakaha ana i nā ʻano nui.
Kamaʻilio mākou e pili ana i ka narcissism pathological i ka wā i pili ai mākou me ke kāne a wahine paha i hoʻopilikia ʻia, me ke ʻano nui o ka pilikino i nele i kekahi ʻano o ka minamina i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, ʻoiaʻiʻo ke ʻike nei lākou i nā mea ʻē aʻe he mau mea maʻalahi a maʻalahi wale nō e hoʻohana. hoʻokō i kā lākou mau hopena.
E kiʻi iā lākou, i poʻe narcissists hoʻohana lākou i kekahi ʻano a ʻaʻohe o lākou hopohopo a scruples paha e pili ana i ka hoʻonui ʻana a me ka hānai ʻana i kā lākou kiʻi ponoʻī a lākou e ʻike ai i ke ʻano kekeʻe, hoʻololi a moʻi nui hoʻi, e hāʻawi ana iā lākou iho i kahi kuleana kolohe pono ʻole e hiki ai iā lākou ke kaohi loa ma luna. kanaka ʻē aʻe.
ʻO nā wahi e hiki ai iā lākou ke huki i ka hapa nui o kēia hānai koʻikoʻi nā mea e pili ana i ka pilina kanaka e hōʻike ana i kahi kahua hānai mau maikaʻi loa no nā pilikino nāwaliwali me ka ʻano haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa a i ʻole e hele nei i kahi manawa paʻakikī i ke ola kahi a lākou e kū nei. ʻoi aku ka maʻalahi.
He mau kūlana maikaʻi loa kēia no ka poʻe narcissists ʻo ia, e like me nā mea ʻaihue hoʻomau ʻole i hiki iā lākou, hiki iā lākou ke honi a ʻike i kēia mau pio ma hea lākou, a i ka manawa kūpono e hōʻike ai iā ia iho e hopu iā lākou.
I poʻe narcissists Lawe lākou i ka manawa kūpono a hoʻopaʻa i nā wahi kūpono e hānai ai i kā lākou inikua predatory, e laʻa me nā disko, nā ʻahamele, nā ʻaha, nā pā, nā wahi kūʻai, a i kēia wā o ke olakino olakino no covid-19, kahi a mākou e ʻike nei i nā manawa o ka mehameha ma muli o ke kaʻawale. kau ʻia a hoʻololi ʻia hoʻi i nā laka, maʻalahi loa iā lākou e ʻike i kahi nui o nā waiwai i loaʻa ma ka pūnaewele me ka hoʻohana ʻana i nā pūnaewele pūnaewele kahi i hūnā ʻia a hūnā ʻia ma hope o ke kiʻi o nā keiki hipa maikaʻi a me nā mea hoʻopakele ʻoiai ʻo ka ʻoiaʻiʻo ua komo mākou i ka pilina me he ʻīlio hihiu hae.
He mea ʻole pehea, kahi a hea paha, he makaʻala maoli lākou i ka makaʻala a no ka ʻimi ʻana i kahi mea hou a ʻoiai ua hopu lākou i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, ʻaʻole luhi kēia mau narcissists.
He mīkini ʻole a hemolele hoʻi lākou e like me ka manō hiki ke ʻimi i nā mea pio e ka honi ʻana i kona koko a mai nā mile ka mamao.
Hoʻonohonoho kēia mau mea hiki iā lākou i waena o nā waeʻano o nā pathologies i ka psychology o kēia manawa, ma ke ʻano he kanaka me nā maʻi pilikino.
Hiki i kēia mau maʻi ke ʻoi aku a i ʻole ʻē aʻe o nā pae a me nā kekelē e kaukaʻi ʻia ana i ke koʻikoʻi, a hiki i ke komo ʻana i ka mahele o nā sociopaths a me psychopaths e like me nā pūkers killers serial.
Akā he aha nā mākau nui i hoʻohana ʻia e kēia mau pilikino hoʻopilikia e hopu i ka mea pio a lākou i ʻike ai a hoʻohana lākou i nā manawa mua o ke ala?
ʻIke mākou i nā mea i hōʻeha ʻia i kēia mau kānaka he "kūikawā" a me nā hiʻohiʻona maikaʻi a me ka mea pōʻino nā mea maikaʻi ʻole i hōʻike ʻia ma luna a e pili ana i ka ʻaoʻao nāwaliwali.
Hana kēia mau mea like ʻole i ka mea i loaʻa i ka narcissist kahi mea i makemake nui ʻia a waiwai nui ʻia. Eia kekahi laʻana, keʻimi nei wau i kēlā me kēia kanaka me ka nani o ka nani a i ʻole me ka ʻike i ʻike ʻia, ka minamina, ka noʻonoʻo a ma mua o nā mea āpau i nele i kahi narcissist ma ke kumu a ʻo ia ke ʻano. ʻO kēia nā mea pio kūpono no kahi narcissist pathological.
Pono kēia mau peculiarities e koho ʻia e ka sociopath a lilo i ʻāpana o kāna harem kāne a wahine paha (e pili ana i ka wahine narcissist a i ʻole ke kāne) e hoʻohui pū ʻia me nā ʻāpana ʻē aʻe.
He modus operandi hōʻoia a ʻōnaehana e hoʻonui i kā lākou ego, ko lākou kiʻi o ka hanohano e hoʻoikaika iā lākou i kēlā me kēia lā i ke ala a lākou i kūkulu ai iā lākou iho mai ka wā ʻōpio e alo a hāpai i ko lākou ʻano o ke ola.
Ke hoʻi nei i kekahi o nā mea kaua make loa i loaʻa i kēia mau pilikino ma ke ʻano kūlohelohe ʻole ke nānā aku.
Ke hui ʻoe me kahi a narcissist mai nā manawa mua, mai ke ala mua, ke ʻano o kona nānā ʻana iā ʻoe e wīwī ana a komo i loko akā hele pū me ʻoe i ka manawa like e nā manaʻo hiki ʻole ke wehewehe ʻia.
ʻO nā maka o ka mea hoʻokalakupua
ʻO kahi hiʻohiʻona, inā ʻike ʻia me ka nānā ʻole, hiki ke hōʻoia ʻo ia kekahi o nā pale pale e pale a pale aku iā ʻoe iho mai ka ʻeha nui loa e kū ai ke alo inā e hāʻule kekahi i ka ʻupena a kahi narcissist.
Hāʻawi kona mau maka mai ka manawa mua i kahi hopena e like me ka weliweli, ʻike ʻoe ma lalo o nā hopena e like me ka hypnotized, e kākau koke mākou e pili ana i kahi mea i kū maoli e pili ana i ka moʻolelo o kahi kauka narcissist pathological nāna i hoʻohana i nā ʻano hana hypnotism. nā makahiki o kāna poʻe maʻi ahonui e hoʻomāinoino iā ia.
Ke hui aku ʻoe me kekahi o kēia mau pilikino, maʻalahi ka ʻike koke ʻana i nā ʻano ʻē a pīhoihoi hoʻi i loko ou, me nā haʻalulu o ke anuanu e piʻi aʻe i ka iwi kuamoʻo.
ʻO kahi ʻoluʻolu ʻē a kolohe hoʻi akā akā naʻe me kēia mau hōʻailona i manaʻo ʻia, ʻume ʻia kekahi i kēlā ʻano ʻano ʻē e ʻeli ana i loko o mākou i ka wā a ka narcissist e hōʻike nei iā ia iho e kamaʻilio pū ana me mākou e pili ana iā ia iho a ke hele nei i kahi ala nui.
ʻO kēlā mau maka hakahaka a ʻona ʻole hoʻi, kau ʻia ma luna o kā mākou akā ʻaʻole e hoʻomaopopo ʻo wai mākou a pehea e hana ai kahi mea hoʻopiʻi makemake iā mākou, hana lākou e kau i ko lākou mana i loko o kā mākou ʻuhane hohonu, ʻike lākou pehea e ʻike koke ai i nā wahi nāwaliwali o ka mea i hōʻeha ʻia a hoʻohana lākou me ka hoʻonele ʻole i ka manawa, ʻo kēia manawa ka mana hypnotic o ka maka ʻino i hana.
ʻO ka manawa e ukali i kā lākou wehewehe lanakila e lilo ia i mea nui loa e hopu i ka mea pio, inā ʻo ʻoe ka mea i wae ʻia a i ʻole i koho ʻia e ka narcissist e ʻike ʻoe i nā manawa mua o ka hoʻopili ʻana e hoʻopiha ʻia ʻoe me nā mahalo a me nā māka. mahalo, e lohe ʻoe i nā mea āpau e leʻaleʻa ai ʻoe a e hāʻawi ana i ka oxygen i kou haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa, eia naʻe ʻo kēia manawa i kapa ʻia ʻo "lovebombing" e kū liʻiliʻi loa ia, ʻoiaʻiʻo e ʻike koke ʻoe me ka minoʻaka naive a ke nānā mau nei kou mau maka, e haʻi ʻia ʻoe i kahi mea e nānā ai, kahi manaʻo a mea ʻē aʻe paha e pili ana i kahi mea āna i ʻike ai ʻaʻole maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole paha e pili ana iā ʻoe, e luku ana a hoʻihoʻi i kēlā mau mahalo āna i hāʻawi ai iā ʻoe i kahi manawa ma mua e hopu iā ʻoe, akā ʻaʻole ʻoe e hiki iā ia ke pale aku iā ia no ka mea e hiki mai kēia manaʻo leʻaleʻa iā ʻoe ma ke ʻano he ulia pilikino ʻole e hoʻāpono ʻia me ka ʻole o ka hāʻawi ʻana i ke kaupaona.
ʻO kēia ka hōʻailona i hāʻule ʻoe i loko o kāna pahele a ua hui ʻoe me ka ʻino, kāu a i ʻole kāu narcissist.
ʻO kēlā mau manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole a ʻoluʻolu ʻole a mākou i manaʻo ai ʻo ko mākou ʻano ia i hoʻonāukiuki iā mākou e holo koke me ka nānā ʻole ʻana i hope, ʻo kā mākou pale pilikino iā mākou i kahi pilikia nui a me ka hoʻolohe ʻole ʻana he hewa nui ia. ʻO ka nui o ka hoʻomau ʻana e hoʻokalakupua ʻia e nā maka o kahi narcissist ke hāʻule hou ʻoe i loko o kā lākou limbo me ka hoʻi ʻole ʻole, e luku ʻia nā hopena, ma ka ʻupena e ʻike ʻoe i kahi mea nui loa o nā hōʻike weliweli e pono ai e hōʻalo i ka nānā ʻana o ʻino.
Na Loris Valentine
