He manaʻo ko kēlā me kēia kanaka. I loko o kahi ʻano hoʻomanawanui, aloha a naʻauao, ʻaʻole pilikia nā manaʻo like ʻole. Akā, hoʻonui lākou. Eia nō naʻe, i loko o kahi honua kahi e paʻa ai nā kānaka, huhū a huhū paha, lilo nā manaʻo i kumu o ka hakakā a lawe ʻia nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole hana hoʻohewa.
ʻO nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole ka berena i kēlā me kēia lā, aia mau i ko mākou ola a hoʻouluulu ma nā ʻoihana pūnaewele. Hiki iā lākou ke hele mai mai nā poʻe pili a me nā malihini. Hiki iā lākou ke lilo i mau manaʻo ma waho o ka wahi a i ʻole nā ʻōlelo hōʻino.
Le kanaka hypersensitive, ʻO ka poʻe i manaʻo koʻikoʻi i nā mea a i ʻole ka paʻakikī i ka hoʻokele ʻana i ko lākou mau manaʻo mua e hoʻopilikia ʻia e ka hopena o ka manaʻo o nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole. I kēia mau hihia, ʻo ke aʻo ʻana e pane i kahi ʻōlelo maikaʻi ʻole me ka pau ʻole o kou huhū e lilo i mākaukau ola.
Hōʻalo i ka hoʻopaʻapaʻa ʻana
Hiki ke lele nā manaʻo a ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ʻole e like me ka huhū a me ke kaumaha. ʻO ka palaualelo, ka ʻinoʻino a me ka haʻaheo kekahi. Ua hōʻike ʻia kahi haʻawina i hana ʻia ma ke Kulanui o Florida i ka wā e ʻike ai mākou a i ʻole ka mea i hōʻeha ʻia i kahi hanana o ka hōʻino, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kā mākou hana ʻole i ka poʻe ʻē aʻe.
"ʻO nā ʻano haʻahaʻa haʻahaʻa maikaʻi ʻole e like me ka palaualelo hiki ke lele. Hiki ke loaʻa kēia hopena ma ke kumu o nā ʻāpana kūʻokoʻa, hiki i kekahi ke lawe i kēia mau manaʻo a, ʻoiaʻiʻo, he hopena kēia contagion i ka poʻe a mākou e launa pū ai i ka wā e hiki mai ana ", hoʻopau i nā mea noiʻi.
Nā noiʻi ʻē aʻe i hana ʻia ma ka Georgetown University ua hōʻike ʻia ʻo nā ʻōlelo maikaʻi ʻole e hoʻopau i kā mākou hana. Ua ʻike ka poʻe i hōʻike ʻia i nā kūlana ʻino i ka emi ʻana o kā lākou hana i kēlā me kēia lā a me nā hana hana.
He maʻalahi ka wehewehe ʻana: ke hana ʻino ʻia mākou a i ʻole kūpono ʻole, lawe ko mākou lolo a pale iā mākou mai ka noʻonoʻo pono. Hiki iā mākou ke noʻonoʻo i ka mea i hana ʻia a hoʻomau i ka noʻonoʻo ʻana ma luna o ia mea, e lawe ana i nā kumuwaiwai cognitive i hiki iā mākou ke hoʻokaʻawale i nā hana ʻē aʻe, ʻoi aku ka pili a me ka ʻoluʻolu.
No laila, ʻo ke kānāwai gula no ka pane ʻana i kahi ʻōlelo maikaʻi ʻole, ʻo ia ka pale ʻana i ka contagion naʻau. Inā hoʻopilikia ka mea ʻē aʻe iā ʻoe me ka huhū a i ʻole ka huhū, ua lawe ʻo ia iā ʻoe i loko o kā lākou kahua pāʻani. ʻO kahi ala e pale aku ai i ka maʻi maʻi, ʻo ka hoʻomaha a hanu ma mua o ka pane ʻana. Pono mākou e lawe i kekahi mau kekona e ho'ōki i ka manaʻo mua. E pili ana i ke aʻo ʻana i ka hana ma mua o ka pane wale ʻana.
Ke hana mākou, ʻae mākou iā mākou iho e hoʻopunipuni ʻia e nā manaʻo a me nā manaʻo o kā mākou interlocutor. Ke hoʻoholo mākou pehea e hana ai, noho mākou i ka mana. ʻO kahi ʻenehana maʻalahi no ka hoʻolimalima ʻana i kekahi mamao psychological mai ka mea e hana nei, ʻo ia ka hoʻāʻo e ʻike i nā manaʻo a kā mākou hoa kamaʻilio e hōʻike nei. ʻO kēia hoʻomaʻamaʻa noʻonoʻo, pono mākou e hana me ka ʻike, e hoʻololi iā mākou i mea nānā i waho a kōkua iā mākou e noho mālie.
E pane a pane ʻole paha? ʻO kēia ka nīnau
ʻAʻole mau ka nīnau "pehea e pane ai i nā ʻōlelo maikaʻi ʻole?" akā, "pono mākou e pane i nā ʻōlelo maikaʻi ʻole a pau?
ʻO ka pane pōkole ʻaʻole.
Aia nā manaʻo i kūpono ʻole i ka hoʻoikaika ʻana i ka manaʻo, ka hana cognitive, a i ʻole ka manawa e pane ai. Inā ʻaʻole makemake kekahi e kamaʻilio akā hoʻohewa wale a hoʻokau i kona manaʻo, ʻaʻole pono ke pane i kāna mau ʻōlelo.
ʻAʻole pono ka pane ʻana i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole inā ʻaʻole mākou makemake e hoʻokomo i kēlā pilina. ʻO ka mea hope loa, ʻo ka pane maʻamau e pili ana i ke kamaʻilio ʻana, a aia paha kekahi manawa ke makemake ʻole mākou i ke kamaʻilio ʻana e alakaʻi ʻole i kahi.
ʻO ka manaʻo, e nīnau mākou iā mākou iho inā pono maoli ka mōhai ʻana i kekahi o kā mākou iho maluhia o loko e kaua i kela kaua. Aia kekahi manawa e pono ai ia, a i kekahi manawa ʻaʻole. Ma hope o nā mea a pau, he mea naʻauao ke ʻike i nā kaua kūpono a ʻaʻole pono.
ʻO nā manawa ʻē aʻe, ʻo ke ala maikaʻi loa e pane ai i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole e hōʻike i ko mākou mau palena, e hoʻomaopopo ana ʻaʻole mākou e ʻae i kekahi e uhaki i kā mākou mau palena. kuleana kuleana a i ʻole e hana ʻino iā mākou. ʻO kahi laʻana o ka pane i ka manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole: "Ke hookiekie nei oe i kou leo, ke hoino mai nei oe a me ka hoowahawaha mai ia'u, aole au makemake e hanaia pela."
Hiki iā mākou ke pane ma ke ʻano maʻalahi, me kahi nīnau e hoʻololi i ka dynamics a koi i kekahi e noʻonoʻo hou i kāna ʻōlelo a me nā hopena. Hiki iā mākou ke pane me kahi nīnau e hōʻike ana i ka lapuwale, ka ʻino a me ka noʻonoʻo ʻole o kāna mau ʻōlelo. Eia kekahi laʻana, ʻo kekahi mau pane i nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole ma ke ʻano o kahi nīnau: Ua ʻike paha ʻoe ua hōʻeha kāu mau ʻōlelo iaʻu? o Maopopo iā ʻoe ʻaʻole hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻohewa i ka mea āu i ʻike ʻole ai?
Kumuwaiwai:
Foulk, T. et. Al. (2016) ʻO ka hopu ʻana i ka palaualelo ua like ia me ke anu: The contagion effects of low-intensity negative behaviors. J Appl Psychol; 101 (1): 50-67.
Porath, CL & Erez, A. (2009) Ua nānā ʻole ʻia akā ʻaʻole i hoʻopaʻa ʻia: Pehea ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ʻana i ka hana a ka poʻe nānā aku ma nā hana maʻamau a me nā hana hana. Nā Kūlana Kūlana; 109 (1), 29–44.
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