I ka makahiki kanawalukūmālima, ʻōlelo ʻia hoʻokahi i loko o ʻekolu mau poʻe he pilikia ko lākou no ka hoʻolohe ʻana, 31% pilikia i ka mālama ʻana iā lākou iho, hapa o ka pilikia e hele wāwae a noho kaʻawale, a 28% e ʻōlelo he pilikia ko lākou noonoo. ʻO ka maʻi puʻuwai, ka maʻi ʻaʻai, ka maʻi ʻaʻa, ka maʻi hākō, ka maʻi Alzheimer, a me nā ʻano dementia e piʻi nui aʻe i kanahiku a hoʻonui i kēlā me kēia makahiki.
Akā inā pehea wau e haʻi aku ai iā ʻoe me kēia mau mea āpau ʻo ka poʻe mākua ka hauʻoli loa?
Ama Stanford University ua huli ʻia sulle mau manaʻo o kahi hui o ka poʻe 18 a 94 mau makahiki. Kuhi nā hopena i kēia kuhikuhi: hauʻoli ka poʻe ʻelemākule. ʻAʻole wale ka ʻimi no ʻO Standford University Hōʻike i ka liʻiliʻi o nā manaʻo maikaʻi ʻole o ka ʻelemakule ma mua o ka poʻe ʻōpio, akā ʻoiai ke hoʻohana ʻia ka resonance ʻume mākenēki, ʻike ʻia ia i ke kolu o ka makahiki - maʻamau - hoʻonāukiuki ʻia ka amygdala inā ʻoe e nānā i nā kiʻi maikaʻi ma mua o kou nānā ʻana i ka maikaʻi ʻole, ʻoiai i ka poʻe ʻōpio ka hana like i mua o nā kiʻi ʻelua.
ʻO kekahi o kaʻu mau hana mua loa ma ke ʻano he psychologist i kahi hui no ka poʻe ʻelemākule, me kahi hui i kapa ʻia ʻo Auser, ma aneʻi ma Milan. Ua ʻike wau i kēia ʻike i ka mka hapanui o nā mea a mākou i manaʻo ai ʻike i ka ʻelemakule hewa ia. Nui a mākou e aʻo ai e pili ana i ka ʻelemakule a, ma mua o nā mea āpau, nui nā mea e aʻo ai mai ka poʻe ʻelemakule. Ma hope o nā mea āpau ʻo ia kou mau makahiki, ma ʻaʻole ʻoe i kā lākou.
Il puke "ka pomaikai is a koho oe hana: haʻawina fRoma makahiki mawaena o ka ka mea mua kahiko " haʻi mai ʻo ia iā mākou i kēia mau aʻo he nui o ka ʻelemakule naʻauao a me ka hauʻoli, puni ke kumuhana o ka hauʻoli. ^ E Ha yM. Ve hoʻoponopono pū kekahi o lākou.
1. Hana i nā mea e hauʻoli ai ʻoe
ʻO ka hōʻailona mua e hana i nā mea e hauʻoli ai ʻoe.
ʻO ke kuhi ka poʻe ʻelemākule, e ʻike nei he manawa palena ko lākou i mua, e kia ana i ko lākou ikaika i nā mea e hāʻawi iā lākou i ka leʻaleʻa i kēia manawa, ʻoiai ʻo ka poʻe ʻōpio, me nā ʻōuli lōʻihi, e nānā no nā ʻike hou a i ʻole ka ʻike.
No laila kaMa kahi o ka hana maʻalahi ʻanaa me kēlā mau mea ma lailahoʻohauʻoli iā lākou, hala ka poʻe ʻōpio manawa he nui ke manaʻo nei i kēlā inā wale nō hiki hoʻopau i nā mea maikaʻi ʻole āpau ʻaʻole olaʻoi aku ma mua o ke ānuenue a me ka lā. ʻIke nā lunakahiko i kēlā kēia hiki ʻole. E loaʻa mau ka ʻeha i ke ola.
He ʻokoʻa maikaʻi o Karl Pillemer della Cornell University ʻo ia anei ma waena o "hauʻoli ʻoiai" a "hauʻoli inā wale ".
Manaʻo ka poʻe ʻōpio makemake lākou "hauʻoli inā wale nō"E pau nā mea maikaʻi ʻole. "Inā he kālā kaʻu, ʻoi aku ka ʻeha, ʻo ka wahine a ʻo ka hale ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi ... hauʻoli wau ma ke ʻano he pūpū. Mea kiʻekiʻe loa kahi ʻike lākou e loaʻa mau nā pilikia i ke ola, akā koho lākou e "hauʻoli nō naʻe nā mea āpau ". A hana kēia. Akā "hauʻoli ʻoiai" e hōʻike nei i hoʻokahi koho e lilo felici: ʻike ʻana i nā pilikia e farli noho pū i ka meaʻai no ka hauʻoli. Akamai ka laila i ka loaʻa ʻana o kai ka hauʻoli i kēia manawa, i ka maikaʻi ʻole, i ke koho ʻana e hauʻoli "ʻoiai" kēlā mau hemahema.
ʻAʻole wau e ʻōlelo e kū e hoʻopukapuka kālā i ka wā e hiki mai ana a i ʻole e ʻimi i nā ala hou, ʻaʻole wau e lilo i hōʻike hōʻoiaʻiʻo o kēia kūlana, akā e hoʻolilo i kēia lā kekahi manawa me ka mea i hauʻoli mau ai iā ʻoe.
No laila he aha kēlā mea hiki e hoʻohauʻoli iā ʻoe me kāu mea i loaʻa?
E nānā iā ia me ka helu ʻelua, ʻo ia hoʻi "mahalo mahalo".
2. E hōʻike i ka mahalo
I ka neurologist kaulana a me ka mea kākau de "Ke kāne i kuhi hewa i kāna wahine i pāpale" ʻO Oliver Sacks aʻo ma ka 82 ʻo ka loaʻa ʻana o ka maʻi ʻaʻai maʻi, ua kipaku ʻia ʻo ia e kona hopohopo e hoʻohana o cocaine i loko o ia mau dosis immoderate e hana hoku pōhaku ʻulaʻula.
E hoʻomākeʻaka ana au. I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻole ia i hoʻolilo i ka manawa nui i ke kaumaha. Nui loa ia mahalo no ke ola kupaianaha ua laki ʻo ia e ola.
“ʻAʻole hiki iaʻu ke hoʻohālikelike me ka makaʻu ʻole, akā ʻo koʻu manaʻo ʻoi loa ka mahalo. Ua aloha au a ua aloha ʻia. Nui nā mea i hāʻawi ʻia iaʻu a ua hāʻawi wau i kekahi mea i ka hoʻihoʻi. Ua heluhelu au a ua huakaʻi, noʻonoʻo a kākau ... Ma luna o nā mea āpau, he mea hele a makaʻu wau, he holoholona noʻonoʻo, ma kēia panalā maikaʻi, a he kuleana nui loa ia a he huakaʻi nui hoʻi. "
A hōʻike ka noiʻi i kēlā mahalo hauʻoli mākou i ka hauʻoli maoli. Ua kamaʻilio mua wau e pili ana iā ia i nā wikiō ʻē aʻe, kahi aʻu e hoʻolako ai i nā hoʻomaʻamaʻa maʻalahi a ikaika hoʻi e aʻo pehea e hōʻike ai i ka mahalo: waiho wau iā ʻoe i ka loulou i ka wehewehe. e hala mākou i ka helu aʻe, a i ʻole "e ʻike i kahi kumu".
3. E ʻike i kahi kumu
Se i keia la ʻaʻohe ou mea che Apkuko, o kaomi iā ʻoe mua i ke ola, paʻakikī iā ʻoe e ʻike hikiwawe ka lā a andrai ua hoʻomaha loa.
I kēia manawa: inā 'aʻole ʻike ʻoe i kekahi mea āu e makemake nui ai ma mua o kou hiki ʻana i 80, mai hopohopo, ʻaʻole ʻoe e hiki i 80. Eia, he wahi mea hoʻomākeʻakeʻa kēia inā makemake ʻoe, akā ʻo ia il pono no ke kumu o ka hoʻoulu ʻana iā ʻoe e ʻike i ke kumu. i mea laʻo ka poʻe i loaʻa kahi kumu i ke ola ʻaʻole ʻoi aku ka hauʻoli a me ke olakino, ola pū lākou i ka lōʻihi.
ʻO Patricia Boyle ʻo he neuropsychologist che ua hana i kahi hoʻopaʻa haʻawina durate ʻewalu makahiki ma kahi ana i nānā ai ka pilina ma waena hoʻomanaʻo a me ke kumu i ke ola. Ua ʻike ʻo ia ʻaʻole pale ia kumu iā lākou nā kānaka mai ka maʻi ʻo Alzheimer, akā weliweli pale i nā hopena o Alzheimer.
Ua kālailai ʻia ʻo Patricia, hoʻokahi manawa make, ka lolo o ka poʻe me Alzheimer e ha hoʻopaʻa ʻia e like me ka hōʻike ʻana o kēlā me kēia ka hōʻino kino like, me ka nānā ʻole inā he kumu ko lākou i ke ola a i ʻole. Akā i ka manawa ua hoʻi lākou i hoʻōlae nā hoʻāʻo hoʻomanaʻo i hala lawelawe ʻia iā lākou, ua 'ike' o ia ʻo kēlā poʻe me ka manaʻo nui i nā mākia like a kēlā mau nā kumuhana i ʻeha ʻole loa iā Alzheimer. A ʻo ka ikaika o kā lākou kumu i ke ola, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka pale.
Pehea ʻoe e ʻike ai i kāu kumu? I kēia manawa, pono e wehewehe i kāu mau waiwai, a laila pono e ʻimi ʻia i ka honua ma ka nīnau ʻana i ka nīnau: "He aha ka māka aʻu e makemake ai e waiho i ka honua?". E hānai i kēia manawa i ka mea e hōʻiliʻili i nā pono nui ma hope o ke ola. Ke waiho mau nei wau i ka wehewehe i ka loulou i kahi noi ʻē aʻe e kōkua iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo i kāu mau waiwai.
4. Palua i nā pilina maikaʻi
ʻO ka mea hope loa ʻaʻole kamaʻilio iki ka poʻe ʻelemākule hauʻoli e pili ana i ka hana a me nā mea waiwai, no ka mea ua loaʻa iā lākou ka hauʻoli a me ka haʻaheo i ko lākou mau ʻohana a me nā pilina.
Che aha ke ʻano i ka pōkole no ka heluhelu ʻoe i kēia ʻatikala? Hana i kekahi hoalohaloha kēia manawa. Hoʻopukapuka ʻaʻole wale i kāu waihona līkaia, akā i kāu waihona pili pili. E hauʻoli ʻoe i keia la a e hoʻonui hou ia iā ʻoeù hauʻoli ma hope: he mea maikaʻi loa iaE hoʻolōʻihi ʻia kou ola. Nui nā kumu e ola lōʻihi ai nā wahine ma mua o nā kāne. Akā hoʻokahi mea nui no ka mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka maʻamau mālama i ka pōʻai kaiāulu maikaʻi.
E nā hoa makamaka, ʻo ia wale nō. paha ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke lanakila i ka poʻe kahiko e like me ka hauʻoli, akā hiki iā mākou ke hana i ka mea maikaʻi loa i e kiʻi iā lākou inā aʻo mākou e ʻōpio me he mea ʻelemakule mākou.
Loulou pono:
- E kūʻai i kā John Leland puke "ʻO ke ʻoliʻoli kāu koho", kaomi ma aneʻi: https://amzn.to/2pTObm7
- E nānā i ka "Manawa, kālā a me ke olakino: ʻo ka hā o ka loli no kahi ola hauʻoli", kaomi ma aneʻi: https://youtu.be/Da_qNmrqs0Y
- E nānā i "Pehea e ola ai i kahi ola piha", kaomi ma aneʻi: https://youtu.be/y04U136FaOo
- E nānā "He aha e hana ai me ke ola? 3 mau nīnau e maopopo ai kāu waiwai ", kaomi ma aneʻi: https://youtu.be/b_gJ7UMpM6w
- E nānā i ka "Hoʻonui i kou ola: 3 Strategies koke", kaomi ma aneʻi: https://youtu.be/hGnxUp6TI_c
- No ke kau inoa ʻana i ka hui Facebook "PsyWay", kaomi ma aneʻi: https://www.facebook.com/groups/231102253669273/
ʻO ka ʻatikala Pehea e hauʻoli ai a loaʻa kahi ola piha a kamahaʻo me he mea lā ʻo ia ka mea mua ma ʻO ka psychologist o Milan.
