He aha ka mea nui i kou ola?
He aha ka mea e hāʻawi ai i ke ʻano o kou ola?
Ke loaʻa iā ʻoe ka pane, e nīnau iā ʻoe iho i ka nui o ka manawa āu i hoʻolilo ai i nā mahina i hala iho nei no ka mea nui a me ka waiwai iā ʻoe. Pīhoihoi paha ʻoe i ka ʻike ʻana ʻo ka mea nui i kou ola ʻaʻole kāu mea nui, a i ʻole ʻaʻole ʻoe e hoʻolilo i ka manawa ma laila.
E ʻike paha ʻoe ua paʻa ʻoe i ke kai o nā kuleana a me nā kuleana, i kēlā me kēia lā e hana ʻoe i ka mea āu e pono ai a ʻaʻole i ka mea āu e makemake ai a makemake paha. Hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike i ka ʻōlelo ʻana o kou puʻuwai i kekahi mea, akā ʻo kou manaʻo e ʻōlelo i kekahi.
ʻO kēia hemahema o ka like ʻole ma waena o kou manaʻo a me kou makemake a me kāu hana maoli e hoʻoulu ai i ka hauʻoli, ka huhū a me ka mihi. Hoʻokaʻawale ka manaʻo a me ka ʻike ʻana e hele nā makemake a me nā manaʻo i kahi ʻaoʻao aʻo nā ʻano a me nā maʻamau e hele ai kekahi e hoʻoulu i ka hakakā hohonu.
ʻO ke ola piha i nā hoʻohiki a me nā mōhai ʻaʻole ia ke ala maikaʻi loa e hoʻomohala ai i nā kuleana like ʻole āu e lawe ai. ʻO ia ala, ke hele ʻoe i ka hana, hewa ʻoe no ka hoʻolilo ʻole ʻana i ka manawa me kou ʻohana, akā i kou noho ʻana ma ka home, hopohopo ʻoe no ka hana ʻana. No laila, mau kou manaʻo ma kahi ʻē aʻe. ʻAʻole loa ʻoe e hele piha. A ma mua o kou ʻike ʻana, e pau ke ola.
No ka hoʻoholo i kēia kūlike ʻole, pono ʻoe e hoʻomohala i ka manaʻo pono.
He aha ka manaʻo paʻa?
ʻO ka ʻoi aku ka ʻike o kou mau manaʻo, ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o kou hoʻokele ʻana i kou mau manaʻo me ka naʻauao a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. No laila, e ʻoluʻolu ʻoe i ke ola āu e alakaʻi ai, e hoʻonui ai i kou olakino. Eia nō naʻe, no ka hoʻokō ʻana i kēia, pono kahi koi koʻikoʻi: ka manaʻo pono.
ʻO ka manaʻo o ka manaʻo kūpaʻa e pili ana i ka wiwo ʻole e ʻike i ko mākou mau manaʻo a me nā makemake maoli me ka ʻole o ka hoʻokolokolo ʻana iā lākou ma o nā lens o ke kaiāulu. ʻO ka mea nui, ʻo ia ke ʻano o ka ʻoiaʻiʻo loa iā ʻoe iho ma ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ko mākou mau manaʻo, manaʻo a me nā moeʻuhane.
ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka naʻau e pili ana i ka noho ʻoiaʻiʻo i kēlā mau kūlana pili, hiki iā ia ke hōʻike pololei a mau i ko mākou ola i kēlā me kēia lā. No laila e pili ana i ka ʻike ʻana i ko mākou manaʻo - ʻoluʻolu a ʻaʻole ʻole - a me ka kūpaʻa ʻana iā ia, ʻoiai nā mea a kekahi e ʻōlelo ai a manaʻo paha.
ʻO ka mea pōʻino, ʻo ka manaʻo kūpaʻa he mea haʻahaʻa a hoʻomohala ʻia. Ke nīnau mai kekahi mea aloha iā mākou pehea mākou, no ka laʻana, a pane mākou me ka pōkole "maikaʻi", ʻoiai inā e luku ʻia mākou i loko, huli mākou i ko mākou kua i ka pono o ka naʻau.
Inā ʻaʻole mākou e ʻaʻa e ʻimi i ka moeʻuhane a i ʻole e ʻike i ka mea e kāohi iā mākou, nele mākou i ka pono o ka naʻau. ʻOiai ke paʻa nei mākou i nā pilina a me nā kūlana e hōʻoluʻolu ʻole ai mākou, no ka mea ʻaʻole i loaʻa iā mākou ka wiwo ʻole e ʻae aku ʻaʻole ia ka mea a mākou e makemake ai, poina mākou i ka pono o ka naʻau.
He aha ke ʻano o ke kanaka piha loa?
ʻO ka poʻe i hoʻomohala i ko lākou kūpaʻa manaʻo, loaʻa kekahi mau ʻano like:
- Heʻoiaʻiʻo lākou e pili ana i ko lākou mau manaʻo, makemake a me nā moeʻuhane, me lākou iho a me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
- ʻAʻole hilahila lākou i ko lākou mau manaʻo a me nā manaʻo, ʻaʻole hoʻi lākou e hoʻopiʻi a hōʻino paha i nā mea ʻē aʻe no ka mea a lākou e manaʻo ai, no ka mea, lawe lākou i ke kuleana no ko lākou mau ʻāina pili.
- Hoʻomohala lākou i kahi manaʻo noʻonoʻo ponoʻī e hiki ai iā lākou ke hoʻomaopopo i ke kumu o ko lākou mau manaʻo a me ka ʻike ʻana i nā hiʻohiʻona pane aunoa dysfunctional.
- Ke kū nei lākou i nā ʻoiaʻiʻo ʻoluʻolu a ʻeha paha, me ka ʻike i ko lākou mau aka, nā palena a me nā nāwaliwali.
- Hoʻolohe lākou i ko lākou mau manaʻo ponoʻī a hoʻāʻo e hōʻoluʻolu iā lākou me ka ʻole o ka hōʻeha ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a iā lākou iho.
- Hoʻolālā lākou i ko lākou ola ma ke ʻano e lilo ai nā mea koʻikoʻi a koʻikoʻi i ka manaʻo.
Pehea e hoʻomohala ai i ka manaʻo pono me ka make ʻole i ka hoʻāʻo?
Noho mākou i loko o kahi hui e kāohi ana i nā manaʻo, ʻoi aku ka poʻe i helu ʻia he "negative", no laila maopopo ka manaʻo o ka hapa nui o ka poʻe ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke "hiki" ke hōʻike i ko lākou manaʻo.
ʻO kaʻoiaʻiʻo, kahi noiʻi i hana ʻia ma India e hōʻike ana i ka poʻe e noho ana i nā kūlanakauhale e hoʻomohala i ka manaʻo pono ʻole ma mua o ka poʻe e noho ana i nā kaiāulu i hoʻokomo ʻia i loko o nā ʻano kūlohelohe. No kēia kumu, ʻo ka hana mua i ka hoʻomohala ʻana i ka kūpaʻa o ka naʻau, ʻo ia ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana iā ʻoe iho mai nā manaʻo pilikanaka e pili ana i ke ʻano affective a hoʻōki i ka hoʻokaʻawale ʻana. naʻau a me nā manaʻo ma ke ʻano he "maikaʻi" a "maikaʻi".
Ua ʻōlelo ʻo Robert Solomon, ʻo ka pono o ka naʻau e pili ana i ka noho piha ʻana i ke kala. No kēia akeakamai, aia i loko o ke ola ka ʻulaʻula o ka huhū a me ka melemele o ka hauʻoli, ka uliuli o nā manawa hauʻoli a me ka ʻōmaʻomaʻo o ka inaina. ʻO ke ola e pono ai ka noho ʻana he waihoʻoluʻu, ʻaʻole ia e hōʻike wale i ka ʻike a me ka ʻae ʻana i nā manaʻo o nā kala like ʻole, akā me nā kala like ʻole a me nā ʻano ikaika like ʻole. Ua manaʻo ʻo Solomona ʻo ka ʻokoʻa o ka manaʻo pono he ola monotonous, monochromatic.
Pono mākou e hoʻomaopopo inā inā hewa mākou i ka mea a mākou e manaʻo nei, e loaʻa iā mākou ka manaʻo e kāohi a hūnā i kēlā mau manaʻo, ʻoiai iā mākou iho, e pale ana iā mākou mai ka ʻoiaʻiʻo. Akā, pono mākou e aʻo e ʻae i kā mākou manaʻo a makemake ʻole, me ka hoʻohewa ʻole ʻana. ʻO kēlā ʻano hāmama ke kia i kūkulu ʻia ai ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka naʻau.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, hiki ke ʻeha kēia ʻāpana no ka mea e pili ana i ka ʻike ʻana i nā aka o loko, nā ʻano o mākou iho i hūnā pono ʻia no ka mea ʻaʻole i manaʻo maikaʻi ʻia. I kēia manawa hiki iā ʻoe ke ʻike, no ka laʻana, ʻo ke ʻano āu i hoʻonohonoho ai i kou ola e kū ana i nā kūlana kaiapili a hauʻoli i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, akā ʻaʻole e hoʻokō i kou mau makemake hohonu a me kou makemake a hauʻoli paha ʻoe.
Ma hope, pono mākou e nīnau iā mākou iho i nā nīnau paʻakikī e hiki ai iā mākou ke nīnau i ko mākou ola. E hoʻomanaʻo wale ʻaʻohe pane pololei a hewa ʻole. E pili ana i ka hoʻopili ʻana me kou manaʻo a me kou makemake, ʻo ia ʻāpana o ʻoe āu i hāmau ai no ka manawa lōʻihi. E hoʻomaopopo i kāu mau pono, makemake, kaʻa a me nā makemake me ka ʻole o ka hoʻokolokolo a me ka hewa. E lilo ana kēlā manaʻoʻoiaʻiʻo i kumu paʻa e hana ai i nā hoʻoholo maikaʻi aʻe e hoʻoholo pono ai i kāu mau pahuhopu a me kāu mau ʻano.
ʻO ka hope, pono mākou e hoʻopili i ka manaʻo pono i ko mākou ola i kēlā me kēia lā ma ka hoʻomaka ʻana me nā mea liʻiliʻi. Ke nīnau mai kekahi mea kokoke iā ʻoe pehea ʻoe, no ka laʻana, e pane pololei. He ʻoiaʻiʻo e hōʻike ana ka ʻoiaʻiʻo i kou nāwaliwali, akā mai poina ʻo ia ka mea e hana ai i nā paʻa manaʻo ikaika.
ʻO ka hoʻopili ʻana i ka manaʻo pono e pili ana i ka noʻonoʻo hou ʻana i kāu ʻoihana i kēlā me kēia lā e loaʻa ai kahi lumi no nā mea nui loa iā ʻoe a hāʻawi iā ʻoe i ka ʻoluʻolu maoli, no ka mea, pili lākou i kāu mau moeʻuhane a me kou makemake. E hana i kahi papa inoa o nā mea āu e makemake ai.
E noʻonoʻo i ke ola āu e makemake ai e ola, e noʻonoʻo i ka mea āu e makemake ai e hoʻokō a nānā i ka hopena o kāu makemake. No laila, e hoʻopili i ka ʻenekinia reverse e hana i nā hoʻoholo e kōkua iā ʻoe e ola i ke ola āu e makemake ai, ma kahi o ka mōhai wale ʻana i kāu mau moeʻuhane, nā manaʻo a me nā hoʻopunipuni ma ke kuahu o ka hana.
Kumuwaiwai:
Kumari, R. (2018) Comparative Study of Social Appreciations Ability, Social Emotional Integrity of Rural Area and Urban Area Working Women of Himachal Pradesh. Ka Nūpepa International o ka Hoʻokele a me ka ʻepekema noiʻi; 4 (2): 80-83.
Solomona, R. (2007) Ética emocional. He kumumanaʻo o na manao. Barcelona: Paidós Ibérica.
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