Wahi a nā helu helu noiʻi hoʻohana mea hoʻohana pūnaewele, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka candaulism ma waena o nā mea ʻelua nā kāne heterosexual ma mua o kēlā mau homosexuals. ʻO kēia hana moekolohe ka nānā ʻana i ka pili o kāu hoapili me kekahi mea ʻē aʻe. Ma ka hana ʻana, hōʻike ia iā ia iho a pau loa olohelohe a me ka pili aloha me kahi kanaka ʻē aʻe ma mua o kāu hoapili maʻamau. Akā he aha ka mea maoli ma hope o kēia hana moekolohe? ʻO wai nā candaulist?
Nanea i ka nānā ʻana i kāu ipo e moe kolohe ana ... me kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe
Il candaulism he hana moekolohe i pili i ʻike leʻaleʻa ana ʻike ʻoe i kāu pakanā - a i ʻole kāu pakanā - moe kolohe me ke kolu o ka poʻe. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, pili nui ka candaulism i ka hoʻonāukiuki ʻana kēia hihiʻo hāʻawi I ka manaʻo nui, hiki i ka candaulism ke ʻoi aku ke kaulike a lilo wale i ka hua o ka makemake e ala aʻe ke kau kekahi i kā lākou wahine i kāna wahine.
ʻO ka pinepine, ʻo ia ke kāne e kūpono i kēia moekolohe, ʻoiai ke ake nui nei ʻo ia e ʻike i kāna mea aloha e mahalo ʻia e nā poʻe ʻē aʻe a i ʻole ke pili paha me kekahi kāne ʻē aʻe.
He kumu mōʻaukala ʻo Candaulism e hoʻi nei iVIII kenekulia BC. Hoʻomaka ia me ʻO Candaules, he mōʻī o Lydia, ka mea i loaʻa i kāna wahine maikaʻi loa āna i makemake ai kaʻana like kona hoʻonani me nā kāne ʻē aʻe e kono ana iā lākou e nānā. A laila ua noi ʻo ia i kona kiaʻi, ʻo Gyges, i e nānā malū i ka mōʻī wahine i kona keʻena, i loko o kāna mau manawa i kuleana nui ʻia. Eia naʻe, ua ʻike ka wahine i kēia a, hoʻohaʻahaʻa ʻia e ke kauoha a kāna kāne i noi aku ai iā Gyges e pepehi iā ia i hiki ai iā ia ke noho ma ka noho aliʻi o Lydia.
Hoʻomaopopo kēia moʻolelo i ka wehewehe loa o kēia hana: kekahi o nā hoa a ka wahine hauʻoli ʻo ia i ka mahalo ʻana o ka malihini i kekahi. Ua hoʻololi ʻia i ka hoihoi o ka ʻike ʻana i ka wahine a i ʻole ke kāne ka pili kino ʻana me kekahi kanaka ʻekolu.
Aia nō ʻano like ʻole e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka candaulism:
- Ua moekolohe ka wahine me kāna ipo i mua o ka wahine;
- ke kanaka hele paha ia i ka wā o ka extramarital a me ka manaʻo maʻalahi i ka wā haʻi kāna wahine iā ia i kāna aloha aiʻole e hōʻike iā ia i nā kiʻi a me nā wikiō;
- I nā ʻano koʻikoʻi o ka candaulism, hiki i ka wahine a me kāna ipo ke loaʻa he kūlana kiʻekiʻe me ka mahalo i ke kanaka. Kapa ʻia ia triolagnia a i ʻole cuckolding, hoʻokahi hana sadomasochistic ka mea i loko ohoʻohaʻahaʻa ke kanaka me nā ʻōlelo ʻeha a hana paha. Hana ʻia kēia hana me ka ʻae o ka mea i hoʻomalu ʻia, me ke kumu hoʻokahi o ka hōʻoluʻolu i kāna leʻaleʻa.
I kekahi mau hihia, hiki i ke kāne ke komo i ka moekolohe a kāna wahine me kekahi. Kākaʻikahi loa kēia, ʻoiai e like me ka kowali aiʻole ka makemake e moekolohe me nā poʻe hou aku, e like me ka pili pili ʻekolu.
Candaulist: he aha ka ʻokoʻa me ka voyeurist, ka mea hōʻike a i ʻole ka swinger?
Il hoʻokipa kahi hana a ke kanaka, ka voyeur, nānā i ka poʻe me ko lākou ʻike ʻole. ʻO ia ka ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe o ka candaulism, no ka mea pili ia i ka pīhoihoi e ʻike i kāu pakanā e moekolohe ana, me kou ʻae.
kahōʻike hōʻikeʻike ʻo ia ka hana a e hōʻike i kāu genital i ka lehulehu e ʻaʻole pili i ka hoa i kekahi ʻano. Eia kekahi, pāpā ʻia kēia hana ma ke ʻano he mea hōʻikeʻike pilikia hoʻokahi makahiki o ka paʻahao e kahi uku o 15.000 euro. I ka candaulism ʻaʻohe mea e pili ana i kahi lehulehu a, ʻo ka mea ʻoi loa, hoʻokumu ʻia ka moemoeā i ka ʻike ʻana i kekahi hoa me kekahi a ʻaʻole hōʻike wale.
Lo kowali o kowali he hana e pili ana nā hoa ʻelua o ka wahine, ʻoiai lāua e hoʻoholo ai e aloha me kekahi mau kānaka ʻelua ua hui aloha ʻia. I kēia hana, ka pīhoihoi o ka ʻike ʻana i kāu ipo e moekolohe ana me kekahi kāne ʻē aʻe hiki ke lilo i kumu. I Candaulism, ʻaʻole pili ka leʻaleʻa i ka hana moekolohe, ʻoiai kai ka maka wale nō o kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe e mahalo a mahalo nei i kā lākou pakanā e lawa paha e hoʻonui i ka moekolohe.
He aha ke alakaʻi i kēia hana moekolohe?
Inā ʻaʻole kēia hana moekolohe hōʻino i ka wahine, ʻo ka candaulist ʻaʻole ia ʻaʻole pathological a me kahi hōʻailona o kahi pilikia ma waena o nā hoa ʻelua.
I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, hūnā ia i ka pono e hoʻoikaika i ka ego, no nā kumu ʻelua:
- A i ʻole loaʻa i ke kanaka nele i ka paulele ʻole iā ʻoe iho a me ka ʻoiaʻiʻo o ka hōʻike ʻana i kāna hoa i ka maka o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, o ka ʻike ʻana iā lākou he lili a makemake i kāna hoa hāʻawi iā ia i kahi mana o ka mana e kōkua iā ia e hoʻonāukiuki iā ia ʻiʻo moekolohe a e ʻoluʻolu iā ia.
- O ʻaʻole hiki iā ia ke māʻona i kāna hoa a ʻo ka ʻae ʻana iā ia e hana i ke aloha i kekahi kanaka ʻē aʻe kahi ala ia e ʻike ai i ka leʻaleʻa a me ka leʻaleʻa, i mua o kona mau maka. Pēlā nō he ʻano hoʻohiwahiwa.
I kēlā me kēia hihia, koho e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka candaulism he hoʻoholo e pono e maʻa mau i ka wahine, mālama pono ia.
Hiki i ka candaulism ke hoʻopau i ka pilina o kahi kāne?
ʻO nā hana moekolohe ma waho o ka "norm" (nona nāka moekolohe ʻana me ka hoa a wahine paha, a i ʻole i kapa ʻia moekolohe exclusivity) hiki ke hōʻike i ka makaʻu o ka hoʻoweliweli ʻana i ke ola o kekahi ma ke ʻano he kāne.
ʻO ka mea mua, pono ʻoe e loaʻa kūkākūkā maikaʻi ma waena o nā hoa hiki iā ia ke kamaʻilio ākea e pili ana i nā makemake, nā makaʻu a me nā haunaele ʻē aʻe i kekahi ma mua o ka hoʻoholo ʻana e komo i kahi moe kolohe.
Inā ʻike ke kāne a wahine paha a ʻae i ka moekolohe i makemake ʻia e kāna hoa, hiki i ka candaulism ke lilo kahi ala e ʻimi ai i nā hana moekolohe hou e pili ana i ka hoʻonui ʻana i ka makemake moekolohe a me ka leʻaleʻa i ka wahine. ʻO ka makaʻu nui ka makemake ʻana o kekahi hoa e moe kolohe ma ka hana candaulism. Ma ke ʻano he ʻano hoʻopono.
No ke koena o ka mea ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka ʻAʻole he hopena ka candaulism iā ia iho. Pono e ola kahi ola kāne ʻelua ma waho o kēia hana.
Inā laʻa, he wahine wale nō kā ka wahine me ke kāne ʻē aʻe āna e aloha ai, ʻoiai inā hauʻoli a pīhoihoi ka wahine "luna" i ka ʻike ʻana i kona leʻaleʻa, hiki i kēia i ka holo lōʻihi hoʻohuli manaʻo iā ia a i ka hopena hiki ke ʻeha ka pilina ma waena.
I ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ke kū ʻole ka candaulism ma ka ʻike wale ʻia ʻana i ka moekolohe me kekahi kanaka, hiki i ka manawa o ka moekolohe ʻana me kekahi, aia kekahi pilikia e ala aʻe kekahi ʻano lili.
ʻO ka mea hope loa, pono i nā lālā ʻelua o ka wahine e ʻiʻini maoli e hana, me ka ʻole o ke kaomi a me ka ʻeleʻele i kekahi o lāua. Pono ka mākaʻi e mākaukau e hoʻomaʻamaʻa i kēia ʻano moekolohe.
