Manaʻo kā mākou hui i ka kūlike. Hoʻomaikaʻi ʻia ke kūpaʻa, kūpaʻa a me ka paʻa i nā waiwai aʻo ka incoherence, instability a me ka indecision e lilo i mau waiwai maikaʻi ʻole e pale ʻia. Akā ʻaʻole hahai mau ke ʻano kanaka i nā canons social. Ke ola nei ka ambivalence i loko o kēlā me kēia o kākou. Hiki iā mākou ke aloha a aloha ʻole i ka manawa like, aloha a inaina, makemake a hōʻole.
Ke ala mai kēlā mau manaʻo hakakā e hoʻohuli iā mākou i nā ʻaoʻao like ʻole, ʻike pinepine mākou i ka hakakā. ʻAʻole wale mākou e paʻakikī e hoʻomaopopo i ka mea a mākou e makemake ai e hana e like me ia, akā ʻino pū kekahi i ko mākou ambivalence. Ua hewa mākou no ka nānā ʻana i nā ʻaoʻao ʻē aʻe no ka mea ua manaʻo ʻia ʻaʻole pono mākou e hana.
He aha ka ambivalence affective?
ʻO ka Ambivalence e pili ana i kahi paio noʻonoʻo ma waena o nā loiloi kū'ē, nā manaʻo a me nā ʻano, ʻike pinepine ʻia ma ke ʻano he hoʻopaʻapaʻa ma waena o nā mea ʻē aʻe e hoʻoulu ai i ka hoihoi a me ka hōʻole ʻana i nā ʻāpana like. ʻO ka ambivalence maikaʻi, ʻo ia hoʻi, hōʻike i ka ʻike like o naʻau a me nā manaʻo maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole i kekahi mea a i ʻole kekahi.
ʻO kēia kūlana noʻonoʻo, e pili ana i ka haehae ʻana ma waena o nā manaʻo kūʻē, he ʻāpana hiki ʻole ke ola. ʻOiaʻiʻo, hiki iā mākou ke ʻike i ka manaʻo ambivalence ma nā wahi he nui, mai ka meaʻai a hiki i ka hoʻohemo ʻana, i ka euthanasia, i ka inu ʻona a, ʻoiaʻiʻo, i nā poʻe a i ʻole nā hui ʻē aʻe.
Ka pahele o ke aloha / inaina
ʻO ka makemake a me ka makemake ʻole e hoʻopuka i kahi manaʻo noʻonoʻo a huki i hiki ke hoʻopau iā mākou i ka hoʻāʻo inā lōʻihi ia. ʻO ka ambivalence maikaʻi e mālama iā mākou i ka lolo i loko o kahi kaulike paʻakikī. Hoʻopili mākou i kēlā mau manaʻo hakakā, no laila ʻaʻole mākou e neʻe i kekahi ʻaoʻao, ʻaʻole mākou e hoʻoholo. ʻOiaʻiʻo, hiki i kēlā moku'āina ke lilo i ka naʻau i ka wā lōʻihi.
ʻOiaʻiʻo, hele pinepine ka manaʻo ambivalence me nā kiʻekiʻe o ka hopohopo. ʻO ka makemake a me ka makemake ʻole, ke aloha a me ka inaina i ka manawa like, hoʻopuka i kahi dissonance naʻau e hōʻeha iā mākou. ʻO kēlā dissonance, ʻaʻole naʻe mai ka ambivalence akā no ko mākou hiki ʻole ke hoʻoponopono i nā manaʻo hakakā.
Ke manaʻoʻiʻo mākou e maopopo mau nā mea āpau a inaina mākou i ka manaʻo ʻole, pilikia nui ka ambivalence iā mākou no ka mea kūʻē i ke kiʻi i loaʻa iā mākou iho. Hōʻike ia iā mākou ʻaʻole mākou i kūlike a paʻa i ka manaʻo. ʻO kēlā pilikia noʻonoʻo e hoʻoulu ai i ka ʻeha o loko e koi ai iā mākou e hoʻoholo, akā no ka mea hiki ʻole iā mākou, e hopena mākou i ka ʻino, paʻa i kēlā makemake a makemake ʻole.
Hōʻike ʻia kēia mau mea a pau i kā mākou ʻano. Ua hōʻike ʻia kahi haʻawina i hana ʻia ma ke Kulanui o Amsterdam i ka poʻe i ʻike i ka ambivalence e pili ana i ka hoʻoikaika kino a i ʻole ka meaʻai olakino ua paʻakikī ke alakaʻi i ke ola olakino, ʻoiai ʻo ka poʻe i manaʻoʻiʻo i kāna mau pōmaikaʻi ʻaʻole i loaʻa ka paʻakikī i ka hoʻololi ʻana i kāna mau maʻamau. Hoʻohewa ka Ambivalence iā mākou i kahi maʻi lolo kahi i loaʻa ʻole kahi loli.
ʻO ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana i nā kumu o ka manaʻo ambivalence, ke kī e lanakila ai
ʻAʻole lanakila ka ambivalence aloha ma ka hakakā ʻana akā ma ka hoʻomaopopo ʻana. ʻO kā mākou kaiāulu Komohana, ʻaʻole like me nā moʻomeheu Hikina, ua hoʻoulu i kahi manaʻo dichotomous e manaʻoʻiʻo ai mākou i ke aloha a me ka inaina he mau manaʻo kūʻē loa. I kēia hihia, ʻaʻole hiki iā mākou ke kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka inaina ʻana i kahi mea a mākou e aloha ai me ka hāʻule ʻole i kahi kūʻē kūpono.
Eia naʻe, ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻo ke aloha a me ka inaina he mau hope wale nō ia o ka laina like. He haʻawina i hana ʻia ma ka Kālana Ke Kulanui o South China ʻike mākou ʻoi aku ka nui o ko mākou aloha i ke kanaka, ʻoi aku ka nui o ka inaina iā mākou inā pau ka pilina.
Ua hoʻoholo kēia mau mea noiʻi "ʻO ka hohonu o ke aloha, ʻoi aku ka hohonu o ka inaina". Ma hope o nā mea a pau, inaina wale mākou i ka mea nui iā mākou. No laila, lilo ke aloha i ʻāina momona e ulu ai ka inaina. Ke ʻawaʻawa ke aloha, hiki ke lilo i inaina. I kēia mau kūlana, hoʻohana ka inaina i kekahi ʻano e hoʻopili iā mākou i kēlā kanaka ke kāohi ʻia nā ala ʻē aʻe. ʻO ke kumu, kōkua ia e mālama i ka pilina manaʻo ikaika i hana ʻia e ka pilina aloha.
Inā mākou e hoʻohuli i ka laina aloha / inaina i loko o ka pōʻai, e ʻike mākou hiki i kēia mau mea koʻikoʻi ke hoʻopā kekahi i kekahi, no laila ʻaʻole kūpono ʻole ka manaʻo ʻana i ke aloha a me ka inaina i ka manawa like, ʻoiai ke nānā mākou i nā ʻano like ʻole o ke kanaka a i ʻole ke kūlana. .
ʻO kahi laʻana, hiki ke hōʻike ʻia ka manaʻo ambivalence i loko o kahi hoa ke noʻonoʻo mākou i kekahi mau hiʻohiʻona a mākou e hoihoi ai i kēlā kanaka, e like me ko lākou aloha a me ke kiʻekiʻe o ke kuʻikahi, a, ma ka huli ʻana, e hoʻomanaʻo i nā ʻano ʻē aʻe a mākou e hoʻowahāwahā ai, e like me ka disorganized. poina paha.
Hiki iā mākou ke kau i ko mākou mau manaʻo a pau i kahi continuum kahi e noʻonoʻo ai mākou i ke ʻano kūpono o lākou ke ʻike mākou iā lākou. Mai kēlā hiʻohiʻona, ʻike i ke aloha a me ka inaina a i ʻole ka hoihoi a me ka hōʻole ʻana ke haʻi wale nei iā mākou aia mākou i kahi paʻakikī o ko mākou ola kahi e pono ai mākou e kū a noʻonoʻo i nā mea e hana nei iā mākou. ʻO ka Ambivalence, e like me nā manaʻo ʻē aʻe, he hōʻailona wale nō ia e pono ai mākou e ʻae a ʻimi.
ʻAʻole pilikia ka ambivalence inā ʻaʻole mākou e hoʻolilo iā ia i pilikia. Ma laila wale nō e hoʻomanaʻo ai iā mākou he kanaka, he kānalua mākou a me nā manaʻo huikau. A ʻaʻole hewa kēia. ʻO ka mea ʻē aʻe, ʻo ia ka mīkini e hoʻoikaika iā mākou e ʻike pono iā mākou iho a e ʻae iā mākou iho no ko mākou ʻano.
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ʻO ka puka komo Affective ambivalence, ke aloha a inaina oe i ka manawa like hoopuka mua ia Kihi o ka Psychology.
