Ukuqina kuyikhono elibalulekile njengoba lisivikela kumthelela wobunzima futhi lisisiza ukuthi sibuyele emuva ngemuva kokuwa. Ukuqina akusho ukuthi ungangeneki, kepha kunalokho ukwazi ukuthatha ama-hits angcono futhi uwasebenzisele nokukhula. UViktor Frankl, empeleni, udokotela wezifo zengqondo owasinda emakamu okuqothula amaNazi, wayeqiniseka ukuthi "Indoda evukayo inamandla kakhulu kunaleyo engazange iwe".
Kusho ukuthini "ukuqina"?
Ngo-1992, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo saseMelika u-Emmy Werner wayeseKauai, esinye seziqhingi zeziqhingi zaseHawaii, lapho ehlaselwa ikhono elikhethekile okwakubonakala sengathi kunabantu abathile kuphela. Uhlaziye izingane ezingaphezu kuka-600 ezizalwe zihlupheka, ingxenye yesithathu yazo ibinobunzima obunzima ikakhulukazi ngoba behlala kuzo imindeni engasebenzi kahle ephawulwe ngodlame, ukuphuza ngokweqile nokugula kwengqondo.
Ngokumangazayo, ngemuva kweminyaka engama-30 eziningi zalezi zingane zethula izinkinga zengqondo kanye / noma zenhlalo, kepha ezinye zaphikisana nezingqinamba zazo futhi zaba ngabantu abanobudlelwano obuzinzile, okuhle ukulinganisela kwengqondo nemisebenzi abazizwa bekhululekile kuyo.
UWerner ubize lezi zingane ngokuthi "azinakuhlaselwa" ngoba wayekholelwa ukuthi ubunzima abuzange buzishaye, kodwa-ke wabona ukuthi iphuzu kwakungekhona ukuthi izinkinga zazingazithinti, kodwa ukuthi zazizisebenzisa njengesitebhisi sokuzinqoba. Ngemuva kwalokho kwavela umqondo wokuqina.
Igama elithi resilience in psychology libolekwe kwi-physics. Ku-physics, ukuqina amandla ekhono lezinto ezithile zokuphinda zibuyise isimo sazo sangempela ngemuva kokucindezelwa konakala. Kwi-psychology, ukuqina yikhono lokubhekana nezehlakalo ezicindezelayo kanye / noma ezihlukumezayo, ukuzinqoba futhi uhlele kabusha impilo yakho ukuze uqhubeke nokukhula ubheke esikhathini esizayo.
Ngakho-ke, okushiwo ukuqina kusho okungaphezulu kakhulu kunokubuyela esimeni sangaphambilini sokulingana. Akusho nje ukubuyela kokujwayelekile, kepha kusho ushintsho oluguqulayo oluholela ekufundeni nasekukhuleni. Umuntu oqinisayo uthola amandla akhe ebunzimeni.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuqina kuhlanganisa nokukwazi ukugcina ukulinganisela okuthile okungokomzwelo phakathi kwesiphepho. Umuntu oqinile akanakho ukuzivikela ekuhluphekeni, kepha angabhekana nakho ngaphandle kokuphuka ngokomoya, agcine izinga lokuqala lokusebenza kwansuku zonke.
Ngakho-ke, “Ukuqina amandla emvelo omuntu okuhamba kahle empilweni. Yinto wonke umuntu anayo: ukuhlakanipha nokusebenzisa ingqondo. Kusho ukwazi ukuthi ucabanga kanjani, ungubani ngokomoya, uvelaphi nokuthi uyaphi. Isihluthulelo ukufunda ukuthi ungakusebenzisa kanjani ukuqina okungokwemvelo umuntu ngamunye anakho kusukela ekuzalweni. Imayelana nokuqonda umoya wethu wangaphakathi nokuthola umqondo wokuqondiswa ", njengoba kubhala isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Iris Heavy Runner.
Kuyini ukuqina?
Ukuqina akusona isihlangu ekulweni nokuhlupheka nobuhlungu. Ukuqina akuhambelani nokuvikeleka noma ukungenwa yingozi. Izinkinga, ukulahlekelwa, noma ukugula kubangela ukungakhululeki okujulile kuwo wonke umuntu.
Kodwa-ke, ukuqina kusiqinisekisa ngokusinda ezikhathini ezinzima ngoba kuqinisa ukuzethemba kwethu futhi kusisiza ukuhlanganisa izingcezu ezaphukileyo ukuze siqhubekele phambili. Ukuqina kusivumela ukuthi sinikeze incazelo eyakhayo ngokwengeziwe kokwenzeka kithi, ukuze sikwazi ukusebenzisa lobo buhlungu noma ukuhlupheka njengezakhi zokwakha ukuze sikhule.
Ukuqina kusivikela emiphumeleni emibi yokuxineka ngoba kusivumela ukuthi sibhekane nobunzima ngokulingana okukhulu, futhi kuvimbele ukuvela kwezifo ezifana ukukhathazeka okujwayelekile noma ukudangala. Eqinisweni, singawuqonda kangcono umqondo wokuqina ngokusebenzisa izindlela ezahlukahlukene esingazilandela lapho sibhekene nomcimbi noma ukuhlukumezeka okubi.
Umdwebi wemidwebo waseBonnano, GA
Vele, ukuqina akubalulekile kuphela ngokomzwelo kepha nangokomzimba. Ucwaningo olwenziwe e- I-Stanford University nabantu okutholwe ukuthi banomdlavuza baveze ukuthi, bebhekene nezimo ezifanayo zokwelashwa zokuqala, labo ababebhekene nalesi sifo benesimo sokulwa nokuqina babekwazi ukujwayela kangcono kunalabo abasithatha ngokuphelelwa yithemba, ukungabi nalusizo kanye nokudalelwa.
Olunye ucwaningo lukhombisile ukuthi ukuqina kusiza abantu ukuthi balulame ngemuva kokulimala komgogodla. Abantu abakhomba njengabakhuthazelayo babike futhi ukuthi bazizwa bejabule futhi bezwana nokuxhumana okungokomoya okukhulu, okubasizayo ukuthi babhekane nemiphumela yalesi sifo futhi baphinde bathole.
Ngakho-ke, ukuqina akusisizi kuphela ekubhekaneni nobunzima ngokugcina izinga elithile lokulawula ngisho nokulingana ukuthola isisombululo esihle kakhulu senkinga, kepha futhi kuvikela impilo yethu noma kusisize sikwazi ukubhekana kangcono nezifo.
Izibonelo ezintathu ezikhuthazayo zokuqina
Izibonelo zokuqina emlandweni azinakubalwa. Ziyizindaba zokuphila ezimakwe ngosizi nezabantu abathole amandla okunqoba zonke izinkinga ukuze bakhule ngaphansi kwezimo ezingezinhle kangangoba bebengazuza zonke ezinye.
1. UHellen Keller, intombazane eyayiphikisana nayo yonke into
Mhlawumbe esinye sezibonelo ezidume kakhulu zokuqiniswa yileso sikaHellen Keller, okwathi ezinyangeni eziyi-19 wahlaselwa yisifo esasizomaka impilo yakhe yonke futhi samvimba ukubona nokuzwa, ukuze angafundi nokukhuluma.
Ngo-1880 lelo zinga lokukhubazeka laliyisigwebo empeleni. Kodwa-ke, uHellen wabona ukuthi angathola umhlaba ngezinye izinzwa zakhe futhi lapho eneminyaka engu-7 wayesesungule amasiginali angaphezu kwama-60 ukuxhumana nomndeni wakhe.
Kepha lokho kuhlakanipha kwamphikisa ngoba nakho kukhomba ukulinganiselwa kwakhe. Ngokushesha kwavela ukukhungatheka futhi uHellen wakukhipha ngolaka. Abazali bakhe babona ukuthi udinga usizo base beqasha uthisha ozimele, u-Anne Sullivan.
Ngosizo lwakhe, uHellen akafundanga kuphela ukufunda nokubhala iBraille, kodwa futhi wakwazi ukufunda izindebe zabantu ngokuzithinta ngeminwe yakhe ukuze ezwe ukunyakaza nokudlidliza.
Ngo-1904, uHellen waphothula iziqu zakhe futhi wabhala incwadi ethi "Indaba Yempilo Yami", eyokuqala ochungechungeni lwemisebenzi emide. Unikele ngempilo yakhe ekusizeni abanye abantu abakhubazekile futhi ufundise emazweni ahlukahlukene ukukhuthaza izincwadi namafilimu ngokuqina.
2. UBeethoven, ungqondongqondo isipho sakhe sathathwa
Esinye isibonelo esihle sokuqina kwakuyimpilo kaLudovicus van Beethoven. Ngesikhathi esemncane wakhuliswa kanzima. Uyise, owayengumlutha wotshwala, wayemvusa phakathi kwamabili adlale phambi kwabangane bakhe futhi amvimbele ukuthi adlale emini ukuze ezokwazi ukufundela umculo. Ngenxa yalokho, wayengakwazi ukujabulela ubuntwana bakhe.
Ingcindezi yomndeni ibingabekezeleleki kangangoba eneminyaka engu-17 uBeethoven washiya inhlokodolobha yase-Austria. Ngokushesha kwakumele abuye azobingelela unina, owabulawa isifo sofuba. Ezinyangeni ezimbalwa kamuva, ubaba wakhe wahlushwa ukucindezeleka okujulile, ukuba kwakhe umlutha wotshwala kwaba kubi kakhulu wagcina esejele.
U-Beethoven osemusha kwakudingeka anakekele abafowabo abancane, ngakho-ke wachitha iminyaka emihlanu efundisa upiyano futhi edlala i-violin eqenjini lezinsimbi lendawo ukuze ondle umndeni ngokwezimali. Kepha kwathi lapho eqala ukugqama njengomqambi, isikhashana ngemuva kokudala i-First Symphony yakhe, waqala ukubona izimpawu zokuqala zesifo esibi kunoma yimuphi umculi: isithulu.
Leyo nkinga, kunokuthi imhlukanise nothando lwakhe, yamnikeza amandla amasha futhi waqala ukuqamba ngomkhuhlane. Kuthiwa ubekwazi ukukwenza ngqo ephepheni ngoba ulalele amanothi asekhanda lakhe. Umqambi empeleni wayengenayo upiyano egumbini lapho aqamba khona ngoba wayekhetha ukungadlali lolu qwembe ngoba lwaluzodlala kabi.
Ngasekupheleni kwempilo yakhe, wayesecishe kwaphela ukuzwa. Kepha lapho ukungezwa kwakhe kuqhubekela phambili, umculo wakhe wavela ngokwengeziwe, mhlawumbe ngoba wayethanda amanothi aphansi naphakathi kakhulu njengoba engazizwanga kahle izindawo eziphakemeyo.
3. UFrida Kahlo, umdwebo ozelwe ubuhlungu
Esinye isibonelo sokuqina yimpilo kaFrida Kahlo. Yize ezalwe emndenini wamaciko, eminyakeni yokuqala akazange akhombise intshisekelo ethile kwezobuciko noma ekudwebeni. Kuthe eneminyaka eyisithupha wahlaselwa uvendle obekuzofushanisa umlenze wakhe wangakwesokudla, owaba ngundabamlonyeni ezinganeni.
Kodwa-ke, lokhu akuzange kumvimbe ekubeni yintombazane engazethembi nentsha, onentshisekelo kwezemidlalo eyayimenza anyakaze ukuze abuyisele inkinga engokomzimba. Ngo-18, konke bekuzoshintsha ngenxa yengozi embi.
Ibhasi abehamba ngayo lishayiswe yitramu. Imiphumela yaba mibi: ukuphuka okuningi nokulimala komgogodla. Konke lokhu kwamlethela ukuhlupheka okukhulu empilweni yakhe yonke. UFrida uhlinzwe ama-32 eminyakeni edlule, eminye yaba nemiphumela emibi, ukululama isikhathi eside kanye ne-sequelae esibi, wasebenzisa izicathulo ezihlanganisa izicathulo zomgogodla ezingaba ngu-25 ukulungisa isimo.
Kwakungalesi sikhathi, ngenxa yokunganyakazi ayebhekene nakho, lapho aqala khona ukupenda. Imidwebo yakhe edumile imele ukuhlupheka, ubuhlungu nokufa, kodwa futhi nothando nentshisekelo yokuphila. Eqinisweni, yize umsebenzi wakhe uvame ukufakwa kumdwebo we-surrealist, uFrida wathi akazange apende amaphupho akhe, kodwa iqiniso lakhe.
Wayekhulelwe kathathu okwaphela ngokuphuphunyelwa yizisu futhi nobudlelwano bothando / inzondo noDiego Rivera abuzange busize ekufezeni impilo ezolile ngokomzwelo.
Eminyakeni yamuva ubuhlungu buye baba bukhulu kwaze kwadingeka nokuthi banqunywe ingxenye yomlenze wakhe wangakwesokudla, ngaphansi kwedolo, esongelwa yisilonda esibhibhayo. Kodwa-ke, uFrida uthole ekudwebeni indlela yokusinda nokukhuluma. Eqinisweni, umsebenzi wakhe wakamuva, awubiza ngokuthi "Viva la vita!" futhi wasayina ezinsukwini eziyisishiyagalombili ngaphambi kokuba ashone, kuyinkomba yokuba khona kwakhe.
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