Ukuxhumana okungokomzwelo esikudalayo nabantu abasizungezile kungamandla amakhulu omphefumulo. Sonke sidinga ukuqonda nokuqinisekiswa. Ukuzwa ukuthi kukhona, okungenani omunye umuntu endaweni yonke, oqondayo futhi asisekele.
Kodwa-ke, emphakathini oxhumeke kakhulu, siya ngokuya sixhuma, kepha futhi asikho kakhulu futhi, ngakho-ke, sisodwa. Abantu abaningi bakhona ngokomzimba, kepha ngokwengqondo nangokomzwelo bakude. Banqekuzisa amakhanda bengazi njengoba bebuka omakhalekhukhwini babo. Bayakhohlwa ingxoxo ngoba abakaze bangene.
Vele, asikwazi ukuxhuma ngokomzwelo lapho amakhanda ethu akwezinye izindawo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, i-resonance empathic ifaka phakathi ukuxhumana nomhlaba wangaphakathi womunye ukuze umsize abhekane nezinkinga noma amnikeze ukusekelwa akudingayo.
Kuyini ngempela ukuzwakala kokuzwelana?
Umqondo we-resonance empathic ususelwe ku-Humanistic Psychology. Ngokwesimo se-Rogersian psychotherapy, i-resonance empathic isho indlela ejulile yokubona ubudlelwano phakathi kwabantu ngoba kubheka lokho okushiwo omunye - konke akushoyo, lokho akuthulayo, akuvezayo ngamagama nalokho akuvezayo ngomzimba .
Ngokungefani nozwela, ukuzwelana nokuzwela akubandakanyi ukushiya eceleni ukuzibeka ezicathulweni zomunye umuntu, kepha kunalokho sisebenzisa i- "I" yethu ukuxhumana nomunye umuntu, ukwamukela ngangokunokwenzeka kokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo, imizwa nemibono yabo, kepha ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa ukubona ukuthi imizwa yabo bonke abantu ingeyabani.
Ukusiza abanye ngokuvimbela izinkinga zabo ekusihuduleni kanye nabo
Theuzwela yazuza ukugqama ngenkathi umqondo wokuzwelana ngokuzwelana uhlala emathunzini. Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukusiza abanye ngaphandle kokukhukhulwa yisiphepho.
Uzwela umzamo wokuqondisisa kokuhlangenwe nakho nemizwa yomunye. Kungukuzibeka esikhundleni sakhe. Kepha imvamisa ukuzwelana kwehluleka ukuqalisa futhi kukhawulelwa kuzwelo noma ukukhathazeka okuzwelana nathi okungasilimaza thina nabanye, kusivimbe ekuthatheni okudingekayo ibanga ngokwengqondo ukuba wusizo.
Ukuphindaphindwa kwama-empathic akusho ukuthi "kuyafana" komunye, kepha kugcina ukuhlukana okuthile. Lelo banga yilona elisivumela ukuthi sinikeze usizo olufanele. I-Emponic resonance isivumela ukuthi sibhekane nesimo sakhe, kepha ngendlela ehlukile, evame ukuphelela ngokuphelele Ngakho izihlahla azisivimbi ekuboneni ihlathi. Singakwazi ukubona izinkinga ezinkulu zomunye nezingxabano noma amasu okungasebenzi kahle abawenzayo.
I-resonance ye-Empathic isho ukubhekana nezinkinga nemizwelo yomuntu, kepha ngaphandle kwalokhu kuphazamisa ukucabanga kwethu ngoba imingcele ye- "I" yethu ayisuswanga, kepha kunalokho yenza njengolwelwesi oludingekayo lokuzivikela olusivumela ukuthi sinikeze usizo olufanele.
Ungayakha kanjani i-resonance enozwela? Amakhono abalulekile
• Ukuqwashisa nokunaka ngokugcwele. Kuyisinyathelo sokuqala ngaphandle kwaso okungenakwenzeka ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo nokunye. Kuqukethe ukuba khona ngokugcwele lapha nalapha, ukunaka osisebenzisayo. Kusho ukuba khona kwangempela nentshisekelo eqotho ekukhathazekeni komunye.
• Ucwaningo lwesipiliyoni. Kubandakanya ukusesha okusebenzayo kokuhlangenwe nakho okuyinkimbinkimbi kokunye. Kusho ukwedlula lokhu okubonayo futhi ungagculiseki kokukha phezulu, kepha uzama ukujula incazelo ejulile evame ukucasha ngemuva kwamagama.
• Ukuveza imizwa okusebenzayo. Kusho ukufaka amagama noma ukuhumusha ngezenzo lokho esizizwa ngakho. Lapho siveza ubuthakathaka bethu noma ukuvuleka ngokomzwelo, sikhuthaza omunye ukuthi enze okufanayo ukuxhuma ezingeni elijulile. Awunamahloni ngobuhlungu, ukwehluleka noma omunye umuzwa, kepha uwasebenzisela ukwakha amabhuloho.
• Ukwazisa okungenamibandela. Noma ikuphi ukugxekwa noma ukuzama ukwahlulela kukhansela uzwela. Kungakho ukuzwakala kwe-empathic kudinga ukwazisa okungenamibandela. Akusho ukuthi uvumelana nemibono yomunye umuntu, kepha kunalokho kuqinisekisa okwenzeka kubo ngokomzwelo ngokukhombisa ukwamukelwa okungenamibandela ukuze umuntu ezwe eqondwa futhi esekelwa.
Imithombo
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Umnyango I-Emponic resonance, ukhiye wokusiza abanye ngokuvimbela izinkinga zabo ukuthi zingasidicileli phansi yashicilelwa okokuqala ngo Ikhona lePsychology.
