Ingqondo yethu lulawulo kunye nocwangco olungaqhelekanga. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, injongo yayo kukusigcina sikhuselekile, ke kufuneka ilindele izisongelo ezinokubakho ezinokusilumkisa. Ngenxa yesi sizathu, ujonga yonke indawo iipateni ezimnceda ukuba aqonde ixesha elidlulileyo kwaye aqikelele ikamva.
Le pareidolia, equka ukutolika i-stimulus engacacanga kunye ne-random njengemilo ebonakalayo, njengaxa sibona umfanekiso emafini, ngumzekelo wemizamo yethu yobuchopho ukukhangela iipateni ezibonakalayo kunye nokuzisa ucwangco oluthile kwisiphithiphithi.
Nakubomi bemihla ngemihla sizama ukunika ingcaciso kwinto eyenzekayo kuthi. Sizama ukuqonda ukuba ingxolo eyayisoyikisa ivela phi okanye kutheni iqabane lethu ligqibe ekubeni libuphelise ubuhlobo. Sinemfuno engxamisekileyo yokufumana intsingiselo esengqiqweni yoko kwenzeka kuthi. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha sinokubanjwa kukhangelo lwentsingiselo
Okukhona kukho ukungaqiniseki, kokukhona kukho imfuneko yokufuna ingcaciso
Ngo-2008, iingcali zengqondo kwiYunivesithi yaseTexas ziyila uluhlu lwezilingo zokuvavanya indlela esisabela ngayo kwiimeko ezingaqinisekanga. Baye bavula imvakalelo yokungakhuseleki kwabathathi-nxaxheba kunye nokusilela kolawulo emva koko babacela ukuba bazintywilisele kwiimeko zentelekelelo, ezinje ngemarike yemasheya, okanye babukele imifanekiso engashukumiyo kumabonakude.
Baye bafumanisa ukuba abantu abangenalo ulawulo banokubona iipatheni ezikhohlisayo, ezifana nokubona imifanekiso kwisikrini sikamabonwakude ngaphandle komqondiso, ukuzoba ulungelelwaniso olungekhoyo kwidatha ye-stock market, ukuqonda amayelenqe, kunye nokuphuhlisa iinkolelo.
Okubangel 'umdla kukuba, xa izazi ngengqondo zabacela ukuba benze umthambo wokuziqinisekisa, abathathi-nxaxheba bazola baza bayeka ukukhangela iipatheni apho kungekho nanye.
Olu vavanyo lubonise ukuba xa siziva ngathi asikho ukulawula ikamva lethu, ingqondo iqulunqa iipateni ukuze isinike imvakalelo yokulawula esenza sizive sikhuselekile ngakumbi. Ewe kunjalo, lukhuseleko olukhohlisayo, kodwa xa singayifumani, imbonakalo inokuba mbi ngakumbi kuba ubuchopho bethu bunokubambelela kumjikelo wokukhangela intsingiselo.
Xa uhlalutyo lukhokelela ekukhubazekeni
UViktor Frankl, ugqirha wengqondo owasinda kwiinkampu zoxinaniso zamaNazi, wenza ukukhangela intsingiselo eyakhe. leitmotiv. Wayekholelwa ukuba ukuze soyise iinzingo kufuneka siqonde okwenzekayo kuthi. Nangona kunjalo, intsingiselo uFrank wayebhekisela kuyo yayingeyongcaciso ephilileyo kodwa intsingiselo yengqondo yomntu. Umahluko usenokubonakala uchubekile, kodwa ubalulekile.
Abantu abazama ukufumana ingcaciso ngayo yonke into eyenzekayo kubo bawela emgibeni: ukucinga kakhulu. Kuqhelekile ukufelwa ngumntu esimthandayo, ingakumbi ukuba ukufa kwabo bekungalindelekanga. Umnqweno wokuqala kukukhangela ingcaciso. Siyazixelela ukuba ukuba siyayiqonda into eyenzekileyo, singadlula kuyo. Kodwa akusoloko kunjalo.
Ngamanye amaxesha sinokubanjwa kukhangelo lwentsingiselo. Singadlula kwiinkcukacha eziliwaka kunye namaxesha angacacisi nto kuba inyaniso yeyokuba iingozi ziyenzeka kwaye akusoloko kukho ingcaciso esengqiqweni enokusenza sithobe umoya.
Oko ingqondo yethu ikhangeleyo kukuzithemba okuvela kulawulo kunye nocwangco. Sijonge umgca wesizathu-nesiphumo sobudlelwane esibuyisela imvakalelo yokhuseleko esiphulukene nayo. Kodwa xa sijongana notshintsho olungalindelekanga, isiphithiphithi kunye nokungaqiniseki kuyalawula, ke ukukhangela intsingiselo kuhlala kusikhokelela kwisiphelo esifileyo.
Ukuzama ukufumana ingcaciso ngayo yonke into akusoloko kuzisombulula iingxaki. Ukuba siwela kulo mgibe, sinokude sibhidanise ukucinga nokwenza. Ngaloo ndlela uhlalutyo lukhokelela ekukhubazekeni.
Nangona kunzima ukuyamkela, asisoloko sikwazi ukufumana ingcaciso esengqiqweni yezinto. Asinakusoloko sifumana unobangela. Ngamanye amaxesha sinokuzama kuphela, sicinge okanye sizame ukusombulula iziphelo ezixengayo. Enyanisweni, ngamanye amaxesha ulwazi – oluphakanyiswe luluntu lwethu njengelona xabiso liphezulu – aluniki ntuthuzelo, ngakumbi xa singenakwenza nto ukusombulula ingxaki.
Ngamanye amaxesha oko kufuna intsingiselo kugcina kunxunguphalisa. Kunokuba isincede samkele okwenzekileyo, isigcina sikwimo yokukhanyela, sizikhabe izibakala kuba nje zingahambelani nembono yethu yehlabathi. Kodwa akufuneki siwele kwimpazamo ye-Hegelian yokucinga ukuba ukuba ithiyori ayivumelani neenyani, kubi ngakumbi kwiinyani. Ukuba asizamkeli izibakala, asiyi kukwazi ukuziqhelanisa neemeko yaye amathuba okubandezeleka maninzi.
Ukwamkelwa kokuqala, kukhangelwe intsingiselo yobuqu
Inzima. Ndiyazi. Siziva sinesidingo sokufumana inkcazo ngokuziphatha kwabanye kunye nezinto ezenzeka kuthi kuba ngale ndlela sikholelwa ukuba sinolawulo oluthile, ukuba kukho ucwangco oluthile kunye nengqiqo emhlabeni.
Kodwa kukho amaxesha apho kufuneka siyeke ukucinga kwaye siqalise ukwamkela.
Oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka sithathe yonke into ngokulula kwaye silungiselele iimpendulo zokuqala okanye sizinze ubuvila bokuqonda, kodwa simele siqinisekise ukuba loo ngcamango ayingeni loop, ukungaphumeleli ngokupheleleyo.
Kufuneka siyamkele into yokuba asinakuyiqonda yonke into. Nokuba inobunzima kuthi. Ukuba asiyi kusoloko sifumana ingcaciso esengqiqweni esanelisayo okanye esithuthuzelayo. Ukuba izinto azihlali zihambelana nembono yethu yehlabathi.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ngenxa yokulinganisela kwengqondo kunye nempilo yengqondo, kungcono ukuyeka ukuzingcungcuthekisa sifuna ingcaciso. Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka siyifake isiceloulwamkelo olukhulu. Zinike imvume yokuqhubeka. Ukuyeka iintlungu.
Ngelo xesha, xa sikwamkele okwenzekileyo, sinokudlulela phambili ekukhangeleni intsingiselo yobuqu. Loo ntsingiselo asiyongcaciso esengqiqweni yoko kwenzekileyo, kodwa yintsingiselo eyintloko esivumela ukuba sidibanise amava kwibali lethu lobomi. Ayikokukhangela oonobangela kunye nezizathu zexesha elidlulileyo, kodwa kukufuna ukufundisa ngekamva.
Intsingiselo yomntu yiyona nto isigcina sihamba. Njengoko uFrankl esithi: “Ngenye imini igqirha elidala landibona lithetha ngodandatheko olukhulu elaliphethwe lulo. Akazange ayilibale into yokufelwa ngumfazi wakhe, owayefe kwiminyaka emibini edluleyo nowayemthanda ngaphezu kwayo yonke enye into. Ndandiza kumnceda njani? Bendizomxelela ntoni? Kaloku, andizange ndimxelele nantoni na ndaza ndambuza lo mbuzo ulandelayo: 'Ngekwenzeka ntoni Gqirha, ukuba wayefe kuqala waza wasinda umfazi wakhe?' 'Owu…' watsho, 'ngekuba kubi kuye, ngewayebandezeleke kakhulu!' Ndaza ndaphendula ndathi: ‘Uyabona, gqirha, umsindisile konke oko kubandezeleka; kodwa ngoku uya kuyihlawula ngokusinda nangokumbambazela ukufa kwakhe.
“Akazange athethe nto, wacotha isandla sam waphuma eofisini yam kuthe cwaka. Ukubandezeleka kuyeka ukubandezeleka ngendlela ethile xa ifumana intsingiselo, njengombingelelo. "
Umda:
Whitson, J. A. & Galinsky, A. D. (2008) Ukunqongophala kokuLawula Yandisa iMvo yePattern eNgekholekileyo. inzululwazi; 322 (5898): 115-117 .
UFrankl, V. (1979) El hombre en busca de sentido. UMhleli woHlelo: Barcelona.
Umnyango Ukufuna intsingiselo yayo yonke into kunokukugwebela ukukhanyela nokukhubazeka yaqala ukupapashwa ngo Ikhonkco lePsychology.
