Xa bevalelwa bodwa bajongana ne "I" yabo.
Ngubani umntu onesidima oza kuphuma omelele kwaye aphuculwe, othe endaweni yakhe waba ngumntu onobuntu obubi nobuyingozi umzuzu uzisa ukungonwabi okuhamba kunye nokukhathazeka kunye nokungabikho koncedo okubangelwa kukuphulukana namandla amakhulu aqhutywa ngokwenkqubo kumaxhoba abo.
Ngumzuzu wokudodobalisa abantu abenza izinto ezingekho mthethweni njengoko amaqabane abo "abafazi" eshiywe ngenkani, ubudlelwane obudlulayo nobuziphethe kakubi buvaliwe.
Umsindo wakhe uyingozi kwaye uhlala ekhula ngalo mzuzu kwaye ungena ngaphakathi kweendonga zekhaya lakhe ezibonakala ngathi ziyimivalo yekheyiji.
I-narcissist isetyenziselwa ukuhamba rhoqo isuka kwelinye iqabane iye kwelinye isasaza iintlungu, inkohliso, amacebo kunye nolonwabo ngokunika nokuthatha isondo kunye neemvakalelo ezinamandla ezibangela oko kubizwa ngokuba "kukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo" kumaxhoba enza "abafazi" bakhe idale iminyaka kunye neminyaka yokuzibophelela.
Ngexesha elifutshane kakhulu uyakwazi ukwenza ngokukhawuleza okukhulu kwaye ngendlela enyanzelekileyo ye-neurotic yokuzibonelela kangangoko kunokwenzeka ngamandla kunye namandla abalulekileyo awakwaziyo ukuwasusa kwimithombo yakhe, imithombo yeemvakalelo enokuthi ibe yeyokuqala kunye neyesibini, I-narcissist inexesha elikhethiweyo apho ijika khona kwaye ijikeleze eyona ikhethiweyo ijikeleze (ngendlela efihliweyo) kweminye imithombo emininzi ekuthiwa yasesekondari ngamaqabane esathelayithi apho ifumana khona nakwiimvakalelo ezimbi nezintle. uhlobo lokudibana okwexeshana okwenziwe ngokwesondo lokuziphatha kakubi okanye ukudibana apho unokufumana khona naluphi na uhlobo lwenzuzo yabo.
Ke ngoko, ukushenxisa le nkululeko ibalulekileyo ukuze uzibonelele ngala mandla asisondlo esisisiseko sokwenza "ubuxoki ukuba bukhulu" buphile, oko kuthetha ukuzincama kwimodus operandi efunekayo ukondla ukuzithemba, ukuzithemba loo nto ayibikho kubuntu be-narcissistic kwaye yiyo kanye le nto aba narcissists bahlala bekhangela amaqabane amatsha (amaxhoba) "abawasebenzisayo" ukuzibonelela ngeemvakalelo ezibalulekileyo.
Nokuba ziphi na iimvakalelo zabo, ezimbi okanye ezintle kumnxibelelanisi ziyafana, kuba siyakhumbula ukuba oonontlalontle abakwazi ukuziva uthando kodwa banakho ukuba ngabadlali abanobuchule.
Bayayazi indlela yokulingisa uthando, bayayazi indlela yokwenza ngayo ngenxa yeminyaka kunye namava amava kunye nokuzonwabisa abahlala kwaye badla emva kwexhoba labo elingalindelekanga.
Ukusukela besebancinci banendlala engaqhelekanga yeemvakalelo ezinamandla abazifunayo, bahlala bekhangela ezitsha kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha befumana enye, bayayicinezela, bayihluphe kwaye bayigqibe ngexeshana elifutshane (ngesiqhelo ixesha lobunzululwazi elivavanyiweyo liyahamba ukusuka kwi-18 ukuya kwi-24 yeenyanga ubuninzi kulwalamano ngalunye) ngendlela yokubawa kunye ne-bulimic, ukungenisa kangangoko kunokwenzeka kwaye emva koko ulahle yonke into ngokukhanyela okunzulu kunye nokudelela ngexesha elifanelekileyo, umzuzu osondele kutshintsho olucwangcisiweyo kunye namaxesha eqabane oko kwenzeka ngexesha elifanelekileyo xa sele kukho into esele ikulungele ukuyibuyisela!
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Kodwa lumka, i oonokresa Njengoko sele kukhankanyiwe kwamanye amanqaku angaphambili, abaze bawashiye ngokuqinisekileyo amaxhoba abo kodwa banikwe ithuba esinokuthi ngokukhuselekileyo baqalisa ngokwabo inkqubo yokubeka bodwa ngokubeka ixhoba labo elifutshane, eliphakathi okanye nelide kakhulu.kunye nezinto zabo ukuba ziphinde zisetyenziswe ixesha elifanelekileyo.
Ukusetyenziswa kwakhona kwenzeka ngento ebizwa ngokuba yi-cu-cu ye-narcissist ephawula ukuvela kwayo kwakhona kubomi bexhoba langaphambili nasemva kweminyaka emininzi. Oku kwenzeka ngocwangco kwaye kungqinwa ngabo bonke abajongane nezi meko ziphazamisekileyo.
Ixhoba ngesiquphe ngexesha lobomi bakhe nakwiminyaka kamva, lifumana umyalezo obulisayo "onenkohliso" ongenabungozi ku-whatsapp okanye enye into evelayo kwaye kukho umgxobhozo wento ebizwa ngokuba "kukubuya kwe-narcissist" ekufuneka silumke kakhulu ukusebenzisa iinkqubo zokuzikhusela ngamanani okuthintela njalo njalo.
Lizisa ntoni eli xesha le-coronavirus kwi-narcissist yezifo?
Izisa ukungazithembi okunzulu, izisa ukubona amaphupha amabi ebusweni awakwaziyo ukubaleka ukubulela ekuphunyezweni kwemihla ngemihla kunye nokuziphatha kwakhe "okuqhelekileyo" kokuziphatha okuvumela ukuba angacingi ngokuguga esoyika, ngaphezulu koko, ilahleko Ubuhle bayo buyinika imeko engapheliyo yokuphelelwa lithemba, ubuhle obusemngciphekweni, ubuhle obuhlala busakhiwa ngokubhenela kulungiso longenelelo lotyando oluhlala lumele uphawu olwahlukileyo kumfanekiso wabantu ababhalisayo.
Ngaphaya koko, ixesha lakhe likhokelela ekucingeni ngolunye uloyiko olufihliweyo noluyinto eqhelekileyo kummeli we-narcissist, oko kukuthi, ukufa, okumbuyisela kwiimbandezelo eziphambili ezihlala zihleli ebumnyameni bomntu.
I-coronavirus inyanzelisa i-narcissist ukuba ibuze yona kwaye inyanzelise ukucinga, phambi koloyiko lwayo lwakudala lokuba ngoku inyanzelekile ukuba ijonge emehlweni, uloyiko lokuba kwingqondo esempilweni sekunzima ukujongana nayo kodwa kwi-narcissist Ukutshabalalisa okunzulu okuyingozi kunye nokubakho kwazo zonke iziseko awathi ukususela ebuntwaneni wazakha ngononophelo kwaye ziziseko zobuntu bakhe obuphazamisekileyo.
Ukuzahlula kuye kumnyanzele ngokuchasene nokuthanda kwakhe ukuze angabinakho ukusebenzisa ithuba lokudibana okomzuzwana nemithombo yakhe yeemvakalelo eziphambili kunye nezinye ezizezona zibalulekileyo ukubaleka kumaxhala akhe, uxinzelelo kunye nokulayisha into engekhoyo kuye ye-narcissist ngubani oziva ehlala eyedwa kwaye engonwabanga ngaphandle kokubonakala ngobuchule akwenzileyo ekuhambeni kwexesha njengomfanekiso wakhe.
Ukuzithemba kwakhe kulilize ukuba uyasilela ukondla ubugqwetha bakhe bendalo, ukuba akabuyiseli amandla avela kwizenzo zakhe zokulawula amaxhoba, ukuba uyasilela ukwenza ukungcungcutheka kwakhe kwesiqhelo kubalulekile ukuze abe nezixhobo zamandla ezixabisekileyo!
Kuba ukuba i-narcissist ilahlekelwe yiyo yonke into emchaza enjalo, uyahluthwa onke amandla akhe amabi kwaye awele kuxinzelelo olukhulu nolunzulu, esoyika ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba achaswe kwaye ajongane namaxhoba akhe athi ngexeshana lokuvalelwa yedwa enje ngale, kude nokuhlukunyezwa kwabo, kuyathenjwa ukuba kwabanye babo imvakalelo yokuvuka iyavuthwa kwicala losindiso, indlela enzima kodwa ebaluleke kakhulu yokuxhaphaza kwaye isebenza ukubuyisela amandla akho kunye namandla omntu.
Kungenxa yezi zizathu zokuba ukubonakala kwe-vampire ye-narcissistic kuya kuba mbalwa ngakumbi kwaye kunqabile njengoko bengazukufuna ukuphulukana namandla abo okugqibela anethemba lokuba ukuphela kusondele kokunyanzelwa bodwa, baya kufuna ukugcina Babuyele ukuhlwayela amandla abo kwimithombo yabo.
Kulungile kumaxhoba, thatha ithuba lokuzisindisa!
Kumaxhoba abuthathaka kwaye abuthathaka umngcipheko wokuphinda ubuye kodwa uhlala ngeli xesha lokwahlulahlula kwi-covid-19.
Ukuhlalutya lo mzuzu unzima obangelwe ngulo bhubhane ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga amaxhoba e-narcissists, masithi abo bakwisigaba esiphakathi ubudlelwane kunye ne-vampire kwaye bazifumana behamba phakathi kwesiphepho esineemvakalelo ezibangelwa yi-narcissist yabo ye-pathological, umzuzu onzima kubo apho batyhalwa ngamandla ukuba bafune abo babangcungcuthekisayo njengoko kwenzeka into engathandekiyo kubo. Uthando "kodwa olwa (njengoko kuchaziwe amatyeli aliqela kwamanye amanqaku angaphambili kule kholamu) kuphela kukulutha kwemichiza ye-neural kukungabikho kokubandezeleka okubangelwa yi-narcissism elusizi ephunyezwe ngobuchule obucokisekileyo zezi zifundo zincinci zikhohlakeleyo.
Endaweni yoko, yomelela kwaye ungagungqi kwiinjongo zakho ezilungileyo, amaxhoba kufuneka akholelwe kube kanye kubomi babo kwizakhono zabo kwaye basebenzise eli thuba kude ukuba benze kwaye bazinikele ekucamngceni nasekuzihlalutyeni ngokwenza umthambo oluncedo onokufumaneka ngokulula Umnatha ongezantsi: ifomathi yeaudiyo nevidiyo eyakhiwe ziingcali kwicandelo kwaye ezingqina ukuba ziluncedo olukhulu ekomelezeni ukuzithemba komntu ekuphela kwento enokuthintela ubuthi bokulunywa yi-vampire.
Ukuhlala uphaphile kwaye ulucid kubalulekile ukuze ungabambeleli kulumko lothando olungeyonyani, oku kubekwa bucala ngumzuzu wokukhuthaza "ukuvusa" umntu onempilo kodwa ube nethuba lokuba ngcono kwabo sele bephilile kude kuncinci okanye akukho nto.
Ukuvuka okungummangaliso kwamaxhoba e-narcissism yezifo ekufuneka zivelise kubo umnqweno wokugqibela ukudibana nabantu abatsha, abantu abasempilweni nabangaphazanyiswa!
Ngokusika ngokuqinisekileyo onke amaqhina anokubakho nabantu abayingozi abaphila ngokumunca amandla abalulekileyo kubantu abanovelwano kwaye bekhangela "uthando lokwenene", isigaba esitsha sobukho bomntu siya kungeniswa, sinike umbono oyinyani kwaye ocacileyo kubudlelwane ebenabo ngesihloko se-pathological kwaye ngubani oshiye ngasemva.
Oku kubekwa yedwa ngumzuzu okhethekileyo wokuba wonke umntu asebenzise ithuba lokutshintsha ubomi babo.
La maxesha anzima kakhulu kwaye kuya kufuneka womelele ukuzikhulula kulo naluphi na ulwalamano olunetyhefu, yinto elungileyo kwaye eyahlukileyo kunethuba elinqabileyo lokususa i-vampire yamandla kunye neempembelelo zayo eziyingozi, ukuphinda uzilungiselele kwaye uthathe imeko leyo.
Ukuqwalaselwa okupapashiweyo kuthathwe kumava obomi bam kunye nobungcali obuye bandinika ithuba kwiminyaka esixhenxe yokuba ndikwazi ukufunda nzulu ngezi zinto ziyingozi eluntwini.
Ndicacisa ukuba andinguye ugqirha wezengqondo okanye ingcali kodwa ukunxibelelana kwaba bantu baphazamisekileyo kundikhokelele ekwandiseni ulwazi lwam ngalo mbandela ngokuthelekisa kule minyaka idlulileyo kunye noochwephesha bezengqondo kunye nabanyangi abanamava, endibahloniphayo kwaye ndibulela ngokusebenzisana kuphuhliswa uphando olwenziweyo.
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