Hukama hwepamoyo hwatinogadzira nevanhu vakatikomberedza ipeturu ine simba yemweya. Tese tinoda kunzwisiswa nekusimbiswa. Kuti unzwe kuti kune, zvirinani mumwe munhu muchadenga, anotinzwisisa nekutitsigira.
Nekudaro, munharaunda yakasangana ne hyper, isu tiri kuwedzera kubatana, asi zvakare hatipo uye, nekudaro, tiri toga. Vanhu vazhinji varipo panyama, asi mupfungwa nepfungwa zviri kure. Vanogutsirira misoro vasipo vakatarisa nharembozha dzavo. Vanokanganwa hurukuro nekuti havana kumbobvira vabatanidzwa.
Ehe, isu hatigone kubatana nemanzwiro kana misoro yedu iri kumwe kunhu. Empathic resonance, kune rimwe divi, inosanganisira kubatana nenyika yemukati yekumubatsira kukurira matambudziko kana kungomupa rutsigiro rwaanoda.
Chii chaizvo chinonzi empathic resonance?
Pfungwa ye empathic resonance ine midzi yayo muHumanistic Psychology. Muchirevo cheRogersian psychotherapy, empathic resonance inoreva nzira yakadzama yekuona hukama hwehukama sezvo ichifunga izvo zvinotaurwa nemumwe - zvese zvaanotaura, zvaakanyarara, zvaanotaura nemazwi uye nezvaanotaura nemitauro yemuviri .
Kusiyana nekunzwira tsitsi, kunzwira tsitsi hakurevi kuti ubve parutivi kuti uzviise iwe mune shangu dzemumwe munhu, asi asi kushandisa yedu "I" kubatana nemumwe munhu, kuva unogamuchira sezvinobvira kune zvavakaona, manzwiro uye mazano, asi pasina kurasikirwa nekuona yekuti manzwiro emunhu wese ndeapi.
Kubatsira vamwe nekudzivirira matambudziko avo kuti arege kutikwevera pamwe navo
L 'kunzwira tsitsi yakawana mukurumbira apo pfungwa yekunzwira tsitsi yakaramba iri mumumvuri. Zvisinei, zvakakosha kubatsira vamwe pasina kukukurwa nedutu.
Tsitsi ndiko kuyedza kugadzirisa mune izvo zvinoitika uye nemanzwiro eimwe. Kuri kuzviisa munzvimbo yake. Asi kazhinji kunzwira tsitsi kunokundikana kusimuka uye kunogumira kunzwira tsitsi kana kunetseka kunetswa kunogona kutikuvadza isu nevamwe, kuchititadzisa kutora izvo zvinodiwa kure kwepfungwa kubatsira.
Empathic resonance hazvireve kuva "zvakafanana" kune imwe, asi kuchengetedza imwe mhando yekuparadzaniswa. Daro iro ndiro rinotibvumidza kupa rubatsiro rwakakodzera. Empathic resonance inotibvumidza isu kusangana nemamiriro ake ezvinhu, asi neimwe nzira, kazhinji kazhinji yakazara nzira. Saka miti haititadzise kuona sango. Tinogona kukwanisa kuziva mamwe matambudziko akakura nekukonana kana nzira dzisiri kushanda dzavari kuisa mukuita.
Emponic resonance inosanganisira kusangana nematambudziko nemanzwiro, asi pasina izvi kudzikatidza kufunga kwedu nekuti miganho ye "ini" haina kudzimwa, asi zvinoshanda seyakakodzera dziviriro inotibvumidza kupa rubatsiro rwakakodzera.
Nzira yekukudziridza kunzwira tsitsi resonance? Unyanzvi hwakakosha
• Kuziva uye kunyatsoteerera. Iyi ndiyo nhanho yekutanga isina iyo isingakwanise kubatana pamweya neimwe. Inosanganisira kuve izere zviripo mune ino uye ikozvino, kutarisisa kune wedu interlocutor. Zvinoreva kuvapo kwechokwadi uye kufarira kwechokwadi mune zvinonetsa zveumwe.
• Kutsvaga ruzivo. Inosanganisira kutsvaga kushingaira kwezviitiko zvakaoma zveimwe. Zvinoreva kuenda pamusoro pezvaunoona uye usinga gutsikane nezvapamusoro, asi kuyedza kudzamisa chirevo chakadzama chinowanzohwanda kuseri kwemazwi.
• Kushingaira kutaura manzwiro. Zvinoreva kuisa mumazwi kana kushandurira zviito izvo zvatinonzwa. Kana isu tichiratidza kusagadzikana kwedu kana kuvhurika pamoyo, tinokurudzira mumwe kuti aite zvakafanana kubatanidza padanho rakadzika. Haisi kunyara nemarwadzo, kukundikana kana chero imwe pfungwa, asi kuvashandisa kuvaka mabhiriji.
• Kukoshesa zvisina muganhu. Chero kushoropodzwa kana kuyedza kutonga kunodzima tsitsi. Ichi ndicho chikonzero kunzwira tsitsi kunoda kutendiswa kusingagumi. Hazvireve hazvo kuti uchibvumirana nepfungwa dzeumwe, asi kuti usimbise zviitiko zvavo zvepamoyo nekuratidza kugamuchirwa kusingabvumirwe kuitira kuti munhu anzwe kunzwisiswa uye nekutsigirwa.
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Kupinda Empathic resonance, kiyi yekubatsira vamwe nekudzivirira matambudziko avo kubva kutiwisira pasi yakatanga kubudiswa muna Kona yePsychology.
