Zachitika kwa tonsefe kamodzi kokha: timayesa kukwaniritsa chinachake, koma timalephera. Ngakhale titapereka chidwi chathu chonse, mphamvu ndi mphamvu zathu, sitipita patsogolo. Cholinga chomwe timachilakalaka chimachulukirachulukira ndikusoweka. Zimachitikanso m'maubwenzi apakati: tikamayesa kuyandikira kwa munthu, m'pamenenso amachoka.
Ndiye tikamaponya thaulo, timadabwa kuti tinalakwitsa chiyani. Timayang'ana m'mbuyo, timakhala ndi chidwi ndikuyesera kuloza sitepe yolakwika, nthawi yomwe talephera, mawu olakwika, chifukwa chomwe sitinapambane.
Koma ngakhale kuti zingaoneke ngati zotsutsana, nthawi zina timalephera chifukwa timayesetsa kwambiri. Chifukwa nthawi zina, kuti tikwaniritse cholinga, timangofunika kukhazika mtima pansi ndikupumula pang'ono.
Kodi lamulo la reverse khama likutanthauza chiyani?
“Ngati sungathe kusambira ndi kugwera m’madzi ndi kuyesetsa mwamphamvu kukhalabe oyandama, odzala ndi zowawa, ndi mantha achibadwa amene muli nawo oti simutha kusambira, pamene mukuyenda mochulukira ndi kugwedezeka, m’pamenenso mudzakhala mozama ndiponso mofulumira. kumira. Lingaliro la reverse khama ndikungopumula, kuganiza kuti ngati mudekha ndikudzaza mapapu anu ndi mpweya, udzayandama ndipo simudzamira. analemba wanthanthi Alan Watts.
Ndi lamulo la reverse khama kapena lamulo losiyana, Alan Watts amatikumbutsa kuti ngakhale tiyenera kuyesetsa kuphunzira, kukula ndi kugonjetsa zopinga, nthawi zina tiyenera kukhala pansi ndi kuchepetsa pang'onopang'ono kuti zinthu ziyende bwino. M'malo mopita patsogolo zivute zitani, imatilimbikitsa kubwerera m'mbuyo kuti tiganizire mtunda wamaganizidwe zomwe zimatilola kuti tiwone bwinobwino zovuta zomwe tikukumana nazo.
Kuchita khama kwambiri sikutanthauza kuti nthawi zonse kumabweretsa zotsatira zabwino
M’dziko lozikidwa pa chikhalidwe cha khama, kuthaŵa chikhumbo chofuna kuchita chinachake n’kovuta kwambiri ndipo kaŵirikaŵiri kumasokonezedwa ndi kupanda chidwi kapena kusasamala. Komabe, chisangalalo chochulukirapo, kukwiya komanso kufulumira si alangizi abwino, makamaka pamikhalidwe yomwe imafunikira kulingalira, kuyanjana ndi nthawi.
Kukakamira komanso kuuma mtima kumatilepheretsa kufika pamlingo wodziwikiratu kuti timvetsetse bwino zomwe tikukumana nazo ndikuwunika zomwe tasankha. Ngati timakangana, kuthamangira, ndi kuchita zinthu zomwe zimawononga mphamvu zathu kumanzere ndi kumanja, zidzakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti tikwaniritse cholinga chathu.
Mu chikhalidwe chimenecho, tikhoza kusuntha, koma osapita patsogolo, kapena osakhala kumbali yomwe tikufuna kapena pa liwiro lomwe tikufuna. Tikakhala otanganidwa ndi cholinga kapena kutsatira njira mouma khosi, tikhoza kutaya mphamvu zambiri. M’mikhalidwe imeneyi, kuuma mtima kumatilepheretsa kuona ndi kupezerapo mwayi pa mwayi wina.
Tikamavutika kuti tikwaniritse zinazake, tikhoza kufika poona ngati sitikupita patsogolo. Pa nthawiyo timayamba kukhumudwa chifukwa chosachita mokwanira ndipo timayesetsa kwambiri. Timadzikakamiza kupitiriza. Koma kupanikizika kumangowonjezera kupsinjika ndikusokoneza kupita kwathu patsogolo.
M'malo mwake, kafukufuku wokhudzana ndi ntchito zogwirira ntchito akuwonetsa kuti timakhala ochita bwino m'maola anayi kapena asanu oyambirira a tsiku lililonse la ntchito. Zotsatirazi zikutanthawuza kutsika kwakukulu kwa ntchito, mpaka pamene kusiyana pakati pa kugwira ntchito 12 ndi 16 ola masiku kulibe, kupatula kuti timadzilanga tokha m'maganizo ndi thupi.
Lamulo la kubwezera kumbuyo limafotokozanso chinthu chatsiku ndi tsiku monga kusowa tulo. Ngati tidzuka pakati pa usiku ndipo sitingathe kugona, chinthu choipitsitsa chimene tingachite ndicho kuganizira mozama mmene tingabwererenso, chifukwa zimenezi zingatigwetse mphwayi ndi kutichititsa kukhala maso kwambiri. Ndi bwino kuvomereza kukhalapo kwa kusowa tulo ndikulola thupi kumasuka pang'onopang'ono mpaka kugwa m'manja mwa Morpheus.
Njira yomweyi imabwerezedwa mu maubwenzi apakati. Pamene tifuna kwambiri munthu pambali pathu ndi kufunafuna mabwenzi ake, m'pamenenso amamva kuti akutopa ndikuchoka kwa ife. Mwanjira imeneyi, zomwe timamenyera kwambiri zimatha kutithawa. Zomwe timagwirira ntchito molimbika zimasowa pamaso pathu.
Maganizo olondola ogwiritsira ntchito lamulo losintha
Lamulo la kubwezera mmbuyo, lomwe limadziwikanso kuti lamulo losintha zinthu, silikufanana ndi kusiya ntchito, komanso silimakukakamizani kuganiza mosasamala. M’malo mwake, limalimbikitsa kulingalira. Zimatilimbikitsa kuti tiyime panjira kuti tiwone momwe zinthu zilili ndikukhala ndi maganizo abwino kwambiri, kuti tikhale ndi moyo wabwino komanso kuti tikwaniritse zolinga zathu.
Lamulo la reverse khama limatiuza kuti sikuthandiza kwenikweni kupeza zomwe tikufuna ngati titayakulingalira bwino kapena thanzi panjira. Imatichenjeza kuti "kutsata" kapena "kumanga" munthu si nthawi zonse njira yabwino yomukokera kapena kumusunga pambali pathu.
M'malo mwake, ikufuna kuti titengere njira ina ndikuphunzira kuyenda. Watts adagwiritsa ntchito fanizo lachitsanzo: madzi amachoka tikatseka chibakera, koma titha kuchigwira tikamapumula manja athu okhala ngati mbale.
Dziko lapansi, anthu otizungulira komanso ife eni timafunikira malo ofunikira okhalamo kuti azikhala ndikuyenda. Kupsyinjika kumayambitsa kusokonezeka kwamaganizo komwe kumagwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zosiyana ndi zomwe zimatitengera kutali ndi zolinga zathu.
Aldous Huxley adatinso: “Tikamayesetsa kuchita china chake mozindikira, m'pamenenso sitipambana. Luso ndi zotsatira zimabwera kwa iwo okha omwe aphunzira luso lodabwitsa la kuchita ndi kusachita: kuphatikiza kupumula ndi ntchito ”.
Ndiko kuzindikira kuti pali nthawi yopirira ndi nthawi inanso yosiya. Mkhalidwe woterewu wamaganizidwe umatilola kukwaniritsa zolinga zathu popanda kuwonjezera kupsinjika, nkhawa kapena kukhumudwa, ndi malingaliro odekha komanso odzipatula.
Mumapeza bwanji?
Zonse zimayamba ndi kuzindikira. Ndiko kuti, kudziwa kuti nthawi zina simungathe kusambira motsutsana ndi madzi ndipo ndi bwino kulola kuti mutengeke. Chidziwitso ichi chidzatilola ife kuyang'anizana ndi zinthu mosiyana, chifukwa cha kukhazikika komwe kumachokera ku bata ndi kudziletsa, zomwe zimakhala awiri mwa ogwirizana athu abwino pankhani yochitapo kanthu.
Alan Watts adalimbikitsa kuti tizichita ngati galasi chifukwa cha izi “sasunga kalikonse, wosakana kalikonse. Amalandira, koma osagwira. " Mkhalidwe umenewu umatithandiza kukwaniritsa zolinga zathu mwabata, kulingalira, kumvetsetsa, ndipo, pamapeto pake, kuchitapo kanthu.
Pamene tiyamba kumasuka, timalolanso mphamvu zina, monga intuition. Motero timaphunzira kuzindikira pamene kuli bwino kuchitapo kanthu ndi pamene kuli bwino kudikira. Pamene kuli bwino kupitiriza ndi pamene kuli bwino kusiya. Ndipo koposa zonse, timateteza thanzi lathu komanso moyenera panjira.
Malire:
Collewet, M. & Sauermann, J. (2017) Maola ogwira ntchito ndi zokolola. Ntchito Economics; 47:96-106 .
Watts, A. (1994) La sabiduría de la inseguridad. Barcelona: Kairos.
Pakhomo Lamulo la Reverse Effort: Pamene tikufuna kwambiri chinthu, timachikana kwambiri idasindikizidwa koyamba mu Pakona ya Psychology.
