Kuika zinthu zofunika patsogolo kumapeputsa maganizo ndiponso kumapangitsa moyo kukhala wosavuta. Choncho tikhoza kuganizira kwambiri zimene zili zofunika kwambiri. Ife tikudziwa zonsezi. Komabe, tikakumana ndi tsiku latsopano, zosayembekezereka ndi zoopsa zimatikhudza ndi mphamvu zawo zonse, zomwe zimatipangitsa kuiwala zomwe timayika patsogolo. Kotero timatha kumizidwa mu zovuta zazing'ono zopanda ntchito zomwe zimakhala mabowo akuda omwe amawononga nthawi yathu ndi mphamvu zathu.
Tiyenera kuphunzira kuika zinthu zofunika patsogolo. Ife tikuzidziwa izo. Koma kodi mumaika bwanji zinthu zofunika patsogolo pamene chilichonse chikuwoneka kuti n’chachangu? Kodi tingakhale bwanji patsogolo pamene dziko limatikankhira mbali ina? Kodi mungatani kuti mukhalebe panjira ngati zinthu zonse zosayembekezereka zimaonekera ngati nkhani ya moyo kapena imfa?
Kodi mungakhazikitse bwanji zinthu zofunika kwambiri pamene chilichonse chili chachangu?
Kwa anthu omwe amadzifunira okha komanso omwe amavutika kugawira ena ntchito, "chosankha chosasinthika" nthawi zambiri chimakhala kuyang'anira chilichonse. Ikani zonse patsogolo. Mwachionekere, sikulakwa chifukwa kutopa kudzagogoda pakhomo pathu posachedwa.
Komabe, m'dziko lofulumira lomwe chilichonse chikuwoneka ngati chofunikira - koma zinthu zochepa zilidi - kuphunzira kupewa chipwirikiti ndikugawa ntchito iliyonse kufunika kwake ndi luso lofunikira ngati sitikufuna kuthedwa nzeru, kupsinjika komanso kukhumudwa.
• Tiyerekeze kuti sitiyenera kuchita chilichonse
Tikukhala mu gulu la kutopa, makamaka chifukwa chakuti aliyense wa ife amabwera ndi "msasa wathu wokakamiza", kuti afotokoze momveka bwino wanthanthi Byung-Chul Han. Timadzidyera masuku pamutu pokhulupirira kuti tikudzizindikira tokha, koma kwenikweni tingathe kudzifikitsa tokha ku malire, thupi ndi maganizo.
Zowonadi, kudzichulukitsira ndi zochita kungatipangitse kumva ngati ngwazi zapamwamba. Lingaliro lolimbana ndi chilichonse likumveka bwino. Koma si zisathe mu nthawi yaitali. Chifukwa chake, gawo loyamba loyika patsogolo ndikusiya kudzikakamiza tokha ndikuzindikira kuti sitingathe kuchita chilichonse, komanso sikofunikira. Kumatanthauza kuvomereza kuti ndife anthu ndiponso kuti ntchito zambiri zimene timachita tsiku lililonse mwina sizithandiza kuti tikhale ndi moyo wabwino.
• Khalani ndi masomphenya a dziko lonse lapansi
Kwa nthawi yayitali, kusatsimikizika kwakhazikika m'miyoyo yathu. Ndipo n’kutheka kuti adzakhala mnzathu woyenda naye kwa nthawi yaitali. Chifukwa cha kusatsimikizika, zomwe zili zofunika lero zitha kukhala zopanda ntchito mawa. Choncho, ziyenera kuzindikiridwa kuti nthawi zambiri timasowa malingaliro otakata komanso okhalitsa.
Ngati tiyang'ana chinthu chimodzi chokha, chochititsidwa khungu ndi zochitika zamasiku ano, tikhoza kuchiika kukhala chofunika kwambiri kuposa choyenera. Kuti mupulumuke msampha uwu, kulumikizana ndikofunikira. Yang'anani pozungulira ife. Yesani kuona zinthu moyenera. Sitiyenera kungoyang'ana pa zomwe zikuchitika tsopano, koma kuyang'ana kupitirira. Kodi ntchito imeneyi idzakhala yofunika bwanji mu ola limodzi, mawa, kapena mlungu wamawa? Kapenanso: ndi kofunika bwanji mu polojekiti yathu ya moyo?
• Siyanitsani zomwe zili zachangu ndi zomwe zimayikidwa patsogolo
Pokhala ndi chizungulire cha moyo watsiku ndi tsiku, ndizosavuta kusokoneza zomwe ndizofunikira mwachangu ndi zomwe zili zofunika ndikuyika zofunika patsogolo. Choncho, nthawi zonse muzikumbukira zinthu zofunika kwambiri pa moyo komanso zimene muyenera kuziika patsogolo.
Mawu oti kufulumira amachokera ku Chilatini kufulumizitsa o mwachangu, motero limatanthauza zimene zimasonkhezera kapena kuyambitsa changu. Komabe, chilichonse chomwe chili chofunikira kwa ife - kapena chilichonse chomwe timauzidwa ndichofunikira - sichofunikira ndipo, sitiyenera kuziika patsogolo. Kulemba ndandanda ya zinthu zofunika kwambiri ndi kuziika patsogolo kudzatithandiza kuziyerekezera ndi zofunika mwamsanga ndi kusankha mwamsanga mlingo wa zinthu zofunika kuziika patsogolo m’moyo wathu.
• Ganizirani zotheka zina kupatula "inde" ndi "ayi"
Imodzi mwamavuto akulu pankhani yoyika patsogolo ndizovuta kwambiri kunena kuti ayi. N’zoona kuti n’zovuta kunena kuti ayi kwa anthu amene timawakonda kapena kwa akuluakulu athu, koma tisaiwale kuti pakati pa “inde” ndi “ayi” pali zinthu zambiri zimene zingatheke.
“Inde” ndilo yankho loyenera kwambiri pamene chinthu china mwachiwonekere chiri chofulumira, chofunika ndiponso chofunika kwambiri. "Ayi" ndi yankho ku ntchito zonse zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi ife, zomwe sizili zofunika kapena zomwe sitikufuna kugonja tokha chifukwa sizikugwera m'zofunikira zathu.
Koma pali njira zina zomwe tingaganizire:
1. Kuzengereza. Ndi ntchito zomwe tingachite, koma osati nthawi yomweyo. Kotero ndi zokwanira kufotokozera kwa munthuyo kuti tikufuna kuti tiziyang'anira izo, koma kuti panthawi ino sitingathe. M’malo mwake, tingamuuze nthawi imene tidzakhalapo.
2. Gwirizanani. Ndi ntchito zomwe sitikufuna kuchita mokwanira, koma zomwe tingathandizire. M’zochitika zimenezi ndi zokwanira kufotokoza kuti ndife okondwa kuthandiza, malinga ngati winayo akugwirizana nazo.
3. Njira yothetsera. Ndi ntchito zomwe sitingathe kuchita mwanjira iliyonse, koma titha kuthandizira mwanjira ina yankho lawo, mwachitsanzo polimbikitsa katswiri kapena mapulogalamu omwe angachite gawo la ntchitoyo.
Pomaliza, tiyenera kukumbukira kuti anthu amene amatizungulira sangadziwe bwinobwino zimene tikuchitazo. Ndipotu, n’zosavuta kusambira kutuluka m’madzi. Choncho, n’zosakayikitsa kuti nafenso tiyenera “kuwaphunzitsa,” makamaka ngati takhala tikupezeka kwa iwo nthaŵi zonse ndipo zakhala zovuta kwa ife kukana.
Pakhomo Kodi mungakhazikitse bwanji zinthu zonse ngati zili zofunika kwambiri? idasindikizidwa koyamba mu Pakona ya Psychology.
