Maso a munthu wamatsenga
Ngati maso ndi galasi la moyo, ndiye kuti m'nkhani ino tikulimbana ndi galasi losweka.
Kubwerera kwa yemwe ndi wamisala wamankhwala am'magazi komanso zomwe amatha kuchita, timukumbukira mwachidule akufotokozera izi.
Timalankhula zakunyanyala kwamatenda tikakumana ndi amuna kapena akazi omwe asokonezeka, kukhala ndi mkhalidwe wawo waukulu wokhala anthu opanda chifundo chilichonse kwa ena, amawona ena ngati zinthu wamba komanso zosavuta kugwiritsa ntchito. kukwaniritsa zolinga zawo.
Kuti ndiwafike, i osokoneza bongo Amagwiritsa ntchito njira iliyonse ndipo alibe mantha kapena zododometsa za momwe angawonjezere ndi kusamalira chithunzi chawo chomwe amachiwona molakwika, mosintha komanso modzikweza, kudzipatsa ufulu wonyenga kuti athe kulamulira anthu ena.
Madera omwe angapeze chakudya chofunikira kwambiri ndi awa okhudzana ndi maubale omwe amayimira malo abwino osakira anthu ofowoka nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi chizolowezi chodzidalira kapena omwe akukumana ndi nthawi yovuta pamoyo wawo makamaka osatetezeka.
Izi ndi nyengo zabwino kwa osokoneza bongo kuti, monga zilombo zolusa zomwe zimakhalapo, amatha kununkhiza ndikudziwitsa nyamazi kulikonse komwe ali, ndipo mwayi wokha ukangodzipereka kuti udye.
I osokoneza bongo Amagwiritsa ntchito mwayi wawo kuti aphunzire malo oyenera kutengera zikhalidwe zawo, monga ma disco, makonsati, maphwando, mabwalo, malo ogulitsira, komanso munthawi yadzidzidzi yapa covid-19, komwe tikusungulumwa chifukwa chodzipatula kutsekedwa ndi kusinthanitsa, ndikosavuta kuti apeze nyama zambiri zopezeka pa intaneti makamaka pogwiritsa ntchito malo omwe amabisala ndi kubisalira kumbuyo kwa ana ankhosa abwino ndi opulumutsa pomwe zenizeni ndikuti tidalumikizana ndi mmbulu wolusa.
Ngakhale zitakhala bwanji, kuti kapena liti, zilombo zolusa nthawi zonse zimakhala tcheru komanso pakusaka nyama yatsopano makamaka ngakhale atagwira kale ena, anthu osokoneza bongo satopa.
Ndi makina osalekeza komanso abwino monga sharki omwe amatha kupeza nyama mwa kununkhiza magazi ake ngakhale atakhala kutali.
Maluso awowa amawaika pakati pamagulu azovuta zam'magulu amakono, monga anthu omwe ali ndi vuto lamakhalidwe.
Matendawa amatha kukhala osiyana siyana kapena kusiyanasiyana kutengera kulimba kwake, mpaka kulowa mgulu la akatswiri azamisala ndi ma psychopath monga olemba mbiri yakupha.
Koma ndi maluso ati oyamba omwe anthuwa akusokonezedwa kuti agwire nyama yomwe awazindikira komanso yomwe amayigwiritsa ntchito nthawi yoyandikira?
Tikudziwa kuti ozunzidwa ndi anthuwa ali ndi "mawonekedwe apadera" komanso abwino komanso mwatsoka omwe adatchulidwa pamwambapa komanso okhudzana ndi chiopsezo.
Izi ndizopangitsa kuti wozunzidwayo akhale wosiririka komanso wamtengo wapatali. Mwachitsanzo, akuyang'ana anthu omwe ali ndi kukongola kokongoletsa kapena wanzeru, womvera chisoni, womvera komanso koposa zonse zomwe wamisala samakonda ndipo zimamupangitsa kukhala wachifundo. Awa ndiwo nyama yabwino kwa narcissist wamatenda.
Izi ndizofunikira kuti asankhidwe ndi sociopath ndikukhala gawo la amuna kapena akazi ake (kutengera mkazi wa narcissist kapena bambo yemwe) ayenera kuwonjezeredwa limodzi ndi zikho zina.
Modus operandi yoyesedwa ndi kuyeserera ndikuwonjezera kudzikweza kwawo, chithunzi chawo chaulemerero chomwe chimawalimbikitsa tsiku lililonse momwe amadzipangira okha kuyambira ali aang'ono kuti akumane ndi moyo wawo.
Kubwerera ku imodzi mwazida zoopsa kwambiri zomwe umunthuwu mwachilengedwe ndizosakayikitsa kuti akuyang'ana.
Mukangopeza kumene wamatsenga kuyambira mphindi zoyambirira, kuyambira koyambirira, momwe amakuwonerani nthawi yomweyo amakulowetsani ndikulowerera koma nthawi zonse mumatsagana nthawi yomweyo ndikumverera kosavomerezeka.
Maso a munthu wamatsenga
Maonekedwe omwe, ngati angazindikiridwe mosasamala kanthu, atha kukhala imodzi mwazodzitchinjiriza zomwe zingapewe ndikudziteteza ku mavuto akulu omwe munthu angakumane nawo ngati mwatsoka wina agwera mumsampha wa wankhanza.
Maso ake amapatsa chidwi kuyambira nthawi yoyamba, mumamva ngati kuti mudapusitsidwa, posachedwa tilemba za zomwe zidachitikadi pankhani ya dokotala wazachipatala yemwe amagwiritsa ntchito njira zamatsenga adagwiritsa ntchito zaka za odwala ake omwe adakomoka kuti awazunze.
Mukangokhudzana ndi umodzi mwamikhalidweyi, ndikosavuta kuti nthawi yomweyo mumve zachilendo komanso zosokoneza mkati mwanu, limodzi ndi kuzizira kozizira komwe kumatuluka msana.
Kusasangalala kwachilendo komanso koipa koma mwatsoka ngakhale pali zikwangwani zomwe zimamveka, wina amakopeka ndi mawonekedwe achilendo omwe amatitenga pomwe wolemba zanyengo amadzinenera kuti amalankhula nafe za iye ndikuyenda modabwitsa.
Maso opanda kanthu komanso opanda chiyembekezo, omwe amangoyang'ana athu koma kuti asamvetse kuti ndife ndani komanso momwe wopemphayo angatithandizire, amachita kukakamiza kuti alamulire mkati mwa moyo wathu wamkati, amadziwa momwe angazindikire msanga zofooka za wozunzidwayo komanso iwo amagwiritsa ntchito mosataya nthawi, ndipanthawi yomwe mphamvu zamatsenga zoyang'ana zoyipa zayamba kugwira ntchito.
Mphindi yomwe idzatsatire malongosoledwe awo opambana idzakhala yofunikira kwambiri kugwira nyama, ngati ndinu osankhidwa kapena wosankhidwa ndi wamisili mudzazindikira kuti munthawi yoyamba kulumikizana mudzadzazidwa ndi mayamikidwe ndikulunjikitsidwa matamando, mudzamva zonse zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala osangalatsa kwambiri komanso zomwe zingakupatseni mpweya kuti musadziderere, mwatsoka gawo ili lotchedwa "kuphulitsa kwa chikondi" silikhala laling'ono, chifukwa chake mudzazindikira kuti ndikumwetulira kopanda tanthauzo komanso nthawi zonse ndi diso lokhazikika m'maso mwanu, mudzayang'aniridwa ndi zomwe mukuwona, malingaliro kapena china chake chokhudza china chomwe wawona kuti sichabwino kapena choyipa chokhudza inu, kuwononga ndikubwezeretsa mayamikidwe omwe adakupatsani kamphindi kuti akugwireni , koma simudzatha kuthana nawo chifukwa kumverera kosasangalatsaku kukudzani ngati ngozi yaying'ono yamunthu kuti mudzilungamitse osalemetsa kwambiri.
Ichi ndiye chisonyezo chakuti mwagwa mumsampha wake ndikuti mwakumana ndi zoyipa, zanu kapena zakusokoneza.
Maganizo olakwikawa ndi malingaliro athu omwe tidamva kuti ndi chibadwa chathu chomwe chidatipangitsa kuti tithawe nthawi yomweyo osayang'ana m'mbuyo, ndikudziyang'anira kwathu komwe kumatichenjeza za ngozi yayikulu ndipo osayimvera kudzakhala kulakwitsa kwakukulu. Mukapitilizabe kukopeka ndi diso la narcissist pomwe mumangogwa mu limbo yawo osabweranso, zotsatirapo zake zimakhala zowononga, pa ukonde mudzapeza zinthu zambiri zaumboni zomvetsa chisoni zothandiza kuti musayang'ane nawo zoipa.
Wolemba Loris Valentine
