Kutengeka maganizo ndi mbali yofunika ya moyo wathu. Sikuti amangopereka zisankho zoyenera, komanso zimakhudzanso kuphunzira kwathu, zochita za tsiku ndi tsiku, maubwenzi athu, komanso thanzi lathu lamalingaliro ndi thupi. Komabe, maganizo amaiwalika makamaka ndi maphunziro.
Timaphunzitsa ana masamu, kumvetsetsa chilengedwe, ndi kufufuza biology, koma sitimawaphunzitsa chinthu chofunika kwambiri monga kulamulira maganizo awo motsimikiza. Zotsatira zake, akakula amakhala okhwima osadziwa kuwerenga maganizo omwe amavutika kuzindikira ndi kufotokoza momwe akumvera, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimabweretsa kusokonezeka kwamalingaliro. Njira ya RULE imayesa kuphwanya bwalo loyipali.
Kodi njira ya RULE ndi chiyani?
Njira ya RULE ndi njira yasayansi yozikidwa pamaphunziro a chikhalidwe cha anthu komanso malingaliro opangidwa pa Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. Njira imeneyi imathandiza anthu a m’masukulu kumvetsa bwino za kufunika kwa kutengeka maganizo, kukulitsa nzeru zamaganizo, ndi kupanga ndi kusunga mkhalidwe wabwino wa sukulu.
Cholinga chachikulu cha RULER Method ndikukhazikitsa mfundo za nzeru zamaganizo m'dongosolo la sukulu kuti apititse patsogolo momwe ophunzira amaphunzirira, aphunzitsi, ndi mabanja omwe amatsogolera ana awo. Komabe, njirayi ingagwiritsidwe ntchito nthawi iliyonse ya moyo.
RULER ndi chidule (Chingerezi) chomwe chimaphatikizapo maluso asanu a Emotional Intelligence:
(kuzindikira) Zindikirani malingaliro mwa inu nokha ndi ena, osati kupyolera m’mawu okha komanso kupyolera mwa kusintha kwakung’ono m’malingaliro athu, msinkhu wa mphamvu kapena ngakhale thupi, limodzinso ndi kawonekedwe ka nkhope ya munthu wina, kawonekedwe ka thupi kapena liwu.
(Kumvetsetsa) Kumvetsetsa zomwe zimayambitsa komanso zotsatira za kutengeka mtima. Ndiko kumvetsa mmene tikumvera komanso kudziŵa chiyambi chake, kuona mmene zimakhudzira maganizo athu ndi zosankha zathu. Izi zimatithandiza kulosera bwino za malingaliro athu ndikupanga zisankho zozindikira.
(kulemba) Lembani maganizo ndi mawu oyenera; ndiko kukhazikitsa kugwirizana pakati pa zochitika zamaganizo ndi mawu enieni ofotokoza. Anthu omwe ali ndi mawu okhwima maganizo amatha kusiyanitsa pakati pa malingaliro ofanana koma osiyana, monga chisangalalo, chisangalalo, kapena chisangalalo.
(Kufotokoza) Kufotokozera zakukhosi molingana ndi zikhalidwe ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu, kotero mutha kupanga zomwe mukufuna. Zimenezi zikusonyeza kuti tiyenera kudziwa mmene tiyenera kusonyeza komanso nthawi yosonyeza mmene tikumvera, malinga ndi nthawi, malo komanso anthu amene amatizungulira.
(kuwongolera) Sinthani kukhudzidwa ndi njira zothandiza, kuwatsogolera bwino m’malo mowalola kuti azilamulira. Zimaphatikizapo kutha kuyang'anira, kuwongolera ndi kusintha momwe timamvera m'njira yothandiza kuti tikwaniritse zolinga zathu.
Maluso ameneŵa amathandiza anthu amisinkhu yonse kugwiritsira ntchito malingaliro awo mwanzeru, kuwatsegulira mipata yochita bwino kusukulu, kuntchito, ndi m’moyo.
Kuchokera pa mita yamalingaliro mpaka mphindi-meta, zida za 4 RULER
Njira ya RULE imatengera zida 4 zothandiza kwambiri:
1. Chojambula. Zimaphatikizapo kupanga ndi kuvomereza, pakati pa zonse, malamulo omwe cholinga chake ndi kumanga ndi kusunga mkhalidwe wabwino wamaganizo. Miyambo yotereyi iyenera kufotokoza momwe anthu akufuna kumvera komanso momwe angathandizire wina ndi mnzake kukulitsa malingalirowo. Koma ikhozanso kukhala chiwonetsero chaumwini chomwe chimayendetsa ubale ndi iwe mwini.
2. Mood Meter. The RULER Mood Meter kapena mita yamalingaliro imapangitsa kuti anthu azitha kudzidziwa bwino. Wopangidwa ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo James Russell, ndi tchati chomwe chimayesa mikhalidwe iwiri yayikulu yamalingaliro: mphamvu ndi chisangalalo. Matrix osavutawa amatithandiza kugawa mazana ambiri amalingaliro kukhala mitundu inayi yofunika. Zimalimbikitsanso kukulitsa mawu akulu amalingaliro kuti alimbikitse kukhazikika kwamalingaliro ndi kuthandiza anthu kuzindikira zomwe akumva komanso kulimba kwa mayikowo.
3. Meta-mphindi. Zimapereka dongosolo loyankhira zochitika zamaganizo ndi njira zomwe zimagwirizana ndi gawo labwino la ife eni ndikuthandizira maubwenzi abwino ndi moyo wabwino waumwini. Ndi kapumidwe kolingalira tikakhala pamavuto akulu m'maganizo, m'malo mongochita.
4. Bluprints. Ndi chida chomwe chimathandizira kukulitsa luso lachifundo ndi kuthetsa mikangano, kukhala chitsogozo choganizira za vutoli ndikubwezeretsa maubale owonongeka. Zimaphatikizapo mafunso monga: chinachitika ndi chiyani? Ndinamva bwanji? Kodi chinayambitsa maganizo anga ndi chiyani? Kodi ndinafotokoza bwanji komanso kuwongolera maganizo anga? Kodi zochita zanga zingakhudze bwanji ena? Kodi ndingayankhe bwanji mosiyana? Mbali yosangalatsa ya chida ichi ndi yakuti tiyenera kuyankha mafunso molingana ndi momwe ife timawonera komanso kudzera mwa munthu wakunja.
Momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito njira ya RULE?
Pamtima pa njira ya RULER ndi njira ya granular, chifukwa lingaliro ndilokulitsa kumvetsetsa kwa chilengedwe chathu chokhudzidwa, kusiyanitsa pakati pa zosiyana. zotengeka ndi zomverera.
Mwachitsanzo, ngati tikumva zowawa kwambiri tiyenera:
1. (kuzindikira) Kuzindikira kukhudzidwa kwapansi pamtima molondola momwe tingathere, kaya tatopa, kupsinjika kapena kupsinjika.
2. (Kumvetsetsa) Chinthu chachiwiri tiyenera kudzifunsa kuti n’chifukwa chiyani timamva choncho. Kodi ndi mikhalidwe yotani imene yatifikitsa pamenepa? Kungakhale kukakamizidwa, zoyembekeza za anthu, kapena kulephera kwathu kuyendetsa polojekiti.
3. (kulemba) Pakadali pano titha kutchulanso malingaliro ena onse omwe mwina tikumva nawonso omwe amatanthauzira momwe timamvera. Kulemba molondola zakukhosi kumathandizira kuti tidzizindikire komanso kutithandiza kuti tizilankhulana bwino zomwe tikumva, ndikuchepetsa kusamvana.
4. (Kufotokoza) Ndi za kupeza njira yofotokozera zonse zomwe zikukhudzidwa ndi zonse zomwe zimatsagana nazo, nthawi zonse mwaumoyo komanso mwaulemu ndi ena komanso tokha.
5. (kuwongolera) Kuwongolera malingaliro ndi njira zothandiza zomwe zimatilola kuvomereza ngakhale malingaliro osasangalatsa ndikupeza njira yovomerezeka kwa iwo.
Chitsime:
Brackett, MA (2019) WOLAMULIRA: Njira Yoyendetsedwa ndi Nzeru, Yokhazikika pa Maphunziro a Zachikhalidwe cha Anthu, M'malingaliro, ndi Maphunziro. Phunziro la Psychologist; 54 (3): 144-161.
Pakhomo WOLAMULIRA, njira yokhazikitsira mtendere ndi malingaliro athu idasindikizidwa koyamba mu Pakona ya Psychology.
