Kugonana sizinthu zonse, koma kuli ndi zofunikira zosatsutsika m'miyoyo yathu. Ubwenzi umalimbikitsa mgwirizano ndikulimbitsa chikondi m'maubwenzi, komanso kugwirizanitsa kudzidalira kwathu ndikuwonjezera kudzidalira. Zimachepetsanso kupsinjika maganizo, zimatipangitsa kukhala osangalala komanso zimapangitsa kuti moyo ukhale wabwino.
Ngakhale zili choncho, nthawi zina timadutsa nthawi zomwe kugonana ndi gawo lochepa kwambiri la malingaliro athu. Pamagawo ena m'moyo, si chinthu chomwe timafuna, kusowa, kapena chikhumbo. Zinthu monga nkhawa, kupsinjika maganizo, kusokonezeka maganizo kapena kusintha, kapena kudzidalira kungathe kupondereza kuyankha pa kugonana. Muzochitika izi, kubwezeretsanso bwino ndikofunikira, osati pa moyo wathu wogonana komanso kuti tikhale ndi moyo wabwino.
Mavuto amalingaliro akabwera pakhomo, zokopa zogonana zimatuluka pawindo
Ngakhale kuti pali ubwino wochita zachiwerewere, kafukufuku waposachedwapa wochokera ku yunivesite ya Indiana anasonyeza kuti kugonana kukuchepa padziko lonse, kuyambira ku Japan mpaka ku Ulaya mpaka ku Australia.
Ofufuzawa adapeza kuti nthawi zambiri zogonana zatsika kwambiri, makamaka kwa achinyamata. Amalingalira kuti chifukwa chimodzi chingakhale chokhudzana ndi kukwera kwa nkhawa ndi kupsinjika maganizo padziko lonse lapansi. Mosakayikira, pamene mavuto amaganizo abwera pakhomo, chikhumbo chimatuluka pawindo.
Si chinsinsi kwa aliyense: Tikakumana ndi zovuta, moyo wathu wakugonana sukhala wofunikira kwenikweni. Libido zimadalira zamoyo, zamaganizo ndi zamagulu, kuphatikizapo thanzi la maganizo. Kutopa, kupsinjika maganizo, nkhawa, nkhawa, mikangano yaubwenzi, mavuto a ntchito kapena kusokonezeka kwa tulo kungasinthe thanzi lathu lamaganizo ndipo, motero, kuchititsa kuti libido yathu iwonongeke.
Pachifukwa ichi, n’zomveka kuti tikamadwala matenda a maganizo kapena tikamavutika maganizo kwa nthawi yaitali, timakhala ndi kuchepa kwa chikhumbo komanso kusowa chidwi pa kugonana.
Nkhawa, mwachitsanzo, ndizomwe zimayambitsa vuto la erectile mwa amuna. Kafukufuku wopangidwa ku yunivesite ya Florence wasonyeza kuti manyazi ndi ntchito nkhawa, makamaka kumayambiriro kwa moyo wa kugonana, ndi chifukwa chachikulu cha erectile kukanika kwa achinyamata.
Ngakhale amayi omwe ali ndi nkhawa amakhala ndi zovuta pazogonana. Zitha kukhala zovuta kudzutsa kapena kukomoka kapena kumva kupweteka m'thupi panthawi yogonana, kafukufuku wopangidwa ku yunivesite ya California waulula. British Columbia. Kafukufukuyu adawonetsa kuti nkhawa imatha kuthetsa chisangalalo mwa amayi, kotero sizodabwitsa kuti dyspareunia imakhala yochulukirapo ka 10 mwa amayi omwe ali ndi vuto la nkhawa.
Kukhumudwa kwakukulu kumatha kukhudzanso libido, kuchepetsa chikhumbo komanso kuchepetsa nthawi zaubwenzi zomwe ndizofunikira kuti maanja agwirizane. Kuonjezera apo, zingayambitse mavuto osiyanasiyana okhudzana ndi kugonana, kuyambira kusowa mphamvu ndi erectile kukanika kwa amuna mpaka kupweteka kwa kugonana ndi kutaya chilakolako mwa akazi. M'malo mwake, kupezeka kwa kupsinjika maganizo kumawonjezera chiopsezo cha dyspareunia katatu.
Postcoital dysphoria, yomwe imaphatikizapo kukumana ndi kutengeka maganizo kolakwika mutangotha kugonana popanda chifukwa chodziwikiratu, ngakhale kuti zochitikazo zimakhala zokondweretsa komanso zokhutiritsa, zimakhalanso zofala kwambiri mwa anthu omwe ali ndi nkhawa kapena kuvutika maganizo.
Izi zikutanthauza kuti nthawi zambiri kuseri kwa kusowa kwa chilakolako chogonana pali vuto la maganizo, lomwe likhoza kuyambitsidwa ndi malingaliro ena ndi zizoloŵezi za moyo zomwe zimatitsogolera kuti tisiye thanzi lathu lamaganizo kumbuyo.
Kuti mulumikize, choyamba muyenera kudumpha
Ofufuza akukayikira kuti ukadaulo ungakhalenso mzu wa kusowa chilakolako chogonana. Chikhalidwe chake chazolowera komanso chosokoneza chimawononga chidwi chathu komanso nthawi, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimasokoneza ubale.
Zowonadi, ubale umafunikira kulumikizana, nthawi komanso kuleza mtima. Komabe, kugwiritsa ntchito kwambiri zowonetsera sikungochepetsa mphamvu yathu yolumikizana ndi kuyanjana, komanso kumawonjezera chiopsezo chodwala matenda amisala, malo ophulika omwe amatha kukhetsa libido.
Pazifukwa izi, ngati mukuganiza kuti ukadaulo ukhoza kukhala gwero la kusowa kwanu kofuna kugonana, ndikofunikira kuti muzimitsa zida zanu pafupipafupi ndikukhala ndi nthawi yochulukirapo ndi mnzanu kapena kudzidziwitsa nokha. Kumbukirani kuti, kuti mulumikizane, ndi munthu wina kapena ndi inu nokha, muyenera kusiya kulumikizana.
Bwezerani chikhumbo chakugonana pokonza thanzi labwino
Nthawi zina, mavuto amaganizidwe samakupangitsani kuti mutaya chidwi chanu kapena kukopeka ndi mnzanu, komanso chidwi chanu pakugonana. Nkhaniyi ikasayankhidwa, nthawi zambiri chifukwa cha manyazi kapena kusapeza bwino, imatha kukhala mtunda wautali pakati pa zibwenzi kapena kusokoneza luso lathu lokhala ndi moyo wokwanira komanso wokhutiritsa.
Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti amangofunika kubwezeretsa libido - ngati chosinthira chomwe chimayatsa kapena kuzimitsa - koma chowonadi ndichakuti nthawi zina yankho ndikubwezeretsanso malingaliro. Pamene kusowa chilakolako chogonana ndi chifukwa cha kupsinjika maganizo, nkhawa kapena kusokonezeka maganizo, ziyenera kuthandizidwa mokwanira, kuchokera kumaganizo omwe amaphatikizapo moyo, kasamalidwe ka maganizo ndi kudzidalira kwathu.
Mulimonsemo, ndikofunikira kuti musapange cholakwika poyezera libido pongoganizira zolakalaka zogonana ndi mnzanu. Chilakolako cha kugonana chiyenera kuyandikira kuchokera kuzinthu zambiri zomwe zimaphatikizapo ubale ndi iwe mwini komanso kudzipeza, popeza pali njira zambiri zosangalalira ndi kupindula ndi kugonana.
Chofunika kwambiri ndikumvetsetsa kuti chilakolako chogonana ndi thanzi labwino zimagwirizanitsidwa, kotero pamene chimodzi mwa ziwirizo sichikugwira ntchito bwino, tiyenera kupeza chifukwa chobwezeretsanso. Kugonana sikungokhala kosangalatsa, kosangalatsa komanso kopindulitsa ku thanzi lathu, komanso ndi njira yodziwonetsera tokha ndikulumikizana mozama ndi munthu wina. Choncho, choyenera ndi chakuti panjira yathu yakukula kwaumwini tisanyalanyaze malo aliwonse.
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Pakhomo Kusowa chilakolako chogonana? Thanzi lanu lamalingaliro likhoza kukhala chifukwa idasindikizidwa koyamba mu Pakona ya Psychology.
