Kukayikakayika nthawi zambiri kumachitika ngati "temberero". Kwa anthu ambiri zitha kuwoneka ngati zosasangalatsa komanso zoyipa. Ena atha kudana ndi izi. Anthu okhala ndi nkhawa atha kuwoneka osadalirika chifukwa sikuti amangochedwa kupanga zisankho, komanso amasintha malingaliro awo.
M'malo mwake, kampani yathu yakhala ikulimbikitsa kusasinthasintha komanso kukhazikika, kuyamika iwo omwe amakhalabe okhulupirika pazomvera, zikhulupiriro ndi zisankho zawo. Koma chowonadi ndichakuti nthawi zina kukhazikika pamaweruzo, zisankho ndi machitidwe amatha kukhala okhwima, kuchoka pakusinthasintha kofunikira kutengera dziko lomwe limasintha nthawi zonse.
Ubwino wa anthu osasankha
Ingoganizirani kwa mphindi kuti wina akukumana ndi zomwe zimachitika muma comedies akale: munthu amaterera pakhungu la nthochi. Anthu ambiri amapangira chiweruzo mwachangu kwa wozunzidwayo ndikuganiza kuti ndizovuta, zomwe zimadziwika kuti ndizokondera kapena cholakwika chachikulu. Mwachizolowezi, ndimakonda kunena kuti machitidwe ndi mikhalidwe ya munthu chifukwa zomwe nkhaniyo silingaganizidwe. Sitikuganiza kuti, ngati izi zingachitike, aliyense atha kuthawa, kuphatikiza ife.
M'malo mwake, tikamaweruza machitidwe athu timayang'ana kwambiri momwe zinthu ziliri kuti tithandizire zomwe zidatigwera. Ndicho chomwe chimadziwika kuti "kukondera" ndipo chimatithandiza kudziona tokha chifukwa tili ndi zifukwa zakunja zomwe zimathandizira machitidwe athu kapena kufotokozera tsoka lathu. Chifukwa chake, ngati ndife omwe titha kuzembera, zikutheka kuti sitinganene kuti ndi kusokonekera kwathu, koma kupezeka kwa tsamba la nthochi pansi.
Akatswiri azamisala ku Cologne University adasanthula izi zomwe zimapangitsa kuti anthu azikhala osaganizira ena. Amadzifunsa ngati kusiya kusankha kungakhale mwayi woweruza machitidwe a ena.
Chifukwa chake adapeza kuti anthu okhazikika kwambiri komanso osaganiza bwino amakonda kuchita zinthu mopupuluma akamapereka malingaliro owopsa kuweruza mikhalidwe ya ena, kotero kuti mphamvu zomwe zili pakati pakunja ndi zakunja sizikhala bwino. Mofananamo, anthu osankha bwino komanso okonda kuchita zinthu mosiyanasiyana amatha kusanthula zinthu zakunja ndi zamkati ndikupanga malingaliro anzeru.
Ofufuzawo akuti chifukwa chomwe anthu amitima yosakondera sachita izi ndikuti "Ambivalence imabweretsa kufotokozera kwakukulu ndikuphatikizidwa kwa malingaliro osiyanasiyana". Anthu osasankha kwambiri "Samawona dziko lapansi ngati labwino kapena loipa, koma lofanana komanso lodzaza ndi kutsutsa", adawonetsa.
Izi zikutanthauza kuti amayeza mosamalitsa mitundu yonse yokhudzana ndi equation, yomwe imawalola kupanga ziweruzo zoyenerera kuposa anzawo otsimikiza. Kukhala osasankha, kuthekera, kutilola kuwunika njira zosiyanasiyana zothetsera mavuto ndikupanga zisankho zanzeru, zomwe zingatipangitse kudandaula pang'ono tikadzayamba njira.
Mtengo wosatsimikiza
Komabe, kuwunika koyenera kwa dziko lapansi ndi ena kumadza phindu. Kusankha mwachangu kungafanane ndi kuchotsa bandeji pachilonda. Zitha kukhala zopweteka, koma zimadutsa mwachangu. Kwa omwe sanasankhidwe kwanthawi zonse, kuvuta kothetsa kusamvana kumatha kubweretsa mavuto, nkhawa, komanso kusakhazikika komwe kudzakhalapobe chisankho.
Yankho lake? Pangani njira zosinthira popanga zisankho momwe sitimangoganizira zabwino ndi zoyipa zosankha zosiyanasiyana, komanso kutengeka ndi chidwi. Pokhudzana ndi zisankho zosafunikira kapena zosafunikira, palibe chifukwa chodziyika tokha mtolo wosafunikira komanso wolemetsa wamaganizidwe ndi malingaliro. Pazochitikazi, fayilo yanzeru zamakono akhoza kutenga.
Kumbali inayi, zikafika pazisankho zofunika pamoyo, kutenga nthawi kuwunika njira zonse osafulumira kupanga chisankho kudzatipatsa mwayi wosankha mwanzeru.
Chitsime:
Schneider, IK ndi. Al. (2021). Ubwino wokhala wophatikizika: Chiyanjano pakati pamakhalidwe osiyanitsa ndi kusankhana. British Journal of Social Psychology; 60 (2): 570-586.
Pakhomo Kukhala wokayikakayika sizoyipa chonchi, mwayi waukulu wa anthu okayikira idasindikizidwa koyamba mu Pakona ya Psychology.
