Moyo wamakono umatikakamiza kudziunjikira zinthu zambiri zomwe sitifunikira pomwe kutsatsa kumatikakamiza kugula zambiri. Popanda kuganiza. Popanda malire…
Motero timatha kugwirizanitsa mtengo wathu monga anthu ndi mtengo wa zinthu zomwe tili nazo. Chotsatira chake n’chakuti n’zosadabwitsa kuti anthu ambiri amatengera zinthu zimene ali nazo n’kumangodzionetsera ngati chikho. Iwo amakhala moyo kusonyeza.
Koma kupyola mu zinthu si moyo. Tikazindikira kwambiri zinthu, timasiya kukhala nazo ndipo iwo eni ake.
Funso la Aristoteli sitinathe kuyankha
Funso lofunika kwambiri limene tingadzifunse ndi lomwe Aristotle anadzifunsa zaka zambiri zapitazo: Kodi ndizikhala bwanji ndi moyo wosangalala?
Anthu ambiri sayang’ana mwa iwo okha yankho. Safunsa chomwe chimawasangalatsa, kuwasangalatsa kapena kuwasangalatsa, koma amalola kutengeka ndi zochitika. Ndipo pakali pano izi zimadziwika ndi anthu ogula.
Chimwemwe, malinga ndi "uthenga wabwino" watsopanowu, chimaphatikizapo kukhala ndi moyo wabwino. Ndipo moyo wabwino kwenikweni umatanthauza moyo wakudya. Ngati n'kotheka, ankadzionetsera kuti anansi athu ndi otsatira malo ochezera a pa Intaneti atichitire nsanje.
Koma kudalira zinthu monga njira yopezera chimwemwe ndi msampha. chifukwa chakusintha kwa hedonic, posapita nthaŵi timafika pozoloŵera zinthu, koma zikasokonekera kapena kutha ntchito, zimasiya kutulutsa chikhutiro choyambiriracho, ndipo zimenezi zimatisonkhezera kugula zinthu zatsopano kuti tiyambirenso kusangalalako. Chifukwa chake timatseka bwalo lazakudya.
Zaka zambiri za kafukufuku wa zamaganizo zimasonyeza ndendende kuti zokumana nazo zimabweretsa chisangalalo chochuluka kuposa chuma. Kuyesera kosangalatsa kwambiri komwe kunachitika pa University Cornell anaulula chifukwa chake kuli bwino kukhala ndi zokumana nazo kuposa kugula zinthu. Akatswiri a zamaganizowa apeza kuti tikamakonzekera zochitika, malingaliro abwino amayamba kudziunjikira kuyambira pomwe tikuyamba kukonzekera zomwe tingachite ndipo amakhala kwa nthawi yayitali.
Kudikirira zochitika kumabweretsa chisangalalo chochuluka, chisangalalo ndi chisangalalo kuposa kuyembekezera kuti chinthu chifike, kudikirira komwe nthawi zambiri kumakhala kusaleza mtima kuposa chiyembekezo chabwino. Mwachitsanzo, kulingalira chakudya chamadzulo chokoma mu malo odyera abwino, momwe tidzasangalalira ndi tchuthi lotsatira, kumapanga zosiyana kwambiri kusiyana ndi kuyembekezera mwachidwi chifukwa cha kubwera kwa mankhwala kunyumba.
Ndife chiŵerengero cha zochitika zathu, osati za katundu wathu
Zokumana nazo nzosakhalitsa. Ndithudi. Sitingagwiritse ntchito ngati sofa kapena foni yam'manja. Ngakhale titayesetsa bwanji, sitingathe kufotokozera mphindi iliyonse yofunika kwambiri m'moyo.
Komabe, zochitika zimenezo zimakhala mbali yathu. Iwo samazimiririka, timawaphatikiza mu kukumbukira kwathu ndipo amatisintha. Zochitika zimakhala njira yodziwirana wina ndi mzake, kukula ndikukula monga munthu.
Chilichonse chatsopano chomwe tikukhalamo chimakhala ngati wosanjikiza womwe umakhazikika pamwamba pa wina. Pang'ono ndi pang'ono amatisintha. Zimatipatsa malingaliro ambiri. Kulitsani khalidwe lathu. Zimatipangitsa kukhala olimba mtima. Zimatipangitsa kukhala anthu okhwima. Chotero, ngakhale kuti sitingayamikire zokumana nazo monga chuma, tingathe kuzinyamula kwa moyo wathu wonse. Kulikonse kumene tingapite, zokumana nazo zathu zidzatsagana nafe.
Zomwe tili nazo sizimafotokozedwa ndi zomwe tili nazo, koma zimangophatikiza malo omwe tapitako, anthu omwe tagawana nawo komanso maphunziro a moyo zomwe taphunzira. Zowonadi, ngakhale zokumana nazo zoyipa zimatha kukhala nkhani yabwino ngati titha kupeza maphunziro ofunikira.
Kugula foni yatsopano sikungasinthe moyo wathu, koma kuyenda kungasinthe momwe timaonera dziko lapansi. Sizongochitika mwangozi kuti zodandaula zathu zazikulu sizimabwera chifukwa chosowa mwayi wogula, koma chifukwa chosachitapo kanthu. Osalimba mtima. Osapita ku konsati imeneyo. Sindinapange ulendo umenewo. Osati kulengeza chikondi chathu. Simunasinthe moyo wanu ...
Pali pafupifupi nthawi zonse imodzi mwayi wachiwiri kugula zinthu, koma zokumana nazo sizingabwerezedwe. Tikaphonya ulendo kapena chochitika chapadera, timataya nkhani zonse zomwe zimabwera nazo.
Chifukwa chake, ngati tikufuna kuchepetsa madandaulo kumapeto kwa moyo, ndi bwino kukulitsa malingaliro athu ndikuyika zokumana nazo patsogolo. Tiyenera kuonetsetsa kuti timakhala ndi nkhani zoti tinene ndi kuzisunga m’maganizo mwathu m’malo momangokhalira kusunga zinthu.
Chitsime:
Gilovich, T. et. Al. (2014) Kudikirira Merlot: Kugwiritsa Ntchito Mwachiyembekezo kwa Zomwe Zachitika ndi Kugula Zinthu. Scientific Sciences; 25 (10): 10.1177.
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