Okondedwa, lero tikukamba za bukhu lomwe linandikhudza kwambiri chifukwa ndilokhoza kuthana ndi vuto la kuthetsa mavuto mwachiyambi: "Kuganiza ngati wamatsenga".
Mutuwu ndi "Kuganiza ngati wamatsenga", lolembedwa ndi Matteo Rampin wabwino. Zoona zake, tisanaganize za momwe tingawathetsere, wolembayo akutipempha kuti timvetsetse momwe tingawalengere, mavuto. Chifukwa? Chifukwa iyi, pambuyo pa zonse, ndiyo njira yabwino yomvetsetsa momwe mungawathetsere.
Kupanga vuto ndizomwe zimatithandizira kumvetsetsa njira yake yapamtima.
Koma tiyeni tipite mu dongosolo ndipo tione zinthu zitatu zimene zatsala kwa ine powerenga masamba 200 amenewa ndi osweka.
1. Gonjetsani zikhulupiriro zomwe muli ndi malire
Chinthu choyamba chimene chinandikhudza ine ndi chokhudzana ndi kusiyana pakati pa zomwe ziri zosatheka kuchita ndi zomwe sizingatheke kuganiza kuchita. Zosatheka, malinga ndi wolemba buku la "Kuganiza ngati wamatsenga", ndi gawo la zenizeni zathu.
Ndiko kuti, sitingathe kuchita zonse zomwe tikufuna koma, ngati zili zoona kuti palibe njira yothetsera zomwe sizingatheke, ndizowonanso kuti zomwe sitingathe kuganiza kuti tichite ziyenera kuyang'aniridwa kwambiri ndi ife. Kodi kusiyana kumeneku kumatifikitsa kuti? Mfundo yakuti mavuto, ndiponso kuthetsedwa kwawo, zimadalira mmene timachitira ndi mavutowo.
Ndiko kuti, nthawi zambiri timaganiza kuti chinthu chosatheka kuchita chifukwa chosavuta kuti sitingathe kuganiza momwe tingachichitire. Zotsatira zake ndikuti, popeza ndimakhulupirira kuti sindingathe kuzindikira chinthu chimenecho, ndiye sindiyesa nkomwe.
Mwachidule, izi mwa kuyankhula kwina ndiye mutu wovuta komanso wofunikira kwambiri kuchepetsa zikhulupiriro zomwe nthawi zambiri timanyamula, m'moyo wathu watsiku ndi tsiku, kotero kuti tikakumana ndi vuto timatha kuponya thaulo chifukwa timaganiza kuti sitingathe kulithetsa.
Pachifukwa ichi, tonse tiyenera kuyang'ana pa zathu poyamba malingaliro poyerekeza ndi zenizeni. Ndiko kuti, tiyenera kuyang'ana pa zomwe zili malo amalingaliro momwe timayang'anamo - ngati ngati magalasi - zomwe zimachitika kwa ife.
Kufikira momwe timatha kuchitapo kanthu pamagalasi awa, ndiye kuti tithanso kuchita zinthu zomwe poyamba tinkaganiza kuti sizingachitike.
Lingaliroli ndilofunika kwambiri, tiyeni tiyang'ane bwino pa mfundo yotsatira.
2. Yang'anirani njira zothetsera vuto za zochitika zosazolowereka
Ena amanena kuti kupanga fano la ufulu kutha zosatheka; komabe David Copperfield anapambana. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa chosavuta kuti mfiti amaganiza mosiyana ndi anthu wamba, kotero kuti akhoza kupeza zotsatira zosiyana. Apa, "Kuganiza ngati wamatsenga" kumapangidwa theka la zododometsa ndipo theka lina la anecdotes zomwe zingawoneke zosalemekeza zomwe zimanenedwa pamutu wa. kuthetsa mavuto.
Komabe, ndizodabwitsa momwe tingaphunzire zambiri za kusintha mwa kubwereka zidziwitso kuchokera kudziko lapansi, mwachitsanzo, zamatsenga, nkhani zofufuza, njira zankhondo, ndi zina zambiri zosagwirizana. Mwachitsanzo, m'dziko lachinyengo timawona kuti wachigawenga, kuti azembe, ayenera kuphunzira kuthetsa ngakhale zovuta zovuta, zomwe zimawoneka kuti zingathetsere mavuto. Kuti achite izi ayenera kuphunzira a ganizani mosiyana ndi munthu wamba.
Wonyamula mthumba yemwe amayenera kuthana ndi vuto lotha kuba chikwama cha munthu osazindikira, amayenera kuthana ndi zopinga zosiyanasiyana, amayenera kuthana ndi mavuto osiyanasiyana: kuyandikira wozunzidwayo ndikulowa m'malo ake ofunikira, pamalo ake opapatiza, osapezeka.
Pachifukwa ichi, akudziwa kuti sayenera kupita ku thumba la jekete la wozunzidwayo ndikutulutsa chikwama chake mobisa; m'malo mwake amayenera kutsina chikwamacho ndikupangitsa wozunzidwayo kuti atulutse jekete m'chikwamacho, kuti apite pamene wotolayo wayima chilili ndi chikwama m'manja. Mwanjira imeneyi kukhudzidwa kwamphamvu komwe kumapangidwa mkati mwa thupi la wovulalayo sikudzakhala kowopsa, kwa alamu yomwe imalira. Chifukwa chake chinthu chachilendo ichi sichidzafika pakuzindikira kwake.
Zonse izi kunena chiyani? Kuti mkati mwa bukhu mudzapeza zitsanzo zambiri monga izi, zowonetsera modalities wotsutsa kuganiza za kuthetsa mavuto ndi kusintha, zomwe nthawi zambiri zimagwiritsidwa ntchito m'dziko lachinyengo. Njira zina zoganizira izi zitha kutithandiza osati kuba zikwama zathu, koma kuthana ndi mavuto amoyo wathu komanso ngakhale wantchito.
3. Gwiritsani ntchito lingaliro lodabwitsa la "Kuganiza ngati wamatsenga"
Mfundo yomaliza yomwe ndikufuna kukuuzani ndikugawana nawo m'nkhaniyi ndikuwonetsa momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito mphamvu za kuganiza modabwitsa.
Tiyeni tikhale ndi fanizo laupandu lomwe ndatchulapo m’mbuyomo ndipo tiyerekeze kuti tikufuna kutibisira miyala yamtengo wapatali, zinthu zamtengo wapatali m’nyumba mwathu, kuti mbala zisazipeze.
Apa, kuganiza kozolowereka kungatipangitse kuti tilephere munjira imeneyi. Mwachitsanzo, tingasankhe kubisa miyala yamtengo wapataliyo pansi pa matabwa a pavé, mkati mwa mabuku onama kapena m’dirowa yobisika bwino pamwamba pa bolodilo; koma zoona zake n'zakuti akuba mwadongosolo - ndipo ngakhale mopindulitsa - fufuzani malo onse obisalawa.
Koma ngati titasankha kutengera malingaliro odabwitsa, ndiye kuti mwayi wina wamphamvu kwambiri utitsegukira. Chimodzi, chodabwitsa kwambiri, ndikuvumbulutsa zodzikongoletsera zathu: mutha kuzisakaniza ndi zodzikongoletsera za ana, mutha kuzipachika pazitsulo za ma chandeliers m'chipindamo, kapena - modabwitsa kwambiri - mumasokoneza nyumba kuti, wakubayo akafika, umangoganiza kuti: “Ayi, anzanga ena adutsa kale apa, tiye”. Panthawiyi, ndithudi, miyala yamtengo wapatali ikanatha kuikidwa paliponse popeza mbalayo idzachoka nthawi yomweyo.
Ngakhale zitsanzozi mwina ndizofuna kudziwa zambiri kuposa zenizeni, m'bukuli mupeza njira yoti muzigwiritsanso ntchito pamoyo wanu watsiku ndi tsiku. Ngati mwaiwerenga mundidziwitse mu ndemanga pansipa momwe mwaipeza.
Ndikukumbutsani nthawi zonse kuti mutha kulembetsa ku gulu la Facebook "Mabuku amalingaliro" komwe kuli mafani ena ngati ine owerenga zamaganizo komanso kukula kwanu.
Chabwino tiwonana posachedwa.
- Kugula "Kuganiza ngati wamatsenga" apa ulalo: https://amzn.to/3rH2jc2
- Lowani pagulu langa la Facebook "Books for the Mind" komwe timasinthana maupangiri, malingaliro ndi kuwunika pa Psychology ndi mabuku okula: http://bit.ly/2tpdFaX
L'articolo Kuganiza Ngati Wizard: Kuthetsa Mavuto Mwachidziwitso - Books for the Mind zikuwoneka kuti ndizoyamba Katswiri wazamisala waku Milan.
