Amuna amati "Ndimakukondani" pamaso pa akazi, malinga ndi kafukufuku

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Kufotokozera zakukhosi kwathu muubwenzi ndikofunikira kwambiri. Zochita ndi mawonetseredwe achikondi sizimangolimbitsa mgwirizano wamaganizo ndi winayo, komanso zimapangitsa kuti pakhale maubwenzi abwino komanso okhazikika pakapita nthawi. Komabe, monga ana oyenerera m’chitaganya chimene chimapondereza kusonyeza maganizo, n’zosadabwitsa kuti anthu ambiri amavutika kumasuka kwa okondedwa awo.

Ngakhale kuti pali ubwino wosakayikitsa wa kufotokoza zomwe timamva, kukhala woyamba kunena kuti "Ndimakukondani" kungakhale kovuta. Poyamba, maubwenzi apabanja amadzazidwa ndi zoyamba zomwe zimakhala zokumbukika. Tsiku loyamba, kupsompsonana koyamba ndipo, ndithudi, nthawi yoyamba yomwe mumavomereza kuti munayamba kukondana.

Vuto ndi loti anthu ambiri amakhulupilira kuti kuulula chikondi chawo kumawayika pachiwopsezo pamaso pa bwenzi lawo. Ena amaopa mmene angachitire. Kuopa kusayanjana pambuyo pa kuulula kungakhale kofooketsa kotero kuti ena amalephera kubisa malingaliro amenewo.

Ngati titsatira malingaliro omwe amadziwika omwe amasonyeza kuti amayi amakonda kukhala okondana kwambiri, okhudzidwa ndi kufotokoza zakukhosi kwawo mosavuta, wina angaganize kuti ndi oyamba kuzindikira chikondi chawo mu chiyanjano, koma kafukufuku wochitidwa ndi ofufuza ochokera ku mayunivesite angapo padziko lonse lapansi. , kuchokera ku UK kupita ku Colombia, Australia ndi Poland, zikusonyeza kuti izi siziri choncho.

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Tsankho lachivomerezo chamwamuna

Ofufuzawa adakhudza anthu 1.428 ochokera kumayiko asanu ndi awiri m'makontinenti atatu. Anafunsidwa kuti ayankhe mafunso osiyanasiyana a anthu, komanso kuwunika momwe amakondera komanso kusanthula maumboni achikondi. Mwachindunji, adafunsidwa kuti alankhule za zomwe adakumana nazo ponena kuti "ndimakukondani" muubwenzi, waposachedwa kapena wakale.

Zotsatira zinasonyeza kuti amuna adanena kuti "Ndimakukondani" kale kuposa akazi omwe ali mu maubwenzi, chitsanzo chomwe chinabwerezedwa m'mayiko asanu ndi limodzi, kupatulapo France, kumene kusiyana kwa amuna ndi akazi sikunali kwakukulu. Komabe, panalibe kusiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi panthawi yomwe adaganiza zovomereza chikondi chawo kwa wokondedwa wawo - ngakhale atakhala kuti alibe - komanso pamlingo wachimwemwe omwe adamva ndi chilengezo cha chikondi.

Izi zikusonyeza kuti ngakhale kuti amuna ndi amene amayamba kunena kuti “ndimakukondani” kwa mnzawo, akazi amakhala ndi maganizo ofanana, ngakhale kuti nthawi zambiri samachitapo kanthu. Kafukufukuyu anasonyezanso kuti amuna amakonda kunena kuti “ndimakukondani” poyamba akakhala m’dziko limene munali akazi ambiri kuposa amuna.

Kafukufuku wakale yemwe adachitika ku Yunivesite ya Pennsylvania adapeza kuti abambo amakonda kumva ndikuvomereza chikondi chawo pakatha milungu ingapo ali pachibwenzi, pomwe akazi amadikirira nthawi yayitali. Akatswiri a zamaganizo awa amakhulupirira kuti akazi amakhala okonzeka kuchedwetsa malingaliro awo, mtundu wa "njira zodzitetezera"Zomwe amapeza nthawi yowunika molondola kufunikira kwa ubalewo.

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Ndi liti pamene munganene kuti "ndimakukondani"?

Kaŵirikaŵiri, sayansi imasonyeza kuti okwatirana ambiri amakhala osangalala pamene winayo wasonyeza chikondi chawo. Chokhacho ndi anthu omwe ali ndi kalembedwe kodziletsa, chifukwa nthawi zambiri amamva kuti akukakamizidwa. Komabe, izi sizidalira wokondedwayo, koma pazochitika zam'mbuyo zomwe munthuyo wakhala nazo.

Ngakhale mantha, stereotypes ndi mantha, ngati mukumva kutengeka kwambiri, ndi bwino kugawana ndi mnzanuyo. Choipitsitsa, ngati sakubwezera, ingakhale nthawi yabwino kukambirana za tsogolo la ubale ndi gwero la kusungitsa kwa munthuyo. Mawu amenewo atha kukhala mwayi wowongolera ubalewo ndikuyambiranso.

Kupatula apo, kunena kuti “Ndimakukondani” sikumangotanthauza kusonyeza mmene akumvera, komanso kupeza mlingo wina wa kulolerana mwa okwatiranawo. Monga lamulo, pamene ubale ukupita patsogolo, aliyense ayenera kukhala womasuka kufotokoza zakukhosi kwake. Ngati sichoncho, chinachake chalakwika.

Conco, nthawi yabwino yokamba kuti “Ndimakukondani” ndi pamene mukumvadi. Zilibe kanthu kuti mwakhala pachibwenzi ndi munthuyu kwa miyezi itatu yokha kapena ngati chibwenzi chatha chaka. Chofunikira ndi kutsimikizika kwakumverera komanso kunyengerera komwe kumatsatira.

Malire:


Watkins, CD ndi zina. Al. (2022) Amuna amati "Ndimakukondani" akazi asanatero: Olimba m'maiko angapo. Journal Za Ubale ndi Makhalidwe Abwino; 10.1177.

Harrison, MA & Shortall, JC (2011) Akazi ndi amuna omwe ali m'chikondi: ndani amamva ndikunena poyamba? J Soc Psychol; 151 (6): 727-736.

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