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Koma kodi mumadziwa kuti azimayi nawonso amaonera zolaula?
Kusanthula komwe kunachitika komanso zotsatira zomwe zidatuluka m'maphunziro omwe adachitika pazapadera zaka makumi awiri zapitazi, zimatsegula kuzindikira kwatsopano pazokonda, kusintha kwamakhalidwe ndi kumasulidwa kwa kugonana komwe kunachitika m'chilengedwe chachikazi.
Sipadzakhalanso dziko lamadzi lokhalo "logwiritsa ntchito" amuna. Chodabwitsa mpaka zaka zingapo zapitazo gawo lomwe, ngakhale linali lalikulu kwambiri kuchokera pakuwona zakubwera kwachuma, (zomwe kuchokera pakuyerekezera kwaposachedwa kuyambira ku 2019 kumapangitsa kuti lipitirire madola 100 biliyoni ku United States kokha) ndipo amaweruzidwa ndendende ndi akazi.
Zimphona zazikulu ndi tsambalo Pornhub malo owoneka bwino kwambiri m'gululi, omwe atatha kuphatikiza masamba onse mgululi adakwanitsa zaka 14 zoyambirira za moyo wawo, akutiwuza kusanthula molondola komanso mosamalitsa kwakusintha kwachikhalidwe komwe kwachitika pakati pa anthu onse planet pofalitsa chidziwitso ndi masanjidwe molondola kuposa kafukufuku wina aliyense wazokhudza mitu ya chiwerewere chachimuna ndi chachikazi.
Izi zimatanthawuza zokonda zomwe zimabwera tikamafuna kukweza kutentha nthawi zina ndipo lingaliro loyenera limakwaniritsidwa pofufuza kanema wazolaula yemwe amasangalatsa malingaliro ake.
Zimatulukira zomwe timakonda, nthawi yochuluka bwanji yomwe timagwiritsa ntchito, komanso koposa kusiyana pakati pa zokonda zogonana amuna ndi akazi.
Detayi ikuwonetsa kuti azimayi omwe amaonera makanema olaula adakwera kwambiri mzaka 10 zapitazi ndipo mpaka pano afikira ndikudutsa 35% ya ogwiritsa ntchito zolaula padziko lonse lapansi komanso akuneneratu kuti chiwerengerochi chakonzedwa zaka zingapo zikubwerazi. amakula kwambiri.
Palinso mfundo ina yofunika kuikumbukira; M'malo mwake, zidadziwika kuti azimayi ocheperako azolowera zolaula anali pachimake makamaka munthawi yokhotakhota komanso kudzipatula m'nyumba zawo chifukwa cha ngozi ya coronavirus.
Zachidziwikire kuti nthawi iyi yathandizira kuthana ndi zotchinga zomaliza mwa azimayi zomwe zimalepheretsa kufikira zolaula ndikuchulukirachulukira malo azolaula koma osadabwa; Kuwonjezeka kumeneku kudathandizanso kugulitsa zoseweretsa zachiwerewere, zomwe sizinakhalepo ndi chaka chobala komanso chopindulitsa ngati phindu ngati 2020.
Sizingapereke lingaliro loyenera pokhudzana ndi kusintha kwakugonana komwe kumachitika mu gawo lazakugonana koma tikukukumbutsani kuti Pornhub lero ili ndi alendo 75 miliyoni tsiku lililonse, ndikupangitsa kuti ikhale imodzi mwamasamba odina kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi, yopereka magawo osiyanasiyana omwe amatha kukwaniritsa malingaliro ndi zokonda za amuna ndi akazi.
Koma kodi akazi akuyang'ana chiyani pa zolaula?
Malinga ndi kafukufuku wina waposachedwa kwambiri wochitidwa ndi magazini yotchuka yaku US, zidapezeka kuti azimayi ali ndi zokonda, zokonda komanso zopeka zomwe amuna angatanthauze (malinga ndi malingaliro awo ngati okalamba akale) mopitilira muyeso.
Monga akuwulula akatswiri ndi maubwino a Pornhub omwe amapezeka, azimayi nthawi zambiri amasaka makanema ogonana pakati pa akazi, pakati pa akazi angapo ndi abambo, ndipo modabwitsika pakati pa amuna awiri ngakhale amene akusakawo akuchita zachiwerewere.
Kuphatikiza apo, kusaka ndi kufunsa kwa makanema omwe akuwonetsa zolaula za akatswiri odziwa masseurs omwe, kudzera (mwachiwonekere) makamera obisika omwe amakhala mwapadera mchipinda chokonzekereratu ndi zomwe zidachitika mosayembekezereka (nthawi zonse timanenanso zosayembekezeka) za zochitika zogonana pakati Ogwira ntchito ndi mayi wosakayikira, yemwe amalola kuti azichita nawo "zolimbikitsa" zaukatswiri wa masseur, akusangalala bwino kwambiri powonjezera mwachangu kusaka makanema amtunduwu ndi omvera achikazi malinga ndi mawu ndi nkhani za Maureen O'Connor lipoti Magalimoto a New York.
Dziko lamasewera komanso thanzi labwino lomwe limalimbikitsa kwambiri malingaliro azimayi, zomwe zikuwonetsa momveka bwino momwe kupezeka kwachikhalidwe chawo chakugonana kwamapeto pake kwathetsa mitundu yonse yakale yoletsa komanso kukana zakale. Umboni wina wosatsimikizika kuti kugonana ndi kovuta kwambiri kuposa zomwe zidaphunziridwa mpaka pano ndi akatswiri azakugonana komanso ofufuza.
Tikumvetsetsa kuti libido sikhala ndipo sikuti imangokhala pakulakalaka kapena kuwonerera zogonana, koma gawo lofunikira komanso lofunika kwambiri pakukakamiza zilakolako zathu zakugonana ndikukhala muzokhumba zathu ndikufunitsitsa kuzisintha posachedwa kenako kukhala apadera komanso osazolowereka kugonana.
Apa mzimayiyu amadzizindikiranso yekha womizidwa mu ufulu wake wonena osawopa kuweruzidwa ngakhale ndi mnzake, chifukwa zokonda zake zakugonana ngati mphamvu yomwe yakhala ili chuma chamwamuna nthawi zonse.
Nanga bwanji ngati banjali likufuna kuonera zolaula limodzi?
Si chinsinsi kuti amuna nthawi zonse amakonda zolaula ndipo, monga zalembedwera kale, zomwe zakhala zikuchitika zatsimikizika ndipo, monga zatsimikizidwira, azimayi amayifuna. Chifukwa chake bwanji osazichita limodzi ndikusintha zomwe zidachitikazo kukhala zokondana kwambiri komanso zokhwima, kuzindikira malingaliro anzanu ndikusiya nsanje zowopsa, zopondereza komanso zopanda pake?
Kutengera kafukufuku wofotokozedwa pamwambapa, mndandanda wazifukwa zazikulu zowonera zolaula ungalembedwe.
Tikufuna kunena kuti sitikufuna kulimbikitsa ena kuti achite zinthu zomwe sizingavomerezedwe ndi m'modzi mwa maanja kapena onse awiri, ngati pali mkazi wina kapena mwamuna wina, izi zikukankhira kubereka nsanje ndi kutulutsa mantha obisika omwe amatsogolera ku mikangano ngati mulingo woyenera wa kukhulupirirana, kukhwima ndi chidziwitso chakuya cha wokondedwa wanu sichinakhazikitsidwe mwa awiriwa ndipo izi nthawi zambiri zimatha kubweretsa kusamvana, ming'alu popanda kubwererana muubwenzi kapena, more mophweka, kukayikira za malingaliro osavomerezeka mwa mnzanu ndikukhala okayika zakuti munthu angathe kukhutiritsa kapena ayi, zosowa za mnzake pokhazikitsa chiwerewere ndi kudzidalira, mwamuna kapena mkazi, iye adzadzimva kuti ndi wosakwanira kapena wauve ndipo adzimva kuti wamupandukira.
Ngati tilingalira za izi zotsatirazi ndizotsimikizira kuti aliyense wa ife ali ndi malingaliro achilengedwe mwathunthu ndikuti amaponderezedwa chifukwa chakuchepa kwamalingaliro, zamakhalidwe ndi kapangidwe kake. Mumakonda kubisa umunthu wanu komanso malingaliro anu kwaulere kwanthawi zonse, mumazichita mosazindikira komanso mosazindikira pazifukwa zosiyanasiyana, kuwopa kuweruzidwa ndi mnzanuyo ndi kuthekera kopanga zomwe tafotokozazi.
Apa, potengera njira yoyenera, akatswiri amafotokoza kuti popanga chibwenzi ndizotheka kukhazikitsa kulimba pakati pa banjali, kukulitsa chikhumbo cha onsewa ndikuchepetsa chiopsezo chotsatira chizolowezi chomwe chitha kukhala ndi mwayi pamapeto pake kupanga kuwonongeka kosasinthika muubwenzi wapabanjapo.
Kudzera pakufunitsitsa kwa onse kuwonera zolaula, njira yakukhulupirirana imayambitsidwa kwa mnzake, mantha ndi malipoti atulutsidwa omwe adzapindulitsenso ubale wawo.
Koma palinso zinthu zina zofunika kuziganizira pazomwe mungayang'anire zolaula ngati banja:
Kuyesa luso lanu.
Kusankha kupanga moyo wanu ngati banja chiyambi cha kukondweretsedwa ndi chizolowezi ndilo kulakwitsa kwakukulu komwe iwo amene amakhulupirira ndikuganiza kuti chikondi mwa awiriwa ndichinthu chilichonse! Zachidziwikire ndizoyambira koma moyo wapabanja umakhala ndi mitundu yambiri yamitundu ingapo ndipo motsimikizika 50 sikokwanira.
Za malingaliro ndi kuphunzira.
Kulekeranji? Sife tonse akatswiri ochita masewera olimbitsa thupi, nthawi zina sitimakhala otsimikiza ngati akuchita bwino kapena ayi, ngati akufuna kapena ayi! Ngati tili okhoza kudzimvetsetsa tokha kapena tiyenera kufunsa wokondedwa wathu mopanda mantha koma ndichisangalalo kuti tikufuna kuchita ndikupereka zonse zomwe tingathe kuti tikhale okhutira ndi zonse ziwiri.
Ngati kugonana kukuvomerezana komanso kuli kathanzi kwa nonsenu, kuonera zolaula pawiri kumatha kukhala nthawi yayikulu komanso yosangalatsa yokhudza kugonana, limodzi mutha kudzipereka mumasewera omwe mumakhala ochita zolaula. Masewerawa atha kusunganso chibwenzi chatsopano mwa awiriwo chomwe chimakhala chinsinsi chosangalatsa kwambiri cha zonse zomwe zatsala pakati pa iye, kugonana kwake. Mzimu wa banjali umatulukanso watsopano komanso wolimbikitsidwa.
Pofuna kupanga malingaliro osiyana ndi mnzanu.
Kuganiza zokakamiza mkazi wanu kuti aziwonera zolaula posachedwa kudzasokoneza chibwenzicho. Ngati kuonera zolaula ndiko chinthu chofunikira kwambiri kuti mugonane ndi wokondedwa wanu, ili ndi vuto lomwe liyenera kuthetsedwa polankhula ndi mnzanuyo ndipo ngati kuli koyenera ndikofunikira kulumikizana ndi katswiri.
Ngati, kumbali inayo, mutha kupanga mwayi woyenera kuti ukhale masewera ndiye kuti muli panjira yoyenera! Aliyense wa ife amafunikira nthawi ndi nthawi chikhumbo choletsedwa, ndipo kuchoka pamsewu womwe timakhala nthawi zonse kumatha kukhala chilimbikitso cholimbikitsira mgwirizano wa banjali.
Wolemba Loris Old
