Un kugonana amatibweretsera mitundu yambiri yazomverera zosiyanasiyana, pamlingo zotengeka Che zathupi. Makamaka kudera lino, ndizotheka kumva kuti mulibe mphamvu iliyonse mukamaliza kugonana. Kuperewera kwa mphamvuzi kungatitsogolere kugona molunjika momwe ife tiriri, makamaka ngati usiku wachisangalalo unali wosangalatsa kwambiri ndipo unakhazikitsidwa osachepera chimodzi mwazinthu zogonana zomwe banja lililonse liyenera kuyesa nthawi ndi nthawi...
Komabe, musanalole kuti mudzilole kudziko lamaloto, munthu sayenera kuiwala kuchita izi Zinthu 4!
1. Pitani kubafa
Nthawi zambiri sitingapewe kupita kuchimbudzi mutapanga chibwenzi. M'malo mwake, nthawi zambiri mumayamba kumva kuti mwapanikizika kwambiri ndi chikhodzodzo mukatha kugonana. Izi ndichifukwa choti gawo laurethra imalimbikitsa kuchokera pamphamvu ya mbolo panthawi yogonana, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti tiyenera kupita kubafa.
Kupita kubafa mutagonana ndikofunikanso pa chifukwa china: amathetsa mabakiteriya zomwe zingayambitse chotupa. Makamaka azimayi omwe amakonda kutero matenda opatsirana mumkodzo ayenera kukumbukira.
Zomwe akazi ambiri sakudziwa, komabe, ndikuti chikhodzodzo chokwanira nchonso kuonjezera chisangalalo cha kugonana, momwe imakakamira kumaliseche mkatimu ndikuyambitsa m'chiuno pansi. Zotsatira zake, kugonana kumaonedwa ndi akazi ambiri kuposa momwe amachitiranso zosangalatsa komanso zamphamvu. Komabe, muyenera kudziyang'ana nokha ngati chikhodzodzo chokwanira ndikosangalatsa kwa inu pogonana. Kufuna kukodza sikuyenera kukhala kwamphamvu kwambiri kotero kuti mutha kungoyang'ana.
Chosangalatsa kwa onse omwe akufuna kukhala ndi ana: kupita kubafa mutagonana sikuchepetsa mwayi wokhala ndi pakati. Chifukwa zilibe kanthu kuti mwagona kapena kupita kukawona - mwayi woti dzira likuphatikizidwa ndi chimodzimodzi.
2. Kuphwanya
Kugonana, kugudubuzika mmbali mwako ndikugona ndizochitika za chimfine komanso chosowa chamunthu. M'malo mwake, amayi ambiri amakhalanso m'munda wa anthu omwe nawonso iwo akutsutsana ndi kukumbatirana. Nanunso? Ngati ndi choncho, muyenera kuyesa kusintha mawonekedwe awa! Ofufuza aku America ochokera ku University of Toronto Mississauga adapeza kuti amakumbatira post-coitus amalimbitsa ubale wanthawi yayitali.
payekha Mphindi 15 ya postcoital pamering idzalipira zonse ziwiri abwenzi okhutitsidwa kwambiri. Pomwe ife azimayi timakhala olumikizana kwambiri ndi anzathu chifukwa chokomera, amuna amapeza moyo wawo wogonana wokhutiritsa. Chifukwa chake kukwatirana atagonana kupambana-kupambana!
3. Ganizani zogonana
Zikumveka zazing'ono, koma ndikofunikira kuti muganizire zogonana. Ngati zinali zokongola komanso zosangalatsa, dzifunseni zomwe zidapangitsa kuti zikhale zosadabwitsa. Ganizirani m'mutu mwanu malo omwe mumakonda kwambiri kapena yomwe simunayesebe. Kukumana ndi zinthu zabwino m'malingaliro anu ndichinyengo chomwe chimakuthandizani kuti mukhale okhazikika wosangalala komanso wokhutira.
Komabe, ndizotheka kuti kugonana kunali chabe "wodutsika"Kapena mwina zazikulu. Ngakhale pamenepo muyenera kufikira pansi pamalingaliro. Mwina simunamve choncho? I chiwonetsero Kodi anali afupikitsa kapena ogonana anali achiwawa? Kapena mwina mumavutika? Dzidziwitseni nokha mutagonana zomwe mumaganiza kuti ndizabwino komanso zomwe mumawona kuti sizabwino kumakuthandizani kukonza moyo wanu wogonana. Zomwe zimatsogolera mwachindunji ku chinthu chachinayi chomwe muyenera kuchita mutagonana ...
4. Kambiranani za momwe zidalili
Ngati kugonana kunali kwakukulu ndipo mnzako anakukhutitsani kwathunthu pamenepo mumuuze. Tonsefe timakonda kumva pamene tachita chinthu chabwino. Malinga ndi omwe amagonana ndi amuna, lankhulani momasuka za kugonana kumalimbitsa mgwirizano ndi wokondedwa wanu ndikuthandizira moyo wanu wogonana kwakanthawi. Mwa njira, izi ndizowona mu mlandu wina, ndiye kuti, pomwe simunakonde china chake panthawi yogonana.
Ngati mungafune kudzudzula, chofunikira ndichakuti khalani tcheru ndipo nenani zakukhosi kwanu osamuimba mlandu mnzanuyo. Mawu oti "Mwabwera msanga" kapena "Sindinabwere chifukwa cha inu" ndiyofunika kuwapewa. Yesani m'malo mwake kufotokoza momveka bwino koma moona mtima momwe zinaliri kwa inu komanso momwe mungasinthire zomwe sizinakupangitseni kuti mudzakhale osangalala mtsogolomu limodzi.
