"Nthawi imachiritsa bala lililonse", akutero. Komabe, chowonadi ndichakuti nthawi siyichiritsa mabala, ndi ife omwe tiyenera kuchiritsa pakapita nthawi. Kuganiza kuti nthawi ndi njira yokhayo yothetsera mavuto athu, mikangano ndi zowawa zimabweretsa malingaliro omwe amangomaliza kudyetsa dziko la abulia momwe kukhumudwa, kusakhutira ndi ululu zimakula.
Kafukufuku wopangidwa kuArizona State University adapeza kuti ngakhale tili ndi kuthekera kochira pamavuto, zochitika zazikulu zosintha moyo zikupitilirabe kutikhudza patadutsa zaka zingapo, anthu ambiri amatenga nthawi yayitali kuposa momwe amayembekezera kuchira.
Chifukwa chake, tisiyeni athu kuchiritsa m'maganizo m'manja mwa nthawi si chisankho chabwino kapena chanzeru koposa chomwe tingachite. Ndipo pali zifukwa zingapo zomwe zimathandizira.
Chifukwa chiyani nthawi siyichiza mabala onse?
1. Ululu umayamba kukulira usanathe
Kuganiza kuti nthawi imachiritsa chilichonse ndikofanana ndikukhulupirira kuti kuchira m'maganizo kumatsata njira yofananira yomwe kupweteka kumachepa pang'onopang'ono masiku akamadutsa. Koma iwo omwe adataya zopweteka amadziwa kuti sizili choncho.
Masiku oyambilira nthawi zambiri samakhala oyipa kwambiri chifukwa pomwe nkhonya zimakhala zamphamvu kwambiri, milungu imayambitsidwa njira zodzitetezera monga kukana kutiteteza popeza amachita ngati "dzanzi lamankhwala" m'masiku kapena milungu yoyambirira. Zotsatira zawo zikayamba kutha ndipo tazindikira kukula kwa zomwe zachitika, ululu womwe ulipo umapezanso mphamvu ndipo ukhoza kutikhudza kwambiri kuposa poyamba.
Chifukwa chake, sizosadabwitsa kuti kuvutikaku kumakulirakulira milungu ingapo kapena miyezi ingapo chochitikacho chikupweteka. Kuphatikiza apo, kukula kwa zowawa zomwe timakumana nazo nthawi imeneyo ndizosintha kwambiri, kotero kuti masiku "abwino" amalowetsedwa ndi masiku "oyipa". Zokwera ndi zotsika zamaganizidwezi ndi gawo limodzi la ntchitoyi.
2. Sikuti zonse zimasintha pakapita nthawi
Monga mwalamulo, miyezi 18 kutayika kwakukulu, zizindikilo zowopsa kwambiri zomwe zimapweteka zimatha, kuyambira pachisoni mpaka kusowa tulo, mkwiyo, anhedonia kapena maloto owopsa. Koma lamuloli silikukhudza anthu onse.
Pali ena omwe amadutsa munthawi yovuta ndikumva kuwawa. Pankhani ya maliro osatayikaMwachitsanzo, timakhala munthawi imodzi chifukwa sitingathe kukonza zomwe zawonongeka. Dziko lathu lamkati silimadzikonzekeretsa lokha kuti livomereze zomwe zachitika, kapena chifukwa chowonadi chimapangitsa kumverera kovuta kwambiri kuti tithe kusamalira kapena chifukwa timakhulupirira kuti kusiya zopweteka ndikunyoza kwa munthu amene watisiya.
Chifukwa chake, ngakhale tonse tili ndi mphamvu yakuchiritsa yamkati, vuto lililonse limasiyana ndipo sizotheka kupita chitsogolo popanda kuthandizidwa ndi akatswiri omwe amatha kuthana ndi malingaliro ndi malingaliro olakwika. Titha kukhala olimba mtima, koma ndikofunikanso kuzindikira zolephera zathu ndikumvetsetsa kuti kupita kwa nthawi sikutsimikizira kuti tidzachiritsidwa.
3. Nthawi imadutsa pang'onopang'ono tikamakumana ndi mavuto
Nthawi imatha kukhala muyeso wabwino kwa ena, koma kwa omwe ali nayo imangokhala yodalira kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, tikadwala, nthawi imadutsa pang'onopang'ono. Mphindi zomwe tiyenera kuyembekezera kuti mankhwalawa ayambe kugwira ntchito zikuwoneka ngati kwamuyaya.
M'malo mwake, akatswiri a sayansi yaubongo ochokera ku Yunivesite ya Lyon adapeza kuti kuwawa ndi malingaliro osalimbikitsa amasintha momwe timaonera nthawi, kuti iziyenda pang'onopang'ono. Ofufuzawa amaloza kumtunda wakunja, gawo laubongo lomwe limaphatikizira zizindikilo zowawa zamthupi koma ndichinthu chofunikira kwambiri pakuphatikizira kupweteka, kudzizindikira komanso kuzindikira kwakanthawi. Amanena kuti kuyerekezera nthawi ndikudziyang'ana pawokha kumatha kugawana gawo limodzi la neural ndikuti tikakhumudwa, timangoyang'ana kwambiri za ife tokha, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti anthu aziwoneka kuti nthawi yayima.
Chifukwa chake, kunena kuti nthawi imachiza bala lililonse ndikunamizira. Mukamavutika, mphindi zimawoneka ngati maola ndipo maola amasandulika masiku omwe amadutsa pang'onopang'ono. Pachifukwa ichi, mavuto akafika pakhomo pathu, timawoneka kuti takhudzidwa ndi tsoka ndipo timaganiza kuti ululuwo sudzatha. Lingaliro lathu la nthawi lasinthidwa.
4. Nthawi imabweretsa kusiya ntchito, osati kuchiritsa
Mabala a mzimu samachiritsa monga thupi, osatinso nthawi zonse. Kukhala pansi ndikudikirira, osachita chilichonse kuti muchepetse ululu kapena kupwetekedwa mtima, sikumangobweretsa machiritso, koma kungosiya ntchito mwakachetechete.
Nthawi ikamapita ndikumva kuwawa sikumatha chifukwa sitikufotokoza mwatsatanetsatane zomwe zachitika, kukhazikitsidwa kwa stoic komwe sikukhudzana kwenikweni ndi kukula komwe kumachitika pambuyo povulazidwa koma kofanana kwambiri ndianaphunzira kusowa chochita ndi kufanana kwa iwo omwe agonja.
Nthawi ingatithandizire kulekerera zopweteka bwino chifukwa tazolowera zowawa zake, koma sizitithandiza kuthana nazo ndikukhala olimba kapena ndi masomphenya atsopano. M'malo mwake, nthawi zambiri zitha kutitengera mu anhedonia ndi kukhumudwa, kutipangitsa kusiya kudzichiritsa.
5. Vutoli silitha nthawi
Zovuta sizimachitika nthawi yomweyo komanso sizikhala ndi tsiku lomaliza. Kafukufuku wopangidwa ku Uniformed Services University ya Health Sciences idawulula kuti 78,8% ya asirikali ovulala kwambiri sanawonetse zowawa mwezi umodzi wokha, koma izi zidawonekera patatha miyezi isanu ndi iwiri. Mwachitsanzo, pakuzunzika mochedwa, zomwe zimakhudzidwa zimangokhala zosagwira koma zimatha kudziwonekera pambuyo pake.
Momwemonso, zokumbutsa zodandaula zimatha kupitilirabe nthawi yomwe chochitikacho chidatha ndipo chimakhala chakuthwa monga momwe tidakumana ndi chidziwitso choyambirira. Pankhani yowonongeka, zolota zoopsa kapena malingaliro olakwika ndi zithunzi, ubongo wathu sumasiyanitsa zenizeni ndi zomwe timakumbukira, chifukwa chake kupweteka ndi kuzunzika komwe timakumana nako kumakhala kwakukulu.
Mpaka titakonza zokumana nazozi ndikuziphatikiza pokumbukira mbiri yathu, sitingathe kuchotsa malingaliro awo, chifukwa chake apitiliza kutipweteka pafupifupi ngati tsiku loyamba.
Mulimonsemo, ndizovuta kudziwa nthawi yomwe tidzachiritsidwe kuchokera ku chochitika chowawa. Ngakhale tikudziwa kuti kuvutika kumapweteka, sikupwetekanso aliyense. Chifukwa chake, kuchiritsa m'maganizo ndiulendo wakukwera ndi kutsika.
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