Malamulo 10 agolide owonetsetsa kuti mukulera ana osangalala

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Zomwe mungachite ngati kholo kuti mukule ana osangalala ndizosavuta kuposa momwe mungaganizire. Kukhala mayi kapena bambo ndi ntchito yeniyeni yomwe imafuna kudzipereka kwakukulu tsiku lililonse. Tinaganiza zopanga imodzi wotsogolera ndi malamulo ena oti mutsatire kuti athe kuthana ndi zochitika zonse.

1 - Mwana wanu si wamkulu

Tiyeni tithetse nthano yomweyo ndi lamulo loyamba lokhala ndi ana osangalala: tisamawawone ngati achikulire chifukwa sali. Ndizosathandiza kulimbikira kunena, kuloleza kudutsa, mawu ngati "Usalire, ndiwe wamkulu tsopano" kapena "Khalani ngati mwana wamkulu", chifukwa cholinga cha ana azaka 3 kapena 4 sakanakhala nawo palibe phindu, m'malo mwake! Mwanjira imeneyi titha kusamalira mwa iwo a chosowa chachikulu kuti pazaka zambiri ayesa kudzaza ndi chakudya, utsi ndi zina zambiri.

Ana ayenera kukhalabe choncho khalani moyo waubwana mokwanira: kusisitidwa, kukondedwa, kusewera, kumva kuthandizidwa ndikulimbikitsidwa ndi akulu. Ambiri, achikulire ambiri masiku ano sadziyimira pawokha ndipo nthawi zonse amawonetsa kufunikira koti amveke kuti ali kunja. Koma kuti mupewe izi, mungatani ngati kholo?

Osakakamiza kukhazikitsa malamulo
Kumbukirani kuti mwana wanu amaphunzira makamaka ndi chitsanzo chabwino mwa kukhazikitsa lamulo kuti amuwonekere mwachangu kudziko lachikulire komwe adakali kutali. M'malo mokakamiza, kuti mumulimbikitse kuchita zina, khalani oyamba kuzichita ndipo mudzawona kuti akutsatirani.

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Pangani icho protagonist
Kuti mumuphunzitse malamulo ndi zizolowezi zabwino, mutha kugwiritsa ntchito masewerawa. Masewerawa ndi chida champhamvu kwambiri chofotokozera mwana malingaliro osavuta omwe akanakhala ovuta kwambiri. Koma koposa zonse musangolongosola, inunso khalani osewera nawo pamasewera.

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2 - Lemekezani nyimbo za mwana wanu tsiku lililonse

Kuti mwana wanu akhale a mwana wokondwa muyenera kumumangira imodzi chizoloŵezi wopangidwa ndi miyambo yaying'ono yomwe ingamupatse chitetezo, kum'ongolera ngakhale atakhala kuti alibe nthawi. Zoyenera kuchita makamaka?

  • Set ya nthawi zoikika pazochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku: nkhomaliro, chakudya chamadzulo, kupumula, kusewera ndi ena ...
  • Pewani anakhumudwitsa mipando patebulo kapena kumulola kuti adye m'malo osiyanasiyana mnyumbamo: amaoneka ngati banal, koma amathandizira kulimbikitsa chizolowezi.
  • Ngakhale m'mawa wabwino ndi usiku wabwino Kukhazikitsidwa ngati kuti ndi miyambo yaying'ono yomwe ingakhale yofunikira kulimbikitsa kulimbitsa thupi kwake tsiku ndi tsiku.
  • Madzulo kulimbikitsa kugona bwino pewani masewera otanganidwa kwambiri mokomera magetsi ofewa komanso kuwerenga mwakachetechete kapena masewera omwe amakonda bata komanso kusintha kwachilengedwe kugona.

 

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3 - Kuyang'anitsitsa ndi kumvetsera ndikofunika kwambiri

Ngati mungathe lankhulani mosapita m'mbali kwa mwana wanu, kumuyang'ana iye m'maso, kwa iye zidzakhala zofanana kumvetsetsa ndi kudalira. Izi zimulola kuti azimva kukondedwa, kulandiridwa, kumva kuti alipo komanso kuti alipo chifukwa cha chikondi cha amayi ndi abambo, injini yofunikira kwambiri yopitiliza ulendo. Kodi mungachite bwanji? Nawa maupangiri:

  • mumuyang'ane m'maso mukamutembenukira
  • dzichepetseni kutalika kwake ngati kuli kotheka mukafuna kulankhulana naye
  • mufunseni kawirikawiri momwe akumvera: adzamva akumva ndikuphunzira kuwona momwe akumvera komanso momwe akumvera.

Funso lakale atabwerako kusukulu "zayenda bwanji?", ilibe ntchito ndipo ithetsedwa ndi zakale "chabwino!". Kulibwino mumufunse "Mukupeza bwanji? Unali bwanji kusukulu? ", mwanjira imeneyo iye amverera kuika patsogolo, kumvetsa izo Kukhala bwino kwake ndikofunikira kwa amayi ndi abambo.

 

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4 - Bwino kukhala wodalirika kuposa wolamulira

Kusiyanitsa pakati pa mawu awiriwa ndi kowonekera, koma ndikofunikira kuti mumvetsetse. Mumawakonda zofuna ndi zoletsa? Ayi, ndipo zidzakhalanso chimodzimodzi kwa mwana wanu.
Ngati muli wolamuliranso kwambiri upanga kufunika kwakukula mwa mwanayo kupanduka ndi kulakwa, pomwe ulamuliro amabwera zambiri amadziwika ngati kalozera, chothandizira ndi kulimbikitsa chidaliro.

M'malo moloza zala, funsani mwana wanu zifukwa zamakhalidwe ake, perekani chitsanzo chabwino, yesani kufotokoza chifukwa chake zinthu pogwiritsa ntchito mawu osavuta.

Kumumvera amayamba kukulemekezani: ulemu kwa kholo ndiye chida chenicheni chokhala chitsogozo chothandiza.


 

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5 - Nthawi zonse dziwonetseni pamaso pa ana

Zikumveka zachilendo, koma kwa kulera ana osangalala ayenera kukhala oyamba makolo osangalala. Tanena kale izi ana amaphunzira mwa kutsanzira, kuyamwa chilichonse kuchokera m'chilengedwe popanda kuthekera kosefa. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kukhala ndi chitsanzo chabwino choti utsatire popewa kubwereza, kubwereza ndi kulanga.
Monga mayi kapena bambo amayesetsa kukupezerani nthawi yanu kupeza fayilo ya kulinganiza kwamkati zomwe nthawi zambiri zimawopsezedwa ndi moyo watsiku ndi tsiku. Nthawi zambiri tikakwiyira ana athu, chomwe chimalimbikitsa ndicho chathu kukhumudwitsa e osati pazomwe mwina adawachita.

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6 - Pitirizani kudzidalira kwa mwana wanu

Chimodzi mwa malamulo agolide kudziwika nthawi yomweyo kuwonetsetsa kuti khalani osangalala, ndikuzilandira momwe zilili. Lolani izo zochitika ndi kuphunzira kupyola pamasewerawa, kupewa kukhala ochulukirapo pa iye ndi mafotokozedwe anzeru pazifukwa zazinthu.
Ngati mwanayo onetsani chidwi ndi chinthu chowopsa, m'malo momukalipira, afotokozereni kuti akhoza kutero koma ayenera kusamala kwambiri chifukwa zitha kukhala zowopsa. Adzakhala yekha, chidwi chikadzakwaniritsidwa, a mvetsetsani kuti ndibwino kuti musachitenso. Malingaliro ake adzalembetsa zidziwitsozo ndipo nthawi ina chikhumbo sichidzawonekeranso.

 

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7 - Musamupangitse kuti adzidalire

Nthawi zambiri achikulire mosazindikira, amalepheretsa kudzidalira kwa ana Mwachitsanzo poyerekeza ndi anzawo omwe siophunzitsa kwenikweni. Tikukupatsani pansipa nsonga zothandiza kukhazikitsa:

Pewani kufananitsa ena
Amamufooketsa ndipo amamupangitsa kudzimva kukhala wosakwanira; mwana wanu, Komano, ayenera kumva wapadera ndi mphamvu zake ndi zofooka. Kumuwuza kuti ayang'ane yemwe timakhulupirira kuti wachita bwino kuposa iye kapena kuposa iye kumangomufooketsa ndipo sikungopita kulikonse.

Osamuweruza
Chiweruzo chimamupeputsa, ngati adalakwitsa mwina ndi chifukwa choti adasowa chidziwitso chazake, kapena chifukwa choti sanachite dala kapena chifukwa chotopa kapena mwina atasokonezedwa.

Osasokoneza malingaliro
Nthawi zonse mukumbutseni za chikondi chanu pa iye, momwe mumamukondera komanso kufunikira kwake kwa inu.

Muloleni amve thandizo lanu
Sizothandiza kumuuza zabwino akatsatira malamulowo komanso kumukalipira akawatsatira, malamulowo asakhalepo, kapena muyenera kukhala chitsanzo cha malamulowo. Sikulakwa kuti mwanayo akhulupirire kuti kuti mukhale ndi chitetezo chanu komanso chikondi chanu ayenera kungochita zomwe mumakonda: mwanjira imeneyi achoka kutali ndi chikhalidwe chake.

 

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8 - Patsani nthawi yabwino kwa mwana

Ngati tiyenera timathera maola ambiri limodzi ndizopanda phindu kuti mwana wathu adutse nthawi pakati pa kunyong'onyeka ndikukhumudwa kwakukulu, munthawi izi mwana wathu angafune kusewera, kusangalala, kusangalala ndi kumvetsera. S.ndipo mukudziwa kuti simungathe gwiritsani nthawi yabwino, ndiye pewani.
Mwinanso yesetsani kumulowetsa m'zinthu zothandiza zomwe muyenera kuchita mwachangu: chofunikira sikumupatsa njira yoganizira kuti ntchito zapakhomo kapena zantchito ndizofunikira kuposa iye, zitha kukhala zochepa, koma muyenera kuyesetsa nthawi zonse muziyika patsogolo.

9 - Osanyalanyaza mantha ake

Ana otero ndizabwinobwino kuti kuwonetsa mantha: izi zitha kukhala zopanda maziko, koma chinthu choyenera kupewa ndi kumuseka kapena kumunyoza akakhala ndi nkhawa ndi china chake.
Mawu ngati "Mukumva chiyani? Ndingakuthandizeni bwanji?”Ndizofunikira kuti amuulule kwa ife, kuthana ndi mantha nthawi zambiri.
Kutenga chitsanzo chabwino, mutha kuyesa kumuuza momwe inu mwapambana mantha: adzakhala ndi zambiri kudalira ndikudalira inu ndipo adzakhala ndi zida zothana ndi zomwe zimamuwopsa.

 

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10 - Pewani mkwiyo

Capriccio imachokera ku chosowa cha mwana yemwe sanalandiridwe. Musanakalipe ndikudziyesa mulingo womwewo, dzifunseni zomwe zikusowa, chiyani zomwe akufuna kuti akuuzeni, zolakwa zilizonse zomwe zimachitika poyanjana naye. Lamuloli limagwira ntchito kwa ana aang'ono komanso ana achinyamata.
Yesetsani kuti musalowerere ndale ndizovuta, koma ndi njira yokhayo yothetsera mavutowa.

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