Kwa otchuka kwambiri mzukwa, lero linawonjezedwa kuzungulira. Izi ndizo zonse machenjerero achikondi kutengeraambiguity ndi kupitirirakusayankhulana momveka bwino ndi makhiristo m'banjamo. Mwina simukudziwa, koma mwina inunso mwina mukudziwa wozunzidwa mozungulira. Kapenanso wopha mnzake. Ngati mukufuna kuzamitsa mutuwo, m'nkhaniyi tikufotokozerani zomwe zimatanthauza kuzungulira munthu ndi chifukwa chake kuli kolakwika makamaka, kukupatsani zina malingaliro amomwe mungachitire ngati izi zikuyenera kukukhudzani!
Koma musanayambe, yang'anani izi kanema wosunthika wachikondi zoona!
Tanthauzo la kuzungulira
Woyamba kuyankhulapo "Kuzungulira" anali wolemba mabulogu waku America Anna Iovine, atatha kukhala ndi moyo izi. Koma kodi kuyenda mozungulira kumatanthauza chiyani? Ndizosavuta kwambiri: mumayamba chibwenzi ndi munthu, zonse zikuwoneka kuti zikuyenda bwino, mpaka munthu amene akukambidwayo zimasowa m'moyo wanu, koma sizimasowa kwathunthu. Musanyalanyaze mauthenga anu, koma osaphonya amodzi anu Instagram story. Palibe kamodzi komwe amakufunsani, koma zithunzi zanu zonse zilipo nthawizonse monga. Samva ngati akuyamba chibwenzi chokhazikika, koma pitirizani kupereka ndemanga patsamba lililonse pa Facebook. Mwachidule, imakana kukhala gawo la moyo wanu weniweni, koma osati yadijito. Chinachake chofananako chinachitika kwa Iovine, yemwe, poyankhula za izi ndi abwenzi ake ndi anzawo, anazindikira kuti izi zinali zofala kwambiri. Inde, adayambitsa mawu oti "orbiter", Kufotokozera ngati "Wakale uja yemwe amakusungani mozungulira" ndi kuyambitsa liwu loti "kuzungulira" mgulu lofala.
Chifukwa chiyani munthu amazungulira?
Chomwe chimasokoneza kwambiri wovutikayo ndi kusakhala ndi mafotokozedwe ndi kulongosola mokhudzana ndi - zowonekera zokha - kuchotsa mnzake. Chikola kupezeka - kupezeka ndizotopetsa chifukwa zimawononga kukhazika mtima pansi kwa winayo, yemwe pamapeto pake amadzizunza yekha, kudabwa pachabe kuti walakwa chiyani pachibwenzi. M'malo mwake, m'modzi yekha amene amachititsa izi ndizomwe zimazungulira zokha. Pakadali pano adziwika 3 zifukwa zomwe zimafotokozera chifukwa chake munthu amatengera chikhalidwe cholowerera m'mabanja awo.
1. Chifukwa amakhudzidwa ndi mawonekedwe a chisokonezo ndipo kudwala uku kumamukankhira iye gwirizanani ndi mnzake wakale kudzera mndandanda wa zizindikiro zosokoneza komanso zotsutsana kuti adzimangirire nacho chokha. Mwachidule, kwa ena, kuyenda mozungulira kuli ngati kuchita mawonekedwe olamulira achinyengo ena, kugwiritsa ntchito kuwopsa kwawo.
2. Chifukwa chiyani sazindikira zomwe akuchita, choncho yang'anani nkhani zanu pa Instagram, zikukulemetsani ndi zokonda pa Facebook, perekani ndemanga pazithunzi zanu zonse, koma popanda chiwembu kapena zokopa zabodza. Mwachidule, ozungulira amachita zinthu izi kusungulumwa, kuti adutse nthawiyo, chifukwa ali pamzere ku supermarket ndipo sayenera kukutumizirani mameseji ang'onoang'ono kapena mukudziwa kuti zochita zake mwachisawawa ndizophunziridwa.
3. Bwanji, ndipo izi zimachitika nthawi zambiri, sakudziwa zomwe akufuna ndipo samva kuti ali wokonzeka kutseka mutuwo. Mwachizoloŵezi, orbiters, kapena ena, amatsatira njira ya kukopana mwangwiro chikhalidwe Ndi wopandaubwenzi m'njira yoti mukhale omasuka ku bweretsani mayendedwe anu nthawi komanso komwe akufuna. Pakadali pano, amanyansidwa ndi maubale akulu, koma pamapeto pake (nthawi zonse zakutali) china chake chimasintha, sizimalepheretsa kuthekanso kuganiziranso ndikubwezeretsanso banja loyambalo. "Chimodzi mwazinthu zodabwitsazi zimachitika makamaka chifukwa cha anthu omwe akuwona kuti sanakonzekere kukhala pachibwenzi, komabe amasankha kubwezera munthu amene wasankha kumusiya, chifukwa chodetsa nkhawa ndichakuti ngati ayenera kuthetseratu kulumikizana, iwo atha kuphonya mwayi wolumikizana naye mtsogolo. " Ndi kudzera m'mawu awa Rachel O'Neill, Katswiri wazamaubwenzi, amafotokoza momveka bwino malingaliro a anthuwa.
Kwa mafotokozedwe onsewa ndikuwonetsanso chithunzi cha Hadrian Formosus, psychotherapist, yemwe amadziwika muorbiter mutu wodziwika ndi zowawa zaubwana zomwe zimamulepheretsa kukula kwake kwanthawi zonse komanso kutha kulumikizana ndi ena m'njira yabwinobwino.
chifukwa chiyani anthu amazungulira© Getty ImagesOrbiting ndi mzimu: Kodi pali kusiyana kotani?
Asanazungulidwe, panali zokambirana mzukwa. Ngakhale machitidwe onsewa akukhudzana ndi zowawa zachikondi, sayenera kusokonezedwa. Ndinu amene mumachitiridwa chipongwe munthu, kunja kwa buluu osafotokozera chilichonse, umasowa kwathunthu m'moyo wathu, nthawi zina amatitsekereza pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndikutichotsa pamabuku adilesi. Zitha kuchitika kuti mwakhala mukuyenderana komanso kulankhulana mpaka dzana, kenako nkusiyiratu mpaka kalekale. Kutengera pakuzunguliram'malo mwake kusowa sikumakhala komaliza koma pang'ono tsankho. Mnzanu wakale, amakuzungulirani, koma osachita chibwenzi nanu.
Kuzungulira ndikuzaza© Getty ImagesKuzungulira: momwe mungachitire
Tsoka ilo, palibe aliyense wa ife amene sangatengeke ndi izi mavuto amtima. Ena ambiri, ena ocheperapo, tonse tidakumana nawo ndipo, ngakhale tidavutika, tidakwanitsa kudzuka ndipo tidaphunzira kusiyanitsa yemwe ali woyenera ndi yemwe watilakwira. Komabe, pankhani yakuzungulira, ululu nthawi zina umakhala waukulu kuyambira pomwekusakana kuwonetsa momveka bwino kumatiletsa kutembenuza tsambalo ndikupita mtsogolo, kuzunzidwa ndi kukayikira komanso kudzimva kuti ndife olakwa. Kuchira pambuyo pa mtundu uwu wa zokhumudwitsa, choyamba tiyenera kuchita kusesa koyera pama media azama TV: kutchinga, kuphimba, kubisa zomwe muli nazo kwa iwo omwe sanakhalepo olimba mtima kutikana kwathunthu. Ndiye muyenera kuvomereza zomwe zidachitika ndikufika pamapeto pake, ngakhale zili zowona nthawi zonse, kuti anthu ena ataya bwino kuposa kuwapeza!
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