Kusowa munthu sikutanthauza kuti muyenera kumubwezeretsanso m'moyo wanu

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Kusiya ndi kuzindikira kuti anthu ena ndi mbali yathu yakale, osati tsogolo lathu. Koma zimenezi sizikutanthauza kuti sizimapweteka. Ngakhale kuli kofunikira, kutsanzikana kumakhala kowawa nthawi zonse, makamaka pamene misewu ili ndi foloko kapena pali mwayi woti tingapwetekene wina ndi mnzake.

Pali maubwenzi akutha kulikonse ndipo ngakhale titamenyera bwanji kuti tiwapulumutse, pamapeto pake adzamira. Kutsanzikana naye kumasonyeza mphamvu ndi kukhwima maganizo. Zingatilepheretse kukhala m’malo oipa kapena kutilola kuti tizikumbukira bwino ubwenzi wathu. Nthawi zambiri matherowo amakhala omasula, ngakhale kuti sizokayikitsa komanso kulakalaka zomwe zingatipangitse kubwerera.

N’chifukwa chiyani mumasowa munthu amene anakukhumudwitsani?

Tikakhazikitsa ubale, ngakhale wosagwira ntchito kwambiri, zonse zomwe timachita ndikupanga malo ogawana malingaliro. Mu malo amaganizo amenewo mulibe nthawi zoipa zokha komanso zochitika zabwino zomwe zimakhala pamodzi. Malo amalingaliro amenewo amapangidwa ndi chinyengo chogawana, zizolowezi zomwe zimamangidwa pakapita nthawi, ndi zinthu zonse zomwe timafanana zomwe tili nazo ndi munthuyo.

Tikatsanzikana ndi munthu, malo amaganizo amenewo amakhalabe ndi nthawi. Sizizimiririka nthawi yomweyo pambuyo pomenyetsa chitseko kapena kukumbatira komaliza. Ndipo nthawi iliyonse tikabwerera ku malo omwe adagawana nawo, mphuno imayambiranso. Nyimbo, tsiku lapadera, zonunkhiritsa kapena mawu atha kutipangitsa kukhala paubwenzi umenewo, kuyambitsa zikumbukiro zabwino.

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Kukumbukira ndi kusowa wina sikuli koipa, ngakhale ngati ubale umene umatipweteka. Ndipotu, kafukufuku wasonyeza kuti kulakalaka kumudzi kumathandiza kuchepetsa kusapeza bwino kwa munthu amene tinali kumukonda koma salinso mbali ya moyo wathu pazifukwa zina.

Kusowa munthu kawirikawiri, kawirikawiri, kumverera kwabwino komwe kumatithandiza kuchepetsa kusungulumwa ndi chisoni cha kusakhalapo kwawo, komanso kutilola ife kukonza ndi kusintha ku zenizeni zatsopano. Kusowa wina kumatithandizanso kuunikanso ubalewo kuti tiwuphatikize mu mbiri ya moyo wathu ngati mutu wotsekedwa.

Kusowa munthu yemwe watipweteka sikutanthauza kuti ndife masochists, zimangotanthauza kuti tabwerera m'maganizo momwe timagawana nawo momwe timakumbukira bwino.

Komabe, tiyenera kukhala osamala chifukwa nostalgia nthawi zambiri imapangitsanso chidwi chofuna kugwirizanitsa ndikukhazikitsanso ubale womwe sudzabwereranso momwe timafunira chifukwa nthawi imatsekemera chilichonse ndikuiwala nthawi zoyipa komanso zifukwa zomwe zidatitsogolera kulekana.

Kusowa munthu si chifukwa chokwanira chobwezeretsanso ubale

Ubale uliwonse, makamaka pachiyambi, umabweretsa chinachake chopindulitsa ndipo umatisiya ndi zochitika zabwino. Komabe, nkosavuta kuti mtunda ndi chikhumbo zitisewere, kutipangitsa kuiwala mavuto, kusagwirizana ndi mikangano yomwe takumana nayo. Chiyembekezo cha masiku akale chiwopsezo chochotsa kulemera kwa zokumana nazo zoyipa ndi swipe ya siponji, kutipangitsa kuwona ubalewo kudzera mu prism yopanda chiyembekezo.

Pachifukwa ichi, kuphonya munthu ndi kukumbukira zomwe zinali zabwino si zifukwa zokwanira zobwerera mmbuyo. Musanabwezerenso ubale, m'pofunika kulemba ganyu a mtunda wamaganizidwe zomwe zimatithandiza kulinganiza zabwino ndi zoipa.

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Nostalgia sikuti ndi chizindikiro choti tiyenera kubwezeretsanso ubale. Nthawi zambiri chimangokhala chikhumbo chofuna kumva zabwino zomwe timamva, pazokumana nazo zomwe tagawana nazo kapena nthawi zomwe sizidzabweranso titamva kuti tili achichepere, omasuka, osasamala ...


Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti ubale uliwonse ndi wapadera mu nthawi ndi malo. Sichinthu choipa kapena chabwino, koma chachibadwa, monga njira ya moyo. Izi zikutanthauza kuti munthu amene timalumikizana naye panthawi ina m'miyoyo yathu mwina sakhalanso woyenera kwambiri kapena sakugwirizana ndi moyo wathu wamakono, makamaka ngati ubalewo unali kusonyeza kale zizindikiro za kuwonongeka.

Kusweka, ngakhale zofunika kwambiri, zimadzazidwa ndi kukaikira ndi zilakolako zomwe tiyenera kuzifufuza mwanzeru. Ubale wosokonekera ndi woipa komanso wowononga kukula kwathu, kotero ngakhale kuti mtunda umatulutsa chikhumbo china, nthawi zambiri chinthu chanzeru kwambiri kuchita ndi kusabwerera mmbuyo ndikusiya aliyense apite njira yake.

Nthawi zambiri ndikwabwino kupuma nthawi kuti musunge zokumbukira zabwino kuposa kulimbikira kupitiriza kudzivulaza. Ubale, monga moyo, uyenera kuyenda, kotero palibe chifukwa chosunga zomwe tasankha kuzisiya panthawiyo. Osalola kuti chikhumbo chofuna kukuwonongerani pokupangitsani kuti muyambitsenso maubwenzi omwe samakupangitsani kumva bwino.

Malire:

Paersch, C., ndi. Al. (2022) Kukumbukira zochitika za autobiographical self-efficacy kumawonjezera kuwunikanso-zotsatira za kukumbukira kolakwika. Chisoni; 22(6): 1148-1158.

Dahl, A. et. Al. (2019) Kukumbukira bwino kumalumikizidwa ndi kuchepa kwachiwopsezo cha kukhumudwa. Makhalidwe Aanthu Amunthu; 3: 265-273.

Zhou, X. et. Al. (2008) Kuthana ndi kusungulumwa: pa ntchito yobwezeretsa ya nostalgia. Psychol Sci; 19 (10): 1023-9.

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