Kupuma kaye poganizira: kodi kumathandizadi banja lomwe lili pamavuto?

"Tiyeni tichite izi, ndayika kaye moyo wanga, koma pokhapokha mutandipsompsona."

Pali ena omwe amawawona ngati kutha kwa ubale ndipo omwe, kumbali ina, amawaona ngati chithandizo chamtengo wapatali: kuyimilira kounikira kumakumana ndi malingaliro otsutsana. Poyamba zonse maluwa ndi maluwa, koma kamodzi mphindi owoneka bwino wakugwa mchikondi, maanja onse amadziwa, posachedwa kapena mtsogolo,chizolowezi ndipo ambiri aiwo amakumananso ndi zina zipolowe pamitu yosiyanasiyana. Kodi zonsezi ziyenera kuganizira nkhani yachikondi? Osati kwenikweni. Kusamvana kumakhala kwachilendo, makamaka ngati kumachitika chifukwa cha nyengo inayake wotopetsa komanso wopanikiza, zikavuta kwambiri kuchoka kunyengerera. Poterepa, kungakhale lingaliro labwino kusankha imodzi pumulani poganizira. Komano ngati mavutowa ndi ovuta kwambiri, monga kuchepa kwambiri kwa chilakolako ndi chidwi, ndiye kuti kupuma kumangochulukirachulukira kuchedwa kutsegulidwa kale kwa ubalewo.

M'nkhaniyi tikufotokozerani ngati kupumula kounikira kuli kothandiza, kukupatsaninso malangizo ena momwe mungapangire kuti ikhale yolimbikitsa momwe zingathere. Kumbukirani kuti, pafupifupi nthawi zonse, mkati mwa banja, mavuto amayamba chifukwa sitilankhula mokwanira. Yesani kutero fotokozani momwe mukumvera kwa munthu amene mumamukonda ...

Kodi kupuma kwakanthawi kwa kulingalira kuyenera kutha nthawi yayitali bwanji?

Ngakhale kulibe lamulo lenileni loti liyenera kukhala nthawi yayitali bwanji, kupumira kwakusinkhasinkha kuyenera kukhala kwakanthawi pensare e kupanga zisankho. Pazifukwa izi, nthawi yopuma imatha kusiyanasiyana kutengera banja ndi mtundu waubwenzi womwe awiriwo ali nawo kumbuyo kwawo. Kutenga nthawi yayitali kwambiri kuti muwunikire kumatanthauza kusafuna kuthana ndiubwenzi, nthawi yomwe imasiyana kuthetsa al ma meseji, chifukwa zimapangitsa kuti zitheke kusanthula kwa malingaliro kuchokera mbali zonse ziwiri. M'malo mwake, ndi mwanjira iyi yomwe inu ndi iye mumamvetsetsa momwe mumamveranirana komanso ngati zili bwino kupita patsogolo o kuswa ndithudi.

Ubwino wopumira poyang'ana

Ubwino waukulu wakanthawi kaye kounikira ndi khalani ndi nthawi yocheza ndi inu nokha. Izi zikutanthauza kuti titha kuchita chilichonse chomwe tikufuna, koma kuti tili ndi ufulu wodziyang'ana tokha ndi momwe timamvera. M'malo mwake, chikondi ndikumverera, osati kutengeka: kutengeka ndikumva "kopita", komwe kumamveka koposa zonse mukayamba kukondana, mphindi yodzaza ndi zodabwitsa komanso zatsopano. Chikondi, komano, ndi a kumverera kovuta Che imatsalira pakapita nthawi ngakhale zovuta. Pokhala masiku angapo ndi inu nokha, ndikuganiza za ubale wanu, mudzatha kumvetsetsa zomwe mukumva ndi yamphamvu mokwanira kudziona ngati wachikondi.

Kenako, kuyimilira kaye kusinkhasinkha kumakupatsani mwayi wowunika bwino khalidwe lanu kulinga kwa mnzake. Mafunso onga ngati "mwina zinali choncho cholakwa changa osati yanu? " kapena "Ndamunyoza kulakwitsa kwanga? " itha kubwera m'maganizo mwanu: yesani kuwunikanso chilichonse mwanjira ina ndikuyankha mafunso osiyanasiyana. Kumvetsetsa zolakwitsa zomwe mwachita ndiye gawo loyambira kuganiza za momwe zikanakhalira bwino tulukani mu izi mavuto.

Momwe mungakhalire panthawi yopuma kuti muwunikire

"Ndimanyamula mtima wako, ndimanyamula mumtima mwanga"
EE Cummings

Maanja akawona kufunika koti ayime kaye moganizira kaye, onse awiri amamva kuti china chake sichili bwino ndi chibwenzi chawo. Zomwe sizinanenedwe poopa kukangana zimakhala zoposa zomwe akunena mokweza, kupezeka kwa winayo zikuwoneka kuti zatha ndipo timatsutsana chifukwa cha izi ikukonzekera zikuwoneka kuti zasowa kwamuyaya. "Tiyeni titenge kanthawi" ndi mawu oti amawopsyeza, zomwe zikusonyeza kuti kutha kwa ubalewo kuyandikira. Komabe, ngati tikukhala mwanzeru, kupuma kwakanthawi kounikira ndikofunikira. Ngati mukukhulupirira kuti nthawi yakwana yoti inu ndi bwenzi lanu mukhale nokha, tikupemphani kuti mutsatire malangizo awa.

1. Pangani malamulo

Kaya nonse mudasankha kapena kuti ndi m'modzi wa inu, kaye kaye kusinkhasinkha kuyenera kutsatira "malamulo“, Kuti inu ndi mnzanu mudziwe momwe mungakhalire nthawi yopatukana. Malamulowa makamaka akukhudza ngati mungathe kapena ayi chibwenzi ndi munthu wina. Upangiri wathu sikuti ugwere mumsampha "msomali aphwanya msomali“Kupumula mu ubale ndikofanana ndikumverera kufunika koganizira komanso osapanga zisankho mwachangu zomwe zingayambitse kupatukana. Kuwona munthu wina kumatha zipangitsa zinthu kuipiraipira, chifukwa chotengeka ndi chidwi chodziwa, mwina sungayang'anire ubale wanu "wakale", sizinathebe.

2. Lekani kulumikizana

Sikutenga kaye pang'ono kuti musinkhasinkhe ngati angasinthire mauthenga osalekeza kapena mumamuyimbira foni mnzanu. Ngati inu ndi bwenzi lanu mwasankha kuti muzikhala nokha ndi chifukwa, pazifukwa zina, nkhani yachikondi chanu idayamba khalani pafupi nanu ndipo simunkawoneka kuti mukuyenerana. Pachifukwa ichi, muyenera kuganizira nokha kudula kulumikizana ndi wina wanu wofunika, osafunsa kuti ali bwanji kapena kumangodikirira kuyimba kapena kuyankha uthenga. Mwina ndichinthu chovuta kwambiri kuchita, komanso ndichofunika kwambiri: osamumva kapena kudziwa momwe alili, mwaphonya? Mverani chikhumbo za kukhalapo kwake ndi za aliyense mphindi zokongola munakumana ndi chiyani limodzi? Ndiye mwina ndiye mwamunayo m'moyo wanu ndipo mwakhalapo chimodzi mavuto monga zimachitikira maanja ambiri. Koma ngati mutakhala chete masiku angapo simukumva kusungulumwa pang'ono, ndiye kuti muyenera kupanga chisankho china ndipo chikondi icho chinali chitapita kalekale.

3. Ganizirani za inu nokha ndi okondedwa anu apamtima

Mwambo wopatukana kwakanthawi ndi mwayi wabwino ganizirani za inu eni ndipo mwina kuti muyese zomwe simunachitepo kale. Izi sizikutanthauza kudziponyera nokha m'mitundu yambiri zosokoneza, Koma tinene yang'anani pazomwe mukuganiza kuti ndizofunikira komanso zomwe mumakonda. Chifukwa chake, pocheza ndi inu nokha, mumvetsetsa momwe mukumvera.

Munthawi imeneyi, simusowa kuti mukhale nokha: sankhani kampani ya anthu omwe mumawakhulupirira zambiri, atha kukhala amici o banja. Khulupirirani ndi kufotokoza zakukhosi kwanu nawo: motere simungapite molakwika. Mutha kupezanso kuti pomwe mudali pachibwenzi nthawi yayitali, mumanyalanyaza izi ndipo uwu ndi mwayi wabwino yambitsaninso ubalewo pamodzi ndi iwo amene amakukondani.

Bwera pamodzi

Pakapita nthawi kuti muganizire, nonse awiri ndiinu mupanga chisankho. Ngati mwamvetsetsa kuti chikondi chanu ndi champhamvu bwanji, ino ndiyo nthawi kuyambiranso. Bwanji? Mwachidule, kudziwana wina ndi mnzake. Uzani wina ndi mnzake china chatsopano zomwe mudadzipeza nokha mukamasiyana komanso mwina milungu nthano simunadziwe za wina ndi mnzake. Muuzeni zomwe mumakonda za iye komanso chifukwa chomwe mukuganiza kuti ndi munthu woyenera kwa inu, zomwe zakupangitsani kumvetsetsa. Zikhala ngati yambani kuyambira pachiyambi, koma kale ndikulimba mtima kumbuyo kwake. Mudathetsa mavutowa, mwadzipeza nokha ndipo muli ndi moyo limodzi patsogolo: chiyambi chabwino chatsopano!

«Popeza ndidakukondani, zonse zasintha ndipo ndizodzaza ndi kukongola… Chikondi chili ngati mafuta onunkhira, ngati mphepo, ngati mvula. Mukudziwa, kumwamba kwanga, muli ngati mvula ndipo ine, ngati dziko lapansi, ndikukulandirani. "
Frida khalo