Pali mawu ndi malingaliro omwe titha kunena kuti amakhala "yapamwamba"Usiku. Mwinamwake ife sitinamve za izo mpaka posachedwa kenako, mwadzidzidzi, anthu otizungulirai media EU chikhalidwe zomwe timagwiritsa ntchito pamoyo wathu watsiku ndi tsiku zimayamba gwiritsani ntchito liwulo amene tanthauzo lake lenileni nthawi zambiri limanyalanyazidwa. Ikugwera m'gululi lingaliro la "kupirira", yogwira ntchito m'malo osiyanasiyana, kuphatikiza ya zamaganizo.
Lero tidziwa kupirira kwenikweni ndikotani, ikadziwonetsera yokha, zake ndi zotani Mawonekedwe ndi momwe tingachitire sinthani kuthekera uku m'moyo wa aliyense wa ife.
Kodi "kupirira" kumatanthauza chiyani
Mawu akuti "kupirira"Zimachokera ku Chilatini"sungani", kapena"zophulika","bwererani mmbuyo". Mwambiri, mawu awa akuwonetsa kutha kwa makina kuti azolowere kusintha. Pachifukwa ichi sayenera kusokonezedwa ndi mawu ofanana koma ndi tanthauzo lina, la kukana. Zowonadi, zomalizirazi ndizo zochita ndi zomwe mumayesa moyenera kuthana ndi kupezeka kwa zovuta zina. Kukhazikika, komano, silikana bampu, ku chochitika kapena chochitika, koma amawona kusintha kapena kunyowa poyerekeza ndi iwo.
Monga momwe mungaganizire, lingaliro la kukhazikika limagwiritsidwa ntchito kwa ambiri nthambi zasayansi komanso zosagwirizana ndi sayansi. Mwachitsanzo, timakambirana zakukhazikika pamunda wazomangamanga, aadamana, a zamoyo ndipo ngakhale del kukonza ngozi, pomwe kukhala wolimba mtima kumagwirizana ndi kuthekera kwachilengedwe kwa dongosolo la sinthani kagwiridwe kake musanachitike, pakusintha ndi kutsatira kusintha. Komabe, apa tikhala tikuyang'ana kulimba mtima mu zamaganizo, komwe ingatanthauzidwe kuti kuthekera kolimbana bwino ndi zoopsa, mavuto ndi mavuto.
Makhalidwe a anthu opirira
Chifukwa chake, mu psychology, kupirira kumayenderana ndi kutha kuthana ndi zoopsa kapena zovuta zina, kudziwa momwe angakonzekeretsere moyo wamunthu mwaluso osadzilola kutsika. Anthu opirira amakumana ndi zovuta powadyera masuku pamutu kuti mumvetse mwayi watsopano ndi kupereka chidwi chosiyana ndi kukhalapo kwawo. Malinga ndi tanthauzo ili, kupirira kumatha kuwoneka ngati mphamvu yofanana ndi yamphamvu zomwe tidakulira tili ana, koma mwina zingakudabwitseni kudziwa kuti kuthekera uku zili mwa aliyense wa ife ndipo timachigwiritsa ntchito ngakhale sitikudziwa, mwina pang'ono.
Komabe, pali anthu ena omwe m'moyo wawo amachita bwino kwambiri kuposa ena polimbikitsa izi ndikuwonetsa izi Mawonekedwe:
- Kukhala ndi chiyembekezo komanso chiyembekezo: yemwe ali wolimba mtima alinso makamaka wokhulupirira zabwino komanso wolimbikira kutsutsana kusintha ndipo, mwambiri, za moyo.
- Kukula kwakukulu kwa gulu likugwira ntchito: olimba mtima adziwa ntchito bwino mu timu, makamaka ngati otsogolera. M'malo mwake, awo kusinthasintha poyerekeza ndi zosayembekezereka chimam'lola kuthana ndi mavuto modekha komanso mwamphamvu.
- Kudzipereka: kulimba mtima kwa munthu kumaululidwanso mu chifuniro cha kutenga nawo mbali pazochitika zosiyanasiyana, osangokhala chabe.
- Wopatsidwa ndi kuthetsa mavuto: kuwonjezera pa kudzipereka, iwo omwe ali olimba mtima amaonekera chifukwa cha kuthekera kwawo kuthetsa mavuto. Chovuta chilichonse chomwe chimadutsa munjira yake chimagwiritsidwa ntchito ngati mwayi. Chifukwa chake, mavuto salinso zopinga koma zochitika.
- Kuyamikira zovuta: kaya ndi dziko la ntchito kapena lachinsinsi kapena moyo wachikhalidwe, kukhala wolimba mtima kumadzionetsera kwambiri mu kufunitsitsa kulandira zosintha osawakumana nawo ngati ovuta.
Kukhazikika sikutanthauza kusakhazikika
Powerenga koyamba zikhalidwe za anthu olimba mtima komanso momwe talenteyi imawonetsera kunja, wina angaganize molakwika kuti anthu awa ndi osazengereza komanso osasinthika kuchokera kuzinthu zilizonse zomwe zimawachitikira. Sizili choncho. Kukhala wolimba mtima sizitanthauza kuti simukumana ndi zovuta komanso zopinga pamoyo wanu pakhungu lanu, momwemonso, sizimakupangitsani kuti muzitha kukhala achisoni, kuchokera ku zowawa zamaganizidwe ndi kuchokera kuzinthu zina zoipa. Komabe, kukhala wolimba mtima kumatanthauzanso kukhala ndi nyonga yamkati zida zofunika kuthana nazo munthawi yakusowa, popanda kuwalepheretsa.
Komanso, kupirira sikukhazikika kosasintha komanso kosasinthika mu umunthu wa aliyense wa ife. Zowonadi, zimaphatikizapo malingaliro angapo omwe angakhale anaphunzira ndi kukulitsa kuti athe kuzigwiritsa ntchito mokwanira.
Zinthu zomwe zingalimbikitse kapena kuchepetsa kupirira
Kafukufuku wosiyanasiyana wama psychology awonetsa kuti pali zinthu zomwe zingathe kuonjezera kapena kuchepetsa msinkhu wokhazikika za munthu aliyense. Oyambirira amanenedwa zoteteza, pomwe omaliza a chiopsezo.
I zoteteza, amatchulidwanso kuti "chitukuko", ndi ambiri ndipo amakhudza mbali zosiyanasiyana za moyo wamunthu. Pakati pawo pali kudzidalira, kudziletsa kwakukulu komanso chidwi, kukula mwamtendere m'banja e sangalalani ndi chithandizo, ndicho chithandizo chomwe chimachokera kwa anthu omwe timakonda kwambiri.
Za ine zinthu zoopsa, amapanga munthu payekha osatetezeka ndipo kuthekera kwawo kunyamula zipsinjo, kupsinjika ndi zovuta za nkhawa ndi kupanikizika zimachepa. Ndizofanana kwambiri ndi nthawi yomwe unali mwana, m'zaka zaubwana ndi unyamata. Zowopsa ndizomwe zimakhudzana ndi gawo lamaganizidwe, bwerani kudzidalira kapena kudzipatula poyerekeza ndi ena, ndi omwe amalumikizidwa ndichikhalidwe cha banja, Mwachitsanzo kusagwirizana bwino ndi makolo kapena mikangano mkati mwa banja lenilenilo.
Momwe mungapangire kupirira kwanu
Tanena momwe chitukuko ndi chilimbikitso chokhazikika m'moyo wa munthu aliyense ndizotheka. Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kuyamba kukhazikitsa machitidwe angapo zomwe zimakonda izi kusintha kuti kusinthe ndichakuti chizolowezi chogwiritsa ntchito moyenera chilichonse chomwe chimangowoneka ngati chosalimbikitsa.
Choyamba, akatswiri amalangiza kutero ganizirani zamakhalidwe anu. Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kuyambira pakulingalira: chomwe chili chofunikira kwenikweni kwa inu? Kodi mukufuna kukhala munthu wamtundu wanji? Izi zikafotokozedwa bwino, mutha kugwiritsa ntchito mfundo zomwe mwapeza kuti muthane ndi kusayembekezereka kwa moyo.
Njira ina yothandiza ndi ya kusamala ndi za kusinkhasinkha. Mukamachita masewerawa, mutha kudziwa bwino za inu nokha ndi malingaliro anu ndipo mutha kuphunzira kuwongolera zomwe mumachita zokha, malingaliro anu ndi momwe mumamvera malingana ndi mwambowu.
Pomaliza pake, samalani kwambiri zomwe zili zabwino m'moyo wanu ndipo musataye mtima pokumana ndi mavuto kapena mikhalidwe yomwe simungasinthe. Tazolowera kukhala "olamulira" ndikusankha zomwe timakonda kapena ayi: timasinthira chilichonse malinga ndi momwe tikukondera kapena zomwe timakonda, koma sitingathe kuzichita pazinthu zonse. Nthawi zina zimakhala zofunikira kuthana ndi zenizeni komanso kuvomereza zochitika kapena zochitika zomwe sitingathe kuzilamulira. Yankho lake? Imani ndikuwona zina zonse zabwino zomwe zatsala, ngakhale zili zopweteka kapena zokhumudwitsa. Izi sizitanthauza kusiya kapena kuponyera chopukutira: ndi njira yokhayo osakhumudwitsa ena za zosasintha.
Mawu abwino kwambiri okhudzana ndi kupirira
Pomaliza, tasonkhanitsa mawu okongola kwambiri a akatswiri amisala komanso olemba akulu amakono komanso zam'mbuyomu pothana ndi mavuto.
Kukhazikika sikumangokhala khumbo lokhala ndi moyo mulimonse momwe zingakhalire, komanso kuthekera kogwiritsa ntchito zomwe mwapeza munthawi zovuta kuti mupange tsogolo.
Andrea Fontana
Zovuta zimaswa amuna ena, koma kulimbitsa ena.
Nelson Mandela
Kwa munthu wolimba mtima, kugonjetsedwa kulikonse, ngakhale kumabweretsa kukhumudwa, kumawoneka ngati mwayi wophunzira ndikuchita bwino.
Peter Trabucchi
Sikuti zinthu ndizovuta zomwe sitimayerekeza, ndichifukwa choti sitimayerekeza kuti zimakhala zovuta.
Lucius Anneus Seneca
Dziko limatiphwanya tonse, koma owerengeka okha ndi omwe amakhala olimba pomwe adaswedwa.
Ernest Hemingway
Kukhazikika sikukhazikika, koma kusuntha. Kukhazikika kumatanthauza kudumphira mmbuyo, kuti muthamange ndipo, mwachangu, gonjetsani chopingacho.
Francis Boturi
Kulephera ndi gawo la moyo wathu. Kuchita bwino sikumakuphunzitsani chilichonse, koma kulephera kumakuphunzitsani kupirira. Zimakuphunzitsani kuti mudzitenge nokha ndikuyesanso.
Sarah Morgan
Mphamvu zamkati ndizo chitetezo champhamvu kwambiri chomwe muli nacho. Musaope kutenga nawo mbali pachisangalalo chanu.
Dalai Lama
Aliyense amene ali ndi mphamvu zokwanira bwanji atha kuthana ndi vuto lililonse.
Friedrich Nietzsche
Gawo labwino kwambiri lamoyo ndikukhazikika.
Alain deBotton
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