Pali nthano yofala yomwe tonse tamvapo nthawi zina, makamaka pamene tikukumana ndi zovuta: zomwe sizimakupha, zimakulimbikitsani. Mosakayikira a kupirira imamangidwa pa mizati ya zochitika zovuta, zomwe zimatikakamiza kukhala ndi mphamvu zomwe timaganiza kuti sitinakhale nazo kapena kutikankhira kupyola malire.
Koma kulimba mtima komwe kumabwera chifukwa cha zovuta ndi chinthu chimodzi, china ndikukhudzidwa kwamalingaliro komwe zochitika zowopsa zimatha kukhala nazo. M'malo mwake, kafukufuku watsopano wawonetsa kuti zochitika zomvetsa chisoni sizimatipangitsa kukhala amphamvu nthawi zonse. Nthawi zina zimachitika zosiyana.
Zomwe sizimakupha sizimakulimbikitsani nthawi zonse
Kafukufuku wopangidwa ku yunivesite ya Texas adasanthula zambiri kuchokera kwa anthu opitilira 1.200 omwe adapulumuka kusintha kwanyengo pazaka makumi awiri. Iye anapeza kuti maganizo a anthu amachepa akakumana ndi masoka achilengedwe komanso nyengo yoipa kwambiri imene imasintha kwambiri miyoyo yawo.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amenewa anatsatira anthu amene anakumana ndi mphepo yamkuntho, kusefukira kwa madzi, chilala, nyengo yachisanu yadzaoneni, ndiponso ngozi zadzidzidzi za m’mafakitale m’dera la Houston pakati pa 2000 ndi 2020. Iwo anafika ponena kuti mwambi wakale wakuti “chimene sichimakupha chimakupangitsani kukhala wamphamvu” sichoncho. zolondola ndithu. Zowonadi, thanzi lamalingaliro limavutika kwambiri chifukwa cha kuchuluka kwa zochitika zowopsa. Muzochitika izi, thanzi la maganizo limatsika kwambiri.
Kafukufuku wofananira nawo adachitika ku Brown University anafika pa mfundo yomweyo. Atapenda zowawa za anthu asanayambe komanso atakumana ndi chivomezi chachisanu ndi chimodzi champhamvu kwambiri chomwe chinalembedwa ku Chile, ofufuzawo adapeza kuti anthu omwe adakumanapo ndi zoopsa zomwe zidachitika m'mbuyomu, monga kumwalira kwa wokondedwa, amakhala ndi mwayi wokhala ndi thanzi labwino.
Nthawi zambiri, zoopsa zochitika kulenga kumverera kwa anaphunzira kusowa chochita zomwe zimapangitsa anthu kukhala pachiwopsezo chotsatira zoyipa zotsatirazi. Kuthana ndi vuto lopwetekedwa mtima si chitsimikizo kuti ngati izi sizichitikanso. Ngati zinthu zodetsa nkhawazi zimabweranso pafupipafupi ndipo tikalephera kuzigwira kapena kuthana nazo, zitha kufooketsa thanzi lathu lamaganizidwe. Zopwetekedwa mobwerezabwereza zimawonjezera ndi kufooketsa mphamvu zathu zamaganizo.
Mwachidule, zochitika zovutitsa kwambiri zakale, zomwe zinachitikira aliyense payekha kapena palimodzi, zingatipangitse kukhala pachiopsezo cha kuvulala ndi kuonjezera mwayi wokhala ndi matenda a maganizo, monga kuvutika maganizo, nkhawa, kupsinjika maganizo pambuyo pa zoopsa kapena kuledzera.
Kodi tingadziteteze bwanji ku zochitika zoopsa?
Koposa zonse, ndikofunikira kusiyanitsa zovuta zomwe zingathe kuthetsedwa ndi zowawa zomwe sitingathe kuzipirira. Zopsinjika zomwe zimatha kutha nthawi zambiri zimakhala zocheperako, zomwe zimatilola kugwiritsa ntchito njira zosiyanasiyana zothanirana ndi vutoli, osapitilira luso lathu. Izi zitha kukhala ndi kuthekera kokulirapo chifukwa zimatikakamiza kutero tulukani m'malo abwino ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo samapanga mkhalidwe wachisoni choipitsitsa.
Kumbali ina, zovuta zomwe sitingathe kuthana nazo nthawi zambiri zimakhala zowopsa, monga kugwiriridwa, nkhondo kapena masoka achilengedwe. Zochitika izi sizimangodabwitsa, komanso zimatha kusokoneza mphamvu zathu zolimbana ndi vutoli, kutulutsa kupsinjika kwamalingaliro komwe kumawopseza thanzi lathu lamalingaliro komanso kudodometsa malingaliro athu adziko lapansi ndi zikhulupiriro zathu. Zowopsa zamtunduwu zimakhala ndi mphamvu zowononga kwambiri, tidzafunika nthawi yochulukirapo kuti tichire ndipo tingafunike thandizo lamalingaliro.
Mulimonsemo, ndikofunikira kukumbukira kuti zinthu zikavuta, timakonda kukhulupirira kuti zowawazo zidzalimbikitsa kulimba mtima ndikutithandiza kukhala abwino kapena amphamvu. Mwachitsanzo, m’chaka choyamba cha mliriwu, tinkaganiza kuti “tituluka tili olimba,” koma sizinali choncho.
Tiyenera kudziwa kuti si zochitika zomvetsa chisoni zimene zimasintha ndi kutilimbikitsa, koma mmene timachitira nazo. Kuvutika mwa iko kokha sikuli mtundu wina wa chidziwitso. Ngati tikufuna kuti zowawa zathu zikhale ndi tanthauzo, kuti zikhale zolimbikitsa mwanjira ina, tiyenera kuonetsetsa kuti tapeza tanthauzo lake ndipo tisalole kuvutika mongoyembekezera vumbulutso lachinsinsi.
Sitingathe kuthawa zochitika zina zowawa ndipo nthawi zambiri sitingathe kudziteteza ku zowawa zamaganizo, koma nthawi zonse tingayesere kupeza tanthauzo mwa izo kuti tiphatikizepo m'nkhani zathu za moyo ndikuziteteza kuti zisawononge thanzi lathu.
Malire:
Sansom, GT et. Al. (2022) Zowonjezereka zobwera chifukwa chokhala pachiwopsezo paumoyo wamalingaliro ku Houston, TX. Zowopsa Zachilengedwe; 111: 2809-2818.
Fernandez, CA ndi. Al. (2020) Kuunika ubale womwe ulipo pakati pa kupsinjika kwamalingaliro ndi kulimba kwamisala pakati pa anthu opulumuka tsoka la Chile. BJ Psych; 217 (5).
Pakhomo Kukhala ndi zochitika zomvetsa chisoni sikumatilimbitsa nthaŵi zonse idasindikizidwa koyamba mu Pakona ya Psychology.
