Dzimasuleni ku zizolowezi zamaganizidwe

Adele H. ndi kanema wolemba director Francois Truffaut wolemba zolemba za mwana wamkazi wa a Victor Hugo. Nkhani yachikondi, monga mutu wake ukunenera. Ikufotokoza zakumverera kwakukulu kwa mtsikana ameneyu kwa mwamuna yemwe samusamala kwenikweni za iye. Zomwe zingamupangitse kuti adzichepetse, kugonjera, kutayika pang'onopang'ono.
Moyo wa wosema mwanzeru waku France Camille Claudel, mwana wasukulu komanso wokonda wamkulu wa Auguste Rodin kwazaka zopitilira khumi ndi zisanu, amatipatsa chikondi chachikondi, chamkuntho komanso chotopetsa chomwe chingamupangitse kuti amwalire pothawira pambuyo poti atagwidwa koopsa komwe kudatenga zaka makumi atatu.
Ndi nkhani ziwiri zakukonda kwambiri, kuphatikiza zonse. Maulendo kudzera kuzunzika kwa azimayi pakufunafuna mwachikondi komwe kulakalaka ndi misala kumalumikizidwa moopsa. Palinso nkhani zambiri wamba zomwe, mwanjira zina, zimafanana ndi izi. Zomwe zimakhazikitsidwa pakumverera kwakukulu, kuzunza, kusokoneza, kuwononga. Izi zimakupangitsani kuvutika. Omwe amadziwika kuti "chikondi." Zowona: chikondi nthawi zonse chimatipangitsa kukhala osokoneza. Ndiwo kukongola kwa chochitika chodabwitsa komanso chodabwitsa ichi. Timakhala okokomeza pang'ono ndikuchita mantha, chifukwa popanda enawo sitingakhale, sitikhala ndi moyo, timasowa kena kake. Timalowelana, timadzaza, timamizidwa. Nthawi zina timakanirira. Kupatula apo, kukhala ndi chomangira kumatanthauza "kumangirizidwa" ndi wina. Tikasokonezedwa ndi maubwenzi ofunikira, timavutika. Mwanjira imeneyi nthawi zonse timakhala osokoneza bongo mchikondi.
Ndi zomangira zomwe zimatifotokozera kuti ndife ndani. Pokhapokha chifukwa cha zizolowezi zamphamvu kwambiri ndimomwe timamvetsetsa zathu, timadzipanga tokha. Kuchokera pazomwe tidakumana nazo koyambirira ndi anthu odziwika omwe amatisamalira, makamaka amayi, timakhala ndi mawonekedwe omwe timakonda kuyanjana nawo muubwenzi wapamtima wa achikulire. Kudzera mu chizolowezi choyambirira komanso chosangalatsa chomwe tingakhale, kukula, kudziyimira pawokha ndikudziwa momwe tingayambire "chizolowezi chaulere" ndi mnzathu, yemwe satiwopseza kwambiri.
Koma nthawi zambiri zinthu zimakhala zovuta. Sitikhala otetezeka kwambiri, monga munthawi yomwe timakonda, Freud adawonetsa, chifukwa mchikondi timayika magawo athu osalimba kwambiri. Zomwe sizingakhale zokonzedwa mokwanira motero zimatipangitsa kukhala osatetezeka kwambiri, osowa kuzindikira, ndi chikondi chopanda malire, chomwe sitinakhalepo nacho. Timayesetsa kulipira ngongole zomwe takumana nazo m'mbuyomu. Wina sanatikonde mokwanira, adatiuza kuti ndife opanda pake, kuti tiyenera kuchita chilichonse kuti tikonde chikondi. Kusiya, kukanidwa, kutsika, tidawadziwa kale, kenako timadzizunza tokha poganiza kuti titha kusintha zinthu ndi munthuyo. Amatitsogolera kuvutika ndikupirira pachabe kwanthawi yayitali. Timamamatira ku nkhani yodyetsa kukanidwa, kudzikana tokha, kumangidwa ndikudzimva kopanda pake kuti timakondedwa ndi iwo omwe safuna kudziwa za ife, sangathe kapena sangakwanitse. Kuchokera kwa iwo omwe ali ndi zovuta, zovuta, zovuta komabe tikukhulupirira kuti titha kupulumutsa. Kuchokera kwa omwe sapezeka koma tikufuna kuyandikira. Kapenanso timalumphira kuchokera paubwenzi wina ndi mzake popanda kukhala ndi "msonkhano" weniweni. Timakhala "ozolowera" maubwenzi owopsa, odalira m'malingaliro, ngakhale amatipangitsa kumva kuwawa ndikungowonjezera kupweteka m'moyo wathu. Timalowa m'malo otaya mtima, mantha, kusatsimikizika komwe sitingathe kuthawa, ngakhale tikuzindikira kuti ndizosakwaniritsa: sitingachite popanda izi. Chikondi chodziwononga. Chizolowezi chachikondi ndi mawu achingerezi omwe amadziwika ndi izi. Zachidziwikire, nthano yokhudza kukondana, yomwe ndi yofunika kwambiri pachikhalidwe chathu, siyitithandiza. Chifukwa imalimbikitsa maubwenzi owononga komanso osokoneza, monga maubale. Akutsutsa "malamulo" abodza okhudzana ndi chikondi. Kuti kufunafuna chikondi ndiye maziko achimwemwe, mwachitsanzo, kuti kumverera kumakhala kwamuyaya komanso koposa zonse, kuti pali munthu winawake kwa ife yemwe angatimalize, kuti ngati tikana ndikudzipereka tokha winayo asintha, kuti chifukwa chikondi chimalekerera. Nthano makamaka yokhudza azimayi, nthawi zonse amafunsidwa kuti athandizire, kumvetsetsa, kugwirizira. Kukulitsidwa ndi ma archetypes achikazi osavomerezeka, monga azimayi oyamba azimayi omwe amaperekedwa kwa atsikana ang'onoang'ono, mafumu achifumu, omwe amangokhala okongola, amadikirira kuti asankhidwe ndikukonda kalonga wawo mosavomerezeka.
Njira yothawira kutsogoloku komwe kumawoneka kotikhumudwitsa ndiulendo wamkati wopyola mantha, kusowa, zolakwika. Kuti tipeze mphamvu zofunikira zomwe timapatsidwa nthawi zonse, ngakhale sizikuwoneka ngati izo. Chotsani ku lingaliro lofooketsa tokha, kusakhoza kukhala patokha, kusakhala aliyense wopanda mnzake. Ikani munthu wina pambali poganizira ndikuzindikira malingaliro athu ndi zinthu zomwe timabwereza muubwenzi wathu. Timayesetsa kuwona zosokoneza bongo ngati chinthu chomwe chingasinthidwe. Ndipo timakhala ndi nthawi yozindikira anthu omwe amatichitira zabwino komanso amatipangitsa kumva kuti timakondedwa. Tiyenera kugwira ntchito mwakhama kuti tidziwe kukhala tokha ndikupeza njira zaulere zaubwenzi, osati kutimaliza kapena kutipulumutsa koma kukulitsa, kudzipatsa tokha zambiri.

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