Normalà, friends, normalityà: how much we miss normalityà?
I'm not talking about going to the Vasco Rossi concert for which I already hadà tickets, but at least go around without a mask, don't worry about being close to a stranger, don't have to remember to wash your hands so often ...
Thornsà normalityà before? And if yesì, when?
Of course I don't know, but I think we all have to get into'perspective for which we will have to live with this situation for a long time.
The times for the vaccine are long, and once it comesà found there will be long production and distribution times.
In short, it will not beà a matter of a few weeks or months and we all have to enter'optics that will not returnà everything as before and especially not in a few weeks.
And here we come to the two of us, and all'I wait moreù practical of the matter. I believe, in fact, that it is getting closer and closerù the moment to make an important decision: how do you want to live the next 12-24 months of your life?
Many are still confused about what to do, but I would say that the crossroads è così structured: on the one hand c'is who is thinking of following the road the mostù possible safe and secure, going into hibernation and retreating as muchù possible from the world. L'idea behind this reasoning è: I don't want to take the risk of getting sick and / or making the people I love sick.
from'other c'is who does not intend to freeze 1-2 years of their life, or cannotò afford it, ed è ready to go to meet them aware of the possible consequences.
What è right to do? Why? With what precautions? Well, let's go into the details of this crossroads through 5 reflections useful for the discussion.
1. Risk management
L'key element around which we will have to forcibly measure ourselves è our abilityà and desire to cohabit with the risk.
On the one hand, the dimension of the risk I would say is nothing new: life does not è a guaranteed good ed è indeed studded with potential problems.
When you strap your child's seat onto the'car, you drive but you know there is a risk of an accident or a defective part c'is. When you walk on the street you know that there is a risk that someone will hurt you c'is. When you take medicine you know that there are very serious side effect rates. These are risks that we have learned to take, and with which we tend to live peacefully.
Excluding the fact that life is "a deadly sexually transmitted disease", toò, we need to understand whether and to what extent we are willing to add a new risk to our current situation. And hence the next consideration I share in this video, which is that both choices are legitimate.
2. Both choices are legitimate
Compared to the direction to take at this crossroads, there is none a right and a wrong choice a priori, and what one decides must be respected.
É understandable for a 70-year-old grandmother to feel scared of the virus, and I understand that she has no intention of taking risks or doing it as little as possible. IS his life, if he wants to close everything and reopen his eyes at 72, it makes sense.
Cartì how does it make sense that maybe the grandfather would say: eh no, I'm 70 and I really don't want to go into the house... I take the necessary precautions, I face life and I take the associated risks.
In short, I mean that each person must think about their situation and understand what è right to do in light of the phase of life he is going through and the other risks he is facing. L'auspice è let it be one conscious choice and not dictated by'emotion of the moment or from a pathological fear, but from a profound and sensible reflection.
3. There is no easy category to choose
Third reflection è that this è a tough decision for all of us. I don't think there is anyone for whom lose 2 years of life is not important.
If you are single, barricade yourself at home and give up social relationships è a punch in the stomach; if you have 3 children, giving up sending them to school to minimize the risk of contagion means making them lose opportunitiesà of fundamental growth and development; if you are a woman who is thinking of having a child but you are single, you can give up these 2 yearsò to go beyond the limit of motherhoodat…
In conclusion: each stage of life has specific development tasks to complete, and to do so often takes time. If you don't take the risk of contracting Covid, you have to take the risk of failing to fulfill one of these life goals.
4. If you hibernate, use your time well
Fourth reflection, should you opt for the path of hibernation, è a suggestion that comes from my heart: use the time you have available well.
The problem is moreù frequent due to'isolation è to withdraw socially. And social withdrawal is considered by many to be there'antechamber of depression.
If you decide to retire at home you must use your time wisely, otherwise to escape the risk of Covid, you will have to measure yourself with a possibly worse risk.
So how to use the time during the hibernation phase? Work to improve yourself, to get to know yourself moreù deep, to get in touch with your emotions, but above all find a way to keep the relations around you. Without the'other the present loses meaning, and life withers: this è the risk to be avoided in all ways.
5. If you accept the risk, do it carefully
Last point è for those who, like me, will accept to take the risk.
I believe that "winto" who before others will understandà how to live with risk in an intelligent way.
In concrete terms, smeans approach the risk with a cautious attitude, trying as much as possible to reduce and control it, also thanks to theand indications from the authoritiesà healthis. Of course, even in this case you can never be sure of health, becauseé medicine does not è an exact science and life è all buté linear.
Friends, it is clear that I have gone a bit extreme' the alternatives of the crossroads, becauseé is It is also possible to find nuances and middle ways between these two behavioral extremes, but I hope this has served to better understand the pros and cons of the positions.
And you? What do you say? Which of the two paths will you take in the coming months?
See you in the next article.
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