Lying to others is first of all lying to oneself.
Behind a lie there is a world to explore: desires, thoughts, prejudices, values, beliefs, chains and dreams of freedom of those who are lying.
We lie all the time, for example when we introduce ourselves to someone for the first time, we always try to show the best of ourselves and sometimes we “exaggerate” some positive characteristics we have.
So what is lying?
In the dictionary we find this definition: "Verbal alteration or falsification of the truth, pursued with full awareness".
In reality we are so used to lying that it comes to us automatically and we are almost no longer aware of it.
Statistics say we lie ten to one hundred times a day.
From an early age we begin to lie, for example by pretending to cry to get something. At two we learn to simulate and during adolescence we lie to parents once every 5 interactions.
We are so good at lying that we end up deluding ourselves too.
The analysis of lies through the recognition of non-verbal signals allows us to come into contact not only with the other but also with our deepest part.
Becoming aware of this part of us that we often try to hide is important to improve our knowledge of ourselves and to be able to plan our goals in a realistic way so that we can achieve them without "pumping" our qualities.
When we overestimate our personal characteristics and abilities by believing ourselves to be better than we really are, we inevitably end up discovering that we do not live up to our expectations and therefore find ourselves experiencing frustration, sadness and disappointment. The same can happen when we underestimate our qualities and believing that we cannot make it, that we are not "up to par", we do not commit ourselves to improving our lives.
Adherence to reality is the starting point for achieving a satisfying quality of life.
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