Dear friends, we can go around as much as you want but that's the way it isì: Nwill not do somethingà more and moreù quick than doing it.
Let's face it: how many times ti asked to do something and you simply replied: "Sure!". Without thinking anymoreù from so much to the implications that that "certain" carried with sè? Then three days later, you found yourself overwhelmed by your to-do-list stuff to do and you cursed the moment you said that "of course!".
So we want to talk about productivityà? Do we want to do it seriously? Start asking yourself if things you have to do are necessary, becauseé many of them are not, and a simple "no" canò be moreù productive of whatever work even the most person can doù efficient.
Someone might object: if the advantages of saying "No." I'm like thatì obvious, then whyé let's say soì often of "si"?
OK, let's start from here ..
1. Why do we say "Yes"?
We accept many non requests so much becauseé we care about carry them out, but whyé we don't want to be seen as rude, arrogant or useless. You often have to say no to someone you are with you to do again in the future: your colleague, your spouse, your family and your friends.
Saying no to these people canò be particularly difficult becauseé you like, you love them and you would like to support them.
Yet making a commitment that then is not done well or is not done right, not è that improves the relationship in question, and not even our life.
But let's take a step furtherù inside the question eaLet's deepen the meaning of yes and no.
2. The difference between "Yes" and "No"
The words “sì"And "No.", in our way of conversing, they alternate frequently. This it does seemsre that have the same weight, but in realityà they are different not only in meaning, but above all in'entitiesà dell'commitment that è effectively requested.
"No" is a decision. "Yes" is a responsibility.
Obviously you have to take your own responsibilitiesà, but when they are too many you end up ignoring them all.
Pensaci. ORevery time you say yesì to a request X, are you even saying no to anything else could get with il time, which instead you will dedicate to X.
Here it is: to say no today, saves you time future. Say yesì Now, costs you time in the future.
No è a form of temporal credit. Sì is a form of temporal debt. Perché a a certain point they will knock on the door and you will have to repay your commitment.
3. The relationship between saying "No" and power
When on instagram I talk about the'importance of saying no in my daily "Mazzutime", in fact, many write to me "MI can't say no to some people!". IS a bit as if ofking no were seen as a luxury that only who è in power canò afford. Ed è partly true: refuse a'opportunityà is più easy when you canò use energy, money and authorityà. But è also true what to say no not è simply a privilege reserved for those who succeed. È also a strategy that canò help you succeed.
In fact, saying no helps you to preserve the most important asset in life: your time.
And therefore dand say no to thatò is not it is leading you towards your goals, you have to say no to distractions. Steve Jobs this reminded us well when he said that to focus it does not mean say yesì the thing you need to focus on, but say no to the other 100 good ideas that surround you and distract you if you don't get them out.
From this point of view, dire no does not mean that you will never do anything interesting, innovative or spontaneous, but what about sì in a targeted way, like a sniper.
4. Improve your "No"
In time, in fact, when the "success" that you reach begins to matter, you have to update your way of saying NO, becauseé iThe cost of your time increases and then you have to distribute it strategically, to optimize it.
If thell'start enoughva eliminate obvious distractions and discount, now must raise the'rod and then raise continuously the threshold to be able to say yesì.
Here must allora learn to say no to those opportunityà than previously you judged buone, whyé così You can create space to focus only on the TOP projects, the mostù import anti.
To be clear, today I say "Yes" only to the things that when they are described to me an instinctive part "Cwait sì!!". And if it doesn't turn me on, I say no, without too many regrets.
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